nowhereman82 Posted August 27, 2008 Share Posted August 27, 2008 Anyone care to share their personal story of adjusting to and being happy with being single after a LTR/Divorce? I know there isn't an answer to how to be happy BUT like the other sections of the forum it's useful for people to read other peoples stories for perspective. Note to responders: Keep it about being single and not about your ex. Link to post Share on other sites
tranceguy Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 Was very hard at first, the routines you had day in and day out suddenly changed. Out of sight, out of mind, never had a phrase been so true. 6 months of not seeing her really did it for me. I started hanging out with an old friend from high school again, met several women. I truly recovered when thinking of her brought up no emotions what so ever. Link to post Share on other sites
lovestruck818 Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 It's hard. I just broke up with my boyfriend a week ago...and while not yet over him, for me the best way to "heal" and move on is to try & start dating again...as well as spend as much time possible with friends and family, so that I am constantly busy and not sitting home in my house feeling sorry for myself. I have a date tonight. If this works out for the best, then I am ready to accept and go with it. B/c, for me, another relationship is what I need. You may have a different approach. Some people want to be alone a while and some want to jump right back into the game. I wish you all the best. Link to post Share on other sites
axisdenied Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 Hi. I've been single for six years, happily so for five. For me finding my way to contentment after my last break-up was a long process of forcing myself to learn from the experience. At some point you have to come to terms with the fact that you aren't in a relationship anymore because, ultimately, you didn't want to be there anymore. It took about 3 months to get used to not having the other person around. Then it took a few years to understand what went wrong, why it never would have worked and, most importantly, what the experience highlighted in my personal code of values/ethics/core beliefs about relationships of that nature. So now understanding what's important and what isn't in those situations I am free to continue onward with my personal goals since I'm not wasting my time blindly looking for an ill-defined "missing piece." If a rare individual who resonates with my values shows up, great. If not, that's okay too. For the time being I've got better things to do than actively seek it out. Peace, A Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 I've never had to adjust anything! Single life is all I know Link to post Share on other sites
ahsumgurl909 Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 And remained single for 3 years. When i was single I loved it. I didnt even date. I just lived life without any drama. Relationships seem to equal drama and I can't stand it. I'm single now and I date now and then, a couple of the guys I been dating want to be exclusive and I just don't want that right now. Enjoy your freedom for awhile you will soon learn to appreciate it. Link to post Share on other sites
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