sports1 Posted August 12, 2003 Share Posted August 12, 2003 say a guy/girl used to be shy yet isn't that much anymore where their able to talk to friends of course and to total strangers..could it be possible though for that shyness to come back again when coming to liking a guy/girl?? Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted August 12, 2003 Share Posted August 12, 2003 OH YES! Especially if some romantic feelings develop! Link to post Share on other sites
longlegzs80 Posted August 12, 2003 Share Posted August 12, 2003 I know with myself that I consider myself shy, but can talk to people, friends whatever. Anyways, when it comes to me liking a guy, I would have to say, I am really shy, and that is why I miss out on great opportunities, because I don't talk to guys because I am too shy at that point. Now, I am normally a shy person, but will speak to people. But when it comes to a guy that I am CRUNCHING on then the shyness is definitly there and stronger then ever. Did you write this tread because your talking about yourself or are you just curious? Take care and hope it helps. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sports1 Posted August 12, 2003 Author Share Posted August 12, 2003 why I asked because this might be the case with a girl I like but don't know for sure. what are some signs to look for?? could avoidance possibly be one sign?? plus even after talking online for example for many months and times in person.... is it possible for the person to continue being shy though because of being so nervous or whatever? Link to post Share on other sites
longlegzs80 Posted August 12, 2003 Share Posted August 12, 2003 It is hard to say. Avoidence might be a sign of shyness, but I think if your attracted to that person, you would want to be around where they are at or whatever it is. Not so much avoid them all together because that might hint to the other person that they are not attracted to you. Shyness is a difficult thing, and if you are wanting to get to know someone who is shy or is shy yourself, you have to break out of the comfort zone and don't do anything to avoid the person. That is a clear sign that you might not be interested when really you are and just are nervous to be around that person. I hope all this makes sense. But, if you are shy and your lady friend is shy or vica versa, it can be a pretty lonely life if you don't come out of that comfort zone and do things that don't feel comfortable to you but something that you might have to consider doing. Anyways, it is really a tough battle. I strongly think and with being shy myself that people don't understand us. People might assume that with us being shy avoiding someone that we are attracted to can be considered not interested. So, avoidence I would say is not something you want to do. Make it a habit to come out of your shell and approach whoever your attracted to and introduce yourself. Sure it is hard, but you will make yourself be known to the person and you won't feel like you have missed a good opportunity. Not sure if that made sense but hope all this kinda comes together for you. As far as other signs of shyness is looking down, quiet, blushes easily(this one is me totally), nevousness, little amount of communication. There is so many things, and I can be wrong with some of this. This is something you want to break though. Being shy can lead you to a life of lonelyness if you avoid people that your attracted to, avoid situations with people or just avoid people in general. Break out of the cycle. Hope this helps. Take care. Link to post Share on other sites
cliche_boy Posted August 13, 2003 Share Posted August 13, 2003 scientificly speaking- a shy person is always shy for the rest of their life. A study was just recently done on it where they discovered in a shy person a part of the brain is a liltle bit bigger than most and its reaction to strangers is stronger than most people. It may seem as if you are less shy, usually after just comming out of high school where every one is suppressed due to the abnormal social environment but you "level of shyness", if i can put it that way, is more realistic now. Link to post Share on other sites
BlockHead Posted August 14, 2003 Share Posted August 14, 2003 Personally, I believe that shy people are generally introverted. The extraverted side of themselves may be underdeveloped and childlike in nature. I don't think it is really possible to take the shyness out of a person. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sports1 Posted August 14, 2003 Author Share Posted August 14, 2003 need more opinions then if its shyness because of liking...well I told this girl that I liked her awhile back because of mixed signals plus with this girl leaving soon for college which is real soon now. I know its pointless now but always that thought in mind ya know? well online I did this which I wanted to do in person but for reasons.. well she told me that she wanted the summer to spend with friends not knowing when they'd see each other again which I understand completely and also said maybe she shouldn't start anything because of that reason and maybe keep things how they are..so is that more like a maybe sometime down the road comment or just an easier way to blow me off where she could've though said she just thought of me as a friend or someother comment to make it more 100% not interested. Well now when I see her in person ( i work with her) she'll look at me when we walk past each other with a serious look or other times she'll look in a different direction..just seems uncomfortable around me..where say i'm standing somewhere alone..its hard for her to stand near me where she has to run off and do whatever. I've been talking to her still online some and she'll respond back in less than a minute alot but I do most of the talking yet she'll respond with an open answer good amount of time. you'd think then if I was bugging her at all or she didnt' want to talk she'd either block me or take forever to respond....do you consider this that she likes me but because of reasons she's avoiding to save her feelings so it won't hurt anymore or whatever? Link to post Share on other sites
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