Ross PK Posted December 13, 2008 Share Posted December 13, 2008 Ross PK you remind me of a poster who used to post here good observations Hey KMT, I remember you. Link to post Share on other sites
Joyvke Posted December 14, 2008 Share Posted December 14, 2008 Seems my post got deleted for some reason. Anyway, don't think it's a hurdle. If the girl is understandable she will tell you what she likes and dislikes. Don't go the hookers is what I'd say at least. Just be honest with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Shnuggles Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 Its a big hurdle. I started a little late (about 21-22 I think) and then focused on my career more then relationships. Even bigger mistake in my opinion. So... Heres why: Most young people have their sexual, crazy fun during and after the school years. Girls are much easier to pick up and even easier to find Miss Right for the future. If you leave it too long (say, closer to your 30's) people start to settle down. Girls get married, fatter, have kids and become harder to catch as they are looking to settle down with Mr Right. If you have education, look after yourself health wise, want kids and a real gentleman then you may not have much to worry about. This advice may make a few people angry, upset or annoyed but personally I think you should pay for your first time. I never did it but I know about 6 people who have. None regret it and the education they got was worth the money. Plus, you will get to choose Miss Sexy, just make sure its a clean place with a good reputation. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross PK Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 Its a big hurdle. I started a little late (about 21-22 I think) and then focused on my career more then relationships. Even bigger mistake in my opinion. So... Heres why: Most young people have their sexual, crazy fun during and after the school years. Girls are much easier to pick up and even easier to find Miss Right for the future. If you leave it too long (say, closer to your 30's) people start to settle down. Girls get married, fatter, have kids and become harder to catch as they are looking to settle down with Mr Right. If you have education, look after yourself health wise, want kids and a real gentleman then you may not have much to worry about. This advice may make a few people angry, upset or annoyed but personally I think you should pay for your first time. I never did it but I know about 6 people who have. None regret it and the education they got was worth the money. Plus, you will get to choose Miss Sexy, just make sure its a clean place with a good reputation. Around what ages were these 6 people? Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 Its a big hurdle. I started a little late (about 21-22 I think) and then focused on my career more then relationships. Even bigger mistake in my opinion. So... Heres why: Most young people have their sexual, crazy fun during and after the school years. Girls are much easier to pick up and even easier to find Miss Right for the future. If you leave it too long (say, closer to your 30's) people start to settle down. Girls get married, fatter, have kids and become harder to catch as they are looking to settle down with Mr Right. If you have education, look after yourself health wise, want kids and a real gentleman then you may not have much to worry about. This advice may make a few people angry, upset or annoyed but personally I think you should pay for your first time. I never did it but I know about 6 people who have. None regret it and the education they got was worth the money. Plus, you will get to choose Miss Sexy, just make sure its a clean place with a good reputation. its more of an observation then advice. But if your the combination of sucsessful and physicaly attractive girls will probably be easier to get at 40 then when you were 20. 25 year old virgin in itself isn't a hurdle. The fact is 25 year old virgin is most likely a symptom of other things that will be a hurdle Link to post Share on other sites
Shnuggles Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 Around what ages were these 6 people? All fresh out of school and 18yo. However some people arnt comfortable paying for sex and thats fine (like me). But it is an option to think about. It can really up your confidence when it comes to asking a girl out for the first time. Link to post Share on other sites
BobSacamento Posted December 21, 2008 Share Posted December 21, 2008 I think most people fail to realize is that this guy isn't interested in how to lose it but whether it can be a strong attribute. So really all the guys giving advice seems a bit odd to me, it's like you want to witness his deflowering or something. Link to post Share on other sites
Sw3etdev1L Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 well....I lost my virginity to a 29 year old man who have had experience before, and he sucked in bed because he was very fan of alcohol, and had smoken pot in his most youthful days so...... He really sucked!!! and I am telling you, he has been my one and only, but.... He blew it. If you are still a virgin but you are healthy, then you don't have to worry about it. We women don't care about men's being virgin or not...nice women are patient, I mean...just imagine...my ex had problems with pre ejaculation!, and I really thought he was nice so I didn't say anything...really!, I tried...but then I really said he should go to see a doctor. He got mad, but anyways.....if I standed a guy 29, that way then for sure a nice lady will be able to understand you..and plus if you are good looking and stuff, I mean... sex is part of life...everybody have been virgins once in their lives. Link to post Share on other sites
Phateless Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 I'm 25 years old, male, and a virgin. I'm above-average looking, and have had a serious girlfriend, but I've never had sex. (My last girlfriend had some serious sexual hangups, due to her conservative upbringing as well as past abuse.) This is obviously unusual for a guy of my age, especially when the guy is attractive, socially normal, and has no religious objections to sex. My question: is this a huge disadvantage, or can I play it as a strong point? What types of women react positively to mid-20s virgins, and what types react negatively? If you can PM me I can help. Link to post Share on other sites
Sw3etdev1L Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 AND PLEEEASE, don't listen at mr shruggles or whatever!!! I am a girl of 24 I know what I am talking about. And besides...there's a lot good girls who are open for sex nowadays...You don't need to lose yourself with a b´tc..or a prostitute...if you are clean, keep yourself clean and worry about stds....there's a lot of cute young girls who want a cute young boy like you to just have fun!, like me..but I dont live in your country so.... I am so sorry hehe...besides, I already told you my dark secret, it wouldn't be fair or normal so....take your time, nobody really cares. If you are nice, innocent and stuff, keep that way....Being a virgin is just a standard made up from social ways of thinking and people creating dogmas and religion...sex is healthy and good if you do it when you want it with who you want...we women are nice, a lot of us...someone will make you feel confident about yourself. DON?T WORRY!!! JUST do it. when the time feels right...it doesn't matter if you would be a virgin at 26 27....I mean....the world is populated not because people are hiding themselves in their wholes right? Link to post Share on other sites
Phateless Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 Don't fixate on losing your virginity but you should work hard on meeting girls. Link to post Share on other sites
Throne Of Lies Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 IAWTAP. Don't sweat it. I recently lost mine. I'm 23. And it was a HUGE card... Lots of girls are into it. LOTS of really hot girls. Everything from sluts to nice little Catholic girls will want to jump your bones if you sort of string it out. Don't use it as a pickup line (although you can if you really are hot, it works that way too, I did a few times, with mediocre but funny results). So don't worry about loosing it, that is actually pretty easy. Really you should concern yourself with your own ideology. You are sure you are OK with this? Do you want to just throw it away on some hood rat? That is fine- you are a man, and for better or worse, that is something you can do with little societal stigma. So step back and think about how you want to conduct the sexual part of your life. I had the opportunity to become a sexual beast and lay lots of women (I have a lifestyle that is very attractive to women). However, I decided that I really just wanted sex in relationships, so I set up a nice one, with another early-20s virgin, and we fell in love, then after a while had sex and took each others v-cards. It was nice. I would recommend it as a path. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
thegoodlife Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 I personally find it extremely attractive. Link to post Share on other sites
Sw3etdev1L Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 Kewl! Maybe I'll be lucky enough to get prostate cancer and it will spread to my bones and I'll croak! well, actually...you can search for the reasons why men have prostate cancer, and none of them will tell you it is because people have sex. actually, I've been in the section of cancer in hospitals!,, because I am studying something related to medicine, and there is no reason why you should say that... I think you are misinterpreting some factors here and maybe you are fearing something because you lived something like that with a family member or are afraid of getting that particular disease...but actually...lots of men who have cancer in their members, how much they would like to be sexually active now without having that tumor there... I mean...if that's your reason, then I think you are afraid of living. If it is spiritual , I mean 41....have you ever been in love? I ain't gonna judge but...maybe if you are very christian or , religious in some way and you have certain dogmas, you might be just prejudicial about the whole sex subject because since you were a child, you've been brainwashed or something... I am just talking bull-.-cause I don't know you but I am just supposing things...but, seriously... One day, try it.. stop being insecure about it.. I've had some files in the hospital of women or men who never had sex because they had something in their minds interphering with their hability to handle that and...seriously.........it's part of our nature. If you do it being responsable, with someone you trust..a friend..I cannot see something wrong in there.. as long as you are feeling ok with yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
griffinchicken53 Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 i had sex for the first time when i was around 21. first and only time actually. that was 8 years ago. I regret it now, but had i not had sex i might would have gone insane by now. I didn't enjoy it cuz there was no attraction, just some girl i met. I'm an odd guy, i read the articles in maxim. some of what i've read, women talk about lack of sexual experience as a good thing. If a guy isn't good then she has to "unlearn" him of his bad habits and retrain him on how to be good. you are a blank slate, she can teach you exactly what you got to do to please her. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 I wouldn't want the undertaking of breaking a dude in at this stage of my life... but that is because I am in my 30's. I want experience and don't want to train anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
griffinchicken53 Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 didn't think about it from that viewpoint. Link to post Share on other sites
ABrokenWing Posted January 22, 2009 Share Posted January 22, 2009 Hurdle. I think only a very small percentage of women would actually find it attractive or a turn on that a guy in his mid 20's or over is still a virgin. The rest would find it a turn off as it's classed as quite strange. Even if they were in their early 30's? sure. if they are good looking in my eyes, and told me they were a virgin, for whatever reason, beit, religion, shyness, just never happened, etc....that would be a big turnon for me. Of course, this also comes from a 30 yr old virgin. Link to post Share on other sites
Mag-Lone-Freak Posted January 23, 2009 Share Posted January 23, 2009 yup, women into YOU won't care... Link to post Share on other sites
OtherSide Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 and they won't have to worry about getting pregnant either because every one knows you cant get pregnant on your first time... but that might only be if its the girls first time what! of course you can! They teach it in every health class! Link to post Share on other sites
Mag-Lone-Freak Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 Whoa, female here. I know several guys your age who are / recently were virgins, for similar reasons (i.e. they were in multi-year relationships with girls who for religious or other reasons didn't want to have bona-fide intercourse). Honestly, I really doubt it matters to most women, or if anything, it's a plus, because you're assumed to be one of those guys who 'places meaning' on sex and hasn't been whoring around for the past decade. Guys think that women want them to have tons of experience, but that's not necessarily true. For most of my female friends, the lower the guy's 'number', the better, because 1. lower risk of STDs 2. the guy is less likely to be a man-whore who just wants sex 3. generally less 'icky' feeling. Speaking for myself, I'd just be grossed out by a guy who's slept with tons of women. And don't worry about the quality too much. A female friend of mine 'deflowered' a guy in his mid-twenties, said it was among the best sex she's ever had. She was also happy at the time that he hadn't had sex - thought it meant he was a 'moral' person - but of course right after that he left her to go out and play the field I like this post and do agree! Link to post Share on other sites
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