Soon to maybe go into a LDR

[DavidO]

Hello everyone I would like to introduce myself since its my first post and thank before hand to anyone that decides to take their time to read my post.

 

My name is David and as the title of my post says I will be experiencing a LDR by the 19th of September. Its hard for me to explain how I'm feeling perhaps I just needed to vent or to write out how I felt but none the less my story goes like this. Around three months ago I broke up with my GF we had been together for around four years, the break up wasn't mutual, it took me a long time to consider but even though I invested into that relationship so much time I didn't think it was worth all the troubles that kept repeating over and over. Around the same period one of my best friends asked me if i could take her friend to prom ( me being a sophomore in college) so I decided to go with it so we went to prom and afterprom, we got along just fine even though we really didnt know each other. We kept talking on aim, which led to "hanging out" playing pool , going on hikes and walking dowtown. After a couple dates we talked and I was unsure because I was surely falling for her, we get along great and we share almost the same taste. I was unsure of taking the next step to gf and bf status since I knew she was going away to college UCSC (this all happened in the beggining of may) I didnt know if it was a good idea, it sounded more like just a short summer romance , but we gave it a go. We were incredibly happy for the first days till massive drama unfolded ,the friend that we shared that "hooked " us up for prom which was our best friend stopped talking to both of us , she pretty much lost around 4 childhood friends that would not talk to her after she started dating me. I felt horrible for causing the problem indirectly , we never found out why they stopped talking to us ( the only thing we know is it all happened once we changed our facebook status). We have gone through a lot together in the last 3 months and now that its getting closer for her departure day I fear that I've grown really attached to her, to me it feels we've been together longer than just 3 months and I really can't stand that she will be leaving in 19 days. I've been trying to enjoy the days we spend together to the last second, but I cant stop thinking of her leaving. It may sound silly but I think im falling in love with her and the fact that she is going to be 5 hours away from me, being a freshman and getting the "college experience" makes me want to go out and scream or cry or who knows what because it feels that I might loose her and I just dont want to. We really havent brought up the idea of the LDR, but we have given each other hints that we do want to stay together. She has even told me that she could transfer to my school and stay home but I dont know to me it seems kinda selfish for her to make that sacrifice for me and dont get me wrong I would love for her to transfer to my school but at the same time it feels Im kinda keeping her away from achieving her plans or something . I have never been involved in a LDR and most of my friends tell me that I shouldnt, that its a waste of time, that she will get "the college experience" find other guys and experiment and that i shouldnt invest in the relationship. All of this confuses me and makes me sad. I really dont know whats going to happen . Im a biochemistry / pre-med student and Im going to be busy doing research and working at the hospital during the weekends and Im not sure how much time I m going to have available to drive and see her. Im pretty sure she will be busy as well making new friends. I really dont want to loose her. What should I tell her? whats the best time to bring it up? how do people deal with the physical interaction or whats a substitute to it? I think I feel better after typing all this out. Thanks for taking the time to read my post.