...A little embarrassed to ask this...my BF and boobs...

[Mahatma]

What do you think about the way that I feel? Should I just try to get over it?

 

 

Well I think it is very clear that you need to just post a picture of your boobs so we can critique them.

 

...seriously though, quit worrying about stupid things like boob size. If the guy does not realize that the majority of his time should be spent looking at your face, then who cares?

[seminoles84]

I love all sizes!! I'll date you!

[Jilly Bean]

X - unless you have been wearing burlap sacks for your entire relationship, then I am sure your BF is well aware of your boob size.

 

HOWEVER, he sounds terribly immature, insensitive, and honestly, a bit of a dick.

 

I don't think it's a situation of you being insecure, but more about him trying to make you feel that way. Which is way wrong.

[djhall]

Do you mean me not having big boobs will be a reoccuring issue for him? I want to send him a website of guys with huge dicks, but I won't...

 

Well, lets say for the sake of argument that you really do have a thing for guys with huge dicks, but you really think this guy could be the one for you and his isn't as large as you would prefer if you could chose his size.

 

If this really isn't going to be a problem for you, you are sensitive to how your actions affect your partner, you care about your partner's feelings, and you are in control of yourself, what are you going to do? Are you going to keep bringing it up in front of him? No. Why? Because you know it would make him feel insecure and there is nothing he can do about it.

 

The only way you are going to keep bringing it up in front of him is if you are insensitive and don't think about how what you do affects others, if you just don't care enough to stop, or if you are obsessed or have no impulse control to stop yourself.

 

Now, if it really is going to be a problem for you, you might say or even think it isn't, but because it is always on your mind anyway, you end up bringing it up in front of your partner despite knowing you really shouldn't. Or perhaps you know it is going to be a problem, so even though you say it isn't you keep bringing it up so you know that you didn't hide it and she has fair warning if it becomes a problem down the road.

 

Whatever the actual reason, I can't think of any scenario in which this could be a good sign, very little potential for it to be neutral, and a lot of ways this could be bad. The real question is, do you want to try to look at it objectively and accept that this is likely to be a red flag for a problem developing in your relationship, or do you want to find any way you can to explain why it doesn't mean what you're pretty sure it means. After all, you are here pursuing the subject actively, which I think means you know this is probably a bad sign and are really hoping someone will talk you out of it.

 

Please forgive me if I sound overly blunt or negative. I just hate looking back years later and saying, I guess I always knew this was going to be a problem, I just thought... In almost every bad relationship I or my friends have had, the warning signs were there, but for one reason or other explained away until they were just too bad to deny any more.

[Trialbyfire]

Forget the drama. Just tell him you're not interested in seeing sites full of big-breasted women or hearing about them. Case closed.

 

If he reacts negatively, that's his problem, not yours.

 

Don't you ever draw a line with any of your dates?

[MN randomguy]

Well, I have been feeling really insecure about it...I was just wondering if other people thought maybe there was a problem.

 

 

My take, I read your first post and the last 10 or so, Sorry, busy.

 

But, It sounds like you're a slender college girl w/B cup boobs. Most men in the world would be interested in that.

 

This guy sounds like a douche bag though. Are you putting out for him because you're insecure? Just a thought.

[rod_in_gtown]

Is it because of that, or is it because you have found some cool new chicks (Tomcat/Lishy) :laugh:

OMG, somebody is going to butcher me to death! I'm kidding guys, okay???

 

Haaaahaha! :lmao:

 

Well, Lishy left me with blue balls (the infamous big ben incident) and tomcat wouldn't stand my speedo.

 

So, no, it's not other chicks, is the fact that you're unwilling to have sex 7 times a day that I find appaling!!

 

[XxBacktoBlackXx]

Don't you ever draw a line with any of your dates? [/Quote]

 

I try to but it is something I am very bad at doing...Thanks for all of the advice. =)

[CaliGuy]

I try to but it is something I am very bad at doing...Thanks for all of the advice. =)

 

Read: "Boundaries" - Cloud and Townsend. It will do you a lot of good.

[kizik]

B2B,

 

you're beautiful, and your boyfriend is an idiot. I'm honestly a little mad that someone as smart as yourself is subjecting yourself to such mediocrity.

[Dirk Diggler]

I have been dating my BF for a month and a week (around there). I am really developing strong feelings for him! I know this is a really silly question...basically, my BF has this thing for really big breasts. I know that's not abnormal. He always talks about how this or that girl is "too flat". Well, I do not have big boobs. I am about a 34 B or 36 B depending...and have lost a lot of weight recently (not on purpose) because these past couple of months I was stressed. Anyway, I am wondering if my BF is not attracted to me because of my boobs because he seems to think that everyone that is not a C or D cup is extremely flat. He has shown me porn sites he looks at and all of them are boob sites it seems. I am starting to feel a little bit weird about this...not that he likes them, but that I am not big enough for him. Is this a weird question? I guess I am feeling really insecure.

 

What's up with you picking men who demoralize you? I remember reading about your last boyfriend saying your pussy was pretty rank and running you down. For god's sake get a backbone with such people, not screw them 7 times a day unless they are well worth the investment.

[Trialbyfire]

One more line to draw b2b. Don't sleep with or invest in someone you're too shy or afraid to talk to, about anything and everything.

[You'reasian]

I have been dating my BF for a month and a week (around there). I am really developing strong feelings for him! I know this is a really silly question...basically, my BF has this thing for really big breasts. I know that's not abnormal. He always talks about how this or that girl is "too flat". Well, I do not have big boobs. I am about a 34 B or 36 B depending...and have lost a lot of weight recently (not on purpose) because these past couple of months I was stressed. Anyway, I am wondering if my BF is not attracted to me because of my boobs because he seems to think that everyone that is not a C or D cup is extremely flat. He has shown me porn sites he looks at and all of them are boob sites it seems. I am starting to feel a little bit weird about this...not that he likes them, but that I am not big enough for him. Is this a weird question? I guess I am feeling really insecure.

 

BtB,

 

Boob size to me is not an issue. Guys will generally notice larger breasts (as women will generally notice say a larger bulge from their dude) but in the final analysis a man will like you for the total package - your eyes, hair, smile, hips, legs and boobs - what keeps him is your wit, intelligence, kindness, energy, resiliency etc.

 

Well, that's coming from me. I can't speak for all guys.

 

If he makes you uncomfortable, you need to communicate to him about this issue. If he denies this, then you need to realize there's a problem.

 

Your picture looks attractive - I wish you the best of luck!

 

YA