Tomcat33 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I think she fixed her problem when she said that they had sex 7 times today. I saw the same thing. Link to post Share on other sites
GPFan Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 He always talks about how this or that girl is "too flat". Well, I do not have big boobs. I am about a 34 B or 36 B depending...and have lost a lot of weight recently (not on purpose) because these past couple of months I was stressed. Anyway, I am wondering if my BF is not attracted to me because of my boobs because he seems to think that everyone that is not a C or D cup is extremely flat. If you step back and look at this objectively, I think you will agree something is going on with him. Once or twice is one thing but when a person continually stresses an aspect, situation or circumstance - they are communicating. Unfortunately there is a subset of men who believe, consciously or subconsciously, that the only way to keep a woman 'in line,' faithful and focused on him is to damage her self-assessment and self-esteem. Keep a wary eye on this aspect of his behaviour. Note if he does it more when he feels less secure himself. I wish you well and hope your relationship is a successful one. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 yet again I knew best, 7 times no problem there... Link to post Share on other sites
motive2002 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I think a singular fixation of any type is unhealthy. I can appreciate, and am attracted to the wonderful, full lips on Angelina Jolie for example, but I wouldn't think any less of my girlfriend if her lips were thin. I doubt any one person could have every aesthetically pleasing feature that another person liked. People are so unique, and building an "ideal" based on physical characteristics is totally unrealistic. Link to post Share on other sites
Balthazar Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 We had sex 7 times today...I guess things are going well then... 7 times?! You better make sure you hold on to this guy! 7 times would have been your weekly quota with other dudes. CHeers, Link to post Share on other sites
Vertex Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 If you look anything like you do in your avatar, I'd be 7-times-a-day'ing it too. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Unfortunately there is a subset of men who believe, consciously or subconsciously, that the only way to keep a woman 'in line,' faithful and focused on him is to damage her self-assessment and self-esteem. This is a distressing comment - probably because it sounds so plausible... Link to post Share on other sites
smiley23 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Wooowww 7 times go you, no wonder you have a great body great to get in shape, now where is my 7 times a day man :-) Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 To the OP, no it's not weird to have those sort of questions and feel somewhat insecure about it. Especially when the man you care about is making such comments. I don't know if most men even realize that boobs are fat. Most thin women don't have hugely disportionate boobs, such as has become the media standard of beauty. His comments are insensitive. No one here is going to be able to tell if he is attracted to you or not because of your small boobs. The truth is that you deserve to be with a man that loves you and your boobs. You need to talk about what is bothering you and how his comments make you feel about your body. It seems like he is treating you more like his frat brothers then his girlfriend. In all honesty, if us women went around looking at images of men with super huge penises and held that to some fantasy standard, used that to become aroused and so on, I think ALOT of men would have their own fair share of questions. Men are already insecure about their penis side without women doing these type of things. It would be nice if men appreicated our bodies for what they are instead of wishing they were some porno fantasy that isn't and never will be real, even with surgery. But most men don't really care about that overly much as long as they can have porn. Link to post Share on other sites
Balthazar Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Actually boobs are a combination of fat and glandular tissue. The really fine sets have a higher proportion of glandular tissue and less fat. Said pairs are less susceptible to weight loss, which is why you see some really thin girls with big ones. An overweight woman may have large breasts, but a lot of it may be fat, which will be lost if she loses weight. Breasts with more glandular tissue are also perkier and are more apt to defy gravity with the advancing years. They are also more pleasing to the touch and produce copious amounts of milk, ensuring survival of our young. CHeers, Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 How do you know that? Booble.com? Regardless, we all know boobs come in different shapes and sizes and firmness. Most women don't naturally have huge boobs if they have petite thin builds. I said *most* not all. And regardless, huge boobs on tiny frames is a porn fantasy. Link to post Share on other sites
nicki Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I agree! Why don't you (innocently) show him a porn site that shows Asian men with large penises? They usually have small ones, right, like the Asian women usually have small boobs? He's insensitive. Having sex 7 times a day also sounds like a red flag. Sexual addiction? Given his personality and behavior, it's a possibility. If he is substituting sex for a real emotional bond or for talking to you, watch out. I still smell a rat here, but only you can really know. Just watch and wait. He won't be able to hide his real self for long. In fact, he might even be showing it to you now. Link to post Share on other sites
Balthazar Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I need to add that big or small, I have rarely seen a pair I didn't like. Link to post Share on other sites
Shygirl15 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I agree! He's insensitive. Having sex 7 times a day also sounds like a red flag. Sexual addiction? Given his personality and behavior, it's a possibility. Agree. I love sex, but 7 times a day?? Uh, I don't think so.. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Having sex multiple times a day within a new relationship isn't a red flag. It's drive and youth. Sometimes it's strictly drive! b2b, men aren't as critical as you're being about yourself. In this and the last relationship, you obsessed about something that was in essence, meaningless within the big picture of why they're with you. Shut down those insecure thoughts, woman! Link to post Share on other sites
Mahatma Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 You should slip in a little something along the lines of: "Gah, I'm so sick of guys with penises shorter than 8 inches. Anything under that is basically worthless, you know?" Link to post Share on other sites
Author XxBacktoBlackXx Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 HAHAHA! I just wanted to update on the situation. Well, nothing has really happened and I agree with you TrialByFire...I need to stop being so insecure! I am trying very hard and have been reading the book "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne which has really helped me. Anyway, last night I spent the night at my BF's house. We were laying in bed and chatting. I know that I talk in my sleep as I have been told this several times. The other day I was told that I said something like, "I need to get some autographs". He told me that the other night, I said in my sleep "Got enough tits??" really sarcastically and then grabbed his cock. HAHA!!! I am about dying laughing!! :lmao::lmao: I didn't respond at all. HAHAHA! Link to post Share on other sites
rod_in_gtown Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Agree. I love sex, but 7 times a day?? Uh, I don't think so.. Whaaat? we're so over! Link to post Share on other sites
Author XxBacktoBlackXx Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 Ugh, for whatever reason this boob thing keeps coming up. I am trying not to be insecure about it but today it was brought up again...and I am so shy that I have a problem communicating that it makes me feel uncomfortable...I am so bad about speaking up. Today, he sent me a link to a website of this chic he and his best friend used to watch...she had freaking huge boobs. He said his favorite was when she ran up the stairs. But then he was talking about how big of a deal boobs are when you're 17 and then it gets to be less of a deal... I don't know if it's me being insecure or if it's just that it really is rude to be making these comments and sending me these links. I feel so stupid because I am very bad about communicating my problems. I think I will just casually say that I don't appreciate it...? Link to post Share on other sites
Author XxBacktoBlackXx Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 What do you think about the way that I feel? Should I just try to get over it? Link to post Share on other sites
djhall Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 What do you think about the way that I feel? Should I just try to get over it? I still think this guy has to be either totally insensitive to how what he says and does affects you, or there is some reason he wants to make absolutely sure up front that you know this is going to be an issue for him (even if he isn't aware he is doing it). Link to post Share on other sites
Author XxBacktoBlackXx Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 Do you mean me not having big boobs will be a reoccuring issue for him? I want to send him a website of guys with huge dicks, but I won't...I also know that people like what they like and I'm not trying to change that. Sometimes I just get really down on myself and I come here when I have problems within my relationships...I feel like I do not want to bring this up because it will make me seem like a freak. I don't know. I appreciate your advice. I am trying to correct the mistakes from my previous relationship during which I felt really insecure so I am considering not bringing anything up and just trying to feel better about myself...maybe I should start meditating. I have a bad habit of tearing myself down and being really sensitive...last relationship I let comments really effect me. I wish I could change myself...I am really trying hard to learn how to let things go and just live. Link to post Share on other sites
spookie Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 I know I'm a girl so probably I don't get it, but I never understood the appeal of really big boobs. I've been a 34B my whole life and was alarmed when I went bra-shopping the other day and the C's fit me better. In my mind, big boobs get bigger when you're pregnant and saggy soon thereafter, so I (and all the men who've seen them btw) have always appreciated mine. They're not even big but I wouldn't mind them smaller. Your boyfriend does as well, I'm sure. Remember, he's with you. And that sometimes what we look at in porn isn't what we want IRL. His comments about other girls' flatness are pretty classless, though. Though I do understand the concept of context, and that maybe things are not what they seem. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 What do you think about the way that I feel? Should I just try to get over it? Well let's put it this way do his comment affect you sexually I mean does it inhibit you sexually with him? Or is it something that you only think about on your own. What do you feel is the biggest reprocution of these comments in terms of how they affect you? Link to post Share on other sites
Shygirl15 Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 Whaaat? we're so over! Is it because of that, or is it because you have found some cool new chicks (Tomcat/Lishy) :laugh: OMG, somebody is going to butcher me to death! I'm kidding guys, okay??? Link to post Share on other sites
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