Quinch Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Do you have any ex-girlfriends/ex-boyfriends that you would go back to if you could or are you glad that they all ended? If you're in a relationshhip, imagine that you aren't and are totally free to have a second chance with anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 None that I can think of. They are ex's for a reason. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Yes I would like another chance with someone from over 20 years ago. I can't even think about it because to this day it still hurts too much. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 only one person ever merited that second chance, and I ended up marrying him however, I tend to think that exes are exes for a reason, DH was the exception because of the caliber person he is and because our relationship seemed to go in fits and starts due to external circumstances, not because the caring wasn't there. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I would not go back with any of my ex's. I only have one other ex as an adult and he was a total loser. I would never go back with him EVER. Link to post Share on other sites
flc Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 My ex wife, never. Some ex gf maybe if things had changed to the point that they were different than the reason for the breakup. While I don't think people can change their habits and personalities much sometime people do mature in their life outlook. So if that was the issue I would be willing to give it second chance. Link to post Share on other sites
pandagirl Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 There are some people that I am still fond of, but knowing myself, I could never fully trust the person after a break up. My heart doesn't really repair itself that way. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 There is only one guy I still have residual feelings for to this day. We dated for a couple months quite some time ago- and for some reason, I still think of him and feel a fondness for him. We were dating long distance (2 hours drive)- and it made it impossible to get too serious- even though we both liked one another. He met someone local, and we had a long talk and he revealed he was going to give it a go with her... They are still together. He is the one guy- that if he were to contact me again that I would consider giving it a second go. Link to post Share on other sites
0hpenelope Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 :sigh: Yes, I would love a second chance. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I've been given and I have given second chances. From my experiences, second chances have not worked. Who knows what will have 20 years from now. Link to post Share on other sites
ed-205 Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 Only one, but last I heard of her, she turned gay.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Quinch Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 Two answer my own question: there is one girl I briefly dated a few years ago but we broke up too soon because she wasn't ready. There were a few differences between us (she wanted children and I didn't) but I would like to go back and see if it could have worked out. Link to post Share on other sites
4givrnt4gtr Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 I used to think I did with one ex but then after some time and after I met my current boyfriend I can honestly say I wouldn't want him back. You will always want someone you had until you find someone who will make you realize they werent all that special, compared to who you just found. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 Of the only one I gave the second chance to, the same issues arose the second time, regardless of what was said. Overall, I'm glad that they all ended. If things were compatible with any of them, I would still be with them now. Generally, most relationships end due to assorted core incompatibilities unless they ended in the heat of anger. Why keep working at something that's a core compatibility? If it ended in the heat of anger, it's time to examine why something like this would happen. Does this mean that one or both of you need some work within you, before getting involved again? Link to post Share on other sites
JohnnyBlaze Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 I had one girl I would've taken a second chance with. Fortunately, we did meet up a few years after the breakup and I got to see what he had, or more accurately, what she hadn't done with her life. After that, I slept like a baby - no doubts or regrets. Link to post Share on other sites
Walk Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 I have some ex's that have a special little nook in my heart.. but a large part of that is how I've romanticized the relationship as years pass. I guess for me.. i realize that I can remember those times with fondness but I could never recapture that relationship. They were good people and that's why I still remember them with fondness. But those relationship were created due to who we were at the time... and neither of us will be exactly the same as back then. If I went back, it wouldn't be for who the person is today, this minute, but for how they made me feel back then when it was good. Which means, I'm not remembering the man for who he really is, but a desire to re-create a period of time that made me feel good. It's better to spend that energy on creating happy times now, and look toward a better future, rather then longing for what has already passed. Link to post Share on other sites
xxxicklexxx Posted September 7, 2008 Share Posted September 7, 2008 Only one time had that ever happened, i would give anything for a second chance and i had gotten it. Possibly the best thing that ever happened to me Link to post Share on other sites
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