Lizzie60 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 You heard him...go fetch the wiener schnitzel. I thought you knew your role! OMG.. I'm going to pee in my pants.. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 What you have is not a true partnership of love. Does he go out of his way to make sure you are pleased orally, also? He drives her to work... she doesn't have a high sex drive.. she's a sub... Link to post Share on other sites
LionLover Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Just because I don't share your opinions you want to repress my rights to express my opinion? That makes you a very confident person indeed. I am expressing my point in a very respectful manner. It may not be what you think but you should fight with proper arguments rather than just calling me wrong with no further arguments. Um, you started the original post did you not - specifically the last paragraph. Just pointing out the obvious. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I am a woman preaching to other women that they should define a role for themselves that is complimentary to the role of the men - not a confrontation of "who's in charge". That's fair I would even agree with that. I still would like to know why if you are so content are you wanting to cheat on your H so many times? And don't give me this balogne of "temptation is all around us" There is tons of cocaine and heroine around me if I go out to the streets never do I feel like I want to do some. So please can you answer why you have wanted to cheat so many times? Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 What you have is not a true partnership of love. Does he go out of his way to make sure you are pleased orally, also? obviously saiveca feels her partnership works for her. It isnt for us to judge, just as it isn't for her, to preach. And judge. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 He drives her to work... she doesn't have a high sex drive.. she's a sub... :lmao: sorry that was funny! It would almost appear that way wouldn't it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author saiveca Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 What you have is not a true partnership of love. Does he go out of his way to make sure you are pleased orally, also? Like I said, oral sex isn't my biggest priority but he does go out of his way to keep me happy in a number of different areas. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Like I said, oral sex isn't my biggest priority but he does go out of his way to keep me happy in a number of different areas. Ohhh just not sexually. I seeee maybe THAT'S why you have been feeling so tempted to cheat! Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 :lmao: sorry that was funny! It would almost appear that way wouldn't it? did you get all the 'subtilities'... he drives.. her drive.. she's a sub.. gosh it hurts.. (I'm too brilliant) Link to post Share on other sites
kchiapet95 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 What I don't get, is how being a complement to your H translates into "I give him a BJ every night". That works for you. That's effin fantastic. But where the heck do you get off telling all other women that's how THEY should be? That depends on each individual couple and is not a one size fits all. And if you aren't a Christian, and this isn't intended to be a religious discussion, you sure have some way of showing it, because this is nearly word for word what's in the Bible, minus the BJ part. Link to post Share on other sites
Author saiveca Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 That's fair I would even agree with that. I still would like to know why if you are so content are you wanting to cheat on your H so many times? And don't give me this balogne of "temptation is all around us" There is tons of cocaine and heroine around me if I go out to the streets never do I feel like I want to do some. So please can you answer why you have wanted to cheat so many times? I can only say that life is made of ups and downs. I didn't do it. Period. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Like I said, oral sex isn't my biggest priority but he does go out of his way to keep me happy in a number of different areas. While sex is one of my priority.. I have to agree that with my last bf.. he got almost a BJ a day.. especially during hockey season... I hated hockey.. so while he was having his little beer.. watching his game.. I was having my 'treat'... He also kept me happy.. with sex.. with love... with money... Link to post Share on other sites
vertigocidic Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I thought "free love" was what killed recent marriages. Or did I forget to recieve the memo? Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I can only say that life is made of ups and downs. I didn't do it. Period. Good NOTHING answer. You know something, if you are going to offer nuggets of wisdom for other women at least be upfront and honest when you are asked challenging questions that rock your credibility. Your inability to answer them simply shows just how shakey your stance is and this is why you are not getting the reception you had hoped. You know your overall message is not even a bad one, I mean that, but there are definitely loop holes in your message and if you don't care to fill them in then all we are left with is some stance that not many will entertain. I personally am quite open minded to new ideas provided they make sense but yours doesn't sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
vertigocidic Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 While sex is one of my priority.. I have to agree that with my last bf.. he got almost a BJ a day.. especially during hockey season... I hated hockey.. so while he was having his little beer.. watching his game.. I was having my 'treat'... He also kept me happy.. with sex.. with love... with money... Good golly, why can't I have it as good as you?!? Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Good golly, why can't I have it as good as you?!? What keeps you... Link to post Share on other sites
Author saiveca Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 Good NOTHING answer. You know something, if you are going to offer nuggets of wisdom for other women at least be upfront and honest when you are asked challenging questions that rock your credibility. Your inability to answer them simply shows just how shakey your stance is and this is why you are not getting the reception you had hoped. You know your overall message is not even a bad one, I mean that, but there are definitely loop holes in your message and if you don't care to fill them in then all we are left with is some stance that not many will entertain. I personally am quite open minded to new ideas provided they make sense but yours doesn't sorry. I respect your position. However for you to keep going back to some posts I have written ages ago shows that you are missing the most important point. My life isn't perfect and I never said it was. I am just saying that some old fashion rules can help today's couples in being happy and knowing what they're supposed to do. All day I read posts about guys not knowing whether they should ask her out or whether she should ask them out or whether they are just friends etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 did you get all the 'subtilities'... he drives.. her drive.. she's a sub.. gosh it hurts.. (I'm too brilliant) yeah yeah of course... Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Saiveca, I have a question for you on the original topic... should a woman abstain from sex until marriage? Link to post Share on other sites
LionLover Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I respect your position. However for you to keep going back to some posts I have written ages ago shows that you are missing the most important point. It’s important because it debunks your entire “theory”. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 My life isn't perfect and I never said it was. I am just saying that some old fashion rules can help today's couples in being happy and knowing what they're supposed to do. All day I read posts about guys not knowing whether they should ask her out or whether she should ask them out or whether they are just friends etc. The not knowing is part of the fun, the excitement, the passion. Where's the passion in what you are suggesting? Where is the spontaneity? I would guess that many husbands would be happy to do without routine, perfunctory blowjobs in favor of passionate sex with a wife who actually WANTS to have sex with him, and who is hot for him right then. Link to post Share on other sites
Author saiveca Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 Saiveca, I have a question for you on the original topic... should a woman abstain from sex until marriage? Not at all. I myself had several lovers before I married my husband. Link to post Share on other sites
Author saiveca Posted September 3, 2008 Author Share Posted September 3, 2008 It’s important because it debunks your entire “theory”. So what's my "theory", LionLover? Link to post Share on other sites
Tomcat33 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I respect your position. However for you to keep going back to some posts I have written ages ago shows that you are missing the most important point. My life isn't perfect and I never said it was. I am just saying that some old fashion rules can help today's couples in being happy and knowing what they're supposed to do. All day I read posts about guys not knowing whether they should ask her out or whether she should ask them out or whether they are just friends etc. And that's fine I can see what you are saying but when you open a post with: Despite the recent turmoil in my life (I was tempted to cheat on many occasions), I am proud to say that I have never been unfaithful to my husband. I know what my role is and how to keep my man happy. We've been married for many years now and I can't remember the last time my husband went to sleep without a blowjob. That's what he loves and it is my role and duty to satisfy him. Already you are leaving little faith for the rest of us and your words, since if you TRULY new what your role is as a W you would not be battling infidelity as hard as you say you have had to on as many occasions as you have. This is where you fail to see the flaws in your words. A blow job a night is great and fine and sucking it up (no pun intended) when you have a headache and doing it anyway despite feeling like you just don't want to is fine if that's what you want for yourself, but knowing your role as a wife is a LOT more than just sucking cokc every night, ya know? It's knowing that if you made vows to one man there is no other temptation to be had, period. Especially if you are as sexually satisfied as you claim to be and emotionally as well, which you must be if this arrangement works for you, then there should be NO reason at all to want to cheat. NONE. Other than boredom. THAT I can see. If you are giving head every night like a machine that could get boring VERY fast, for both parties I would assume. Shoot I would not want the exact same sex act performed on me every night, that would so damned boring!! ZZZZZZZZZZZZ Furthermore, the simple fact that you have felt so weak in terms of this temptation clearly shows you are not content with yourself of your H, despite how much head you are giving. Pardon my bluntness but that's what I see. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Not at all. I myself had several lovers before I married my husband. Ok... So how does religion fit into your recipe for ha-penis? Link to post Share on other sites
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