Sal Paradise Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 Originally posted by mymojo because no matter how good it is or how hard you try eventually sex with the same person is going to get boring.Why breakup an otherwise great relationship over sex when the matter can be easily rectified by taking yourself in hand? There are ways to keep the spice in the relationship. Of course that would require an open honest relationship and actually working to please each other.
shygurl Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 Originally posted by mymojo because no matter how good it is or how hard you try eventually sex with the same person is going to get boring.Why breakup an otherwise great relationship over sex when the matter can be easily rectified by taking yourself in hand? Oh please, how "great" of a relationship can it really be when a couple doesn't share intimacy, doesn't enjoy sex together, one or both aren't even attracted to one another? Sex with the same person is only boring if you let it be boring - and how is sex with your hand or a dildo all that exciting time after time? Based on your other post, I think that deep down, you're very crushed that your husband isn't attracted to you - it's hurt you deeply - and you're trying to overcompensate (maybe even make yourself believe it to be true) by saying that it's just supercool to get your own pleasure. Sex and intimacy are vital parts of a healthy marriage/relationship - your hand or a rubber dick can't give you love or affection or that feeling that you're desired and cherished. I commend you for not cheating, like so many do - but I think if you did some soul searching you'd find that you're very crushed by having to rely on a Battery operated boyfriend for pleasure.
moimeme Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 Oh lighten up, already! Geesh. This is still a very valid topic for many people We have had dozens and dozens of threads on this - many started this year. Plus you could always start a new one of your own. Porn used to make me feel bad, his ogling tiny,petite women with huge racks used to make me feel bad, his sighing in frustration while trying to grope my tiny tits while we had sex used to make me feel inadequate as did his inability to orgasm and lose of erections. And so the productive solution would have been to go to a marriage counsellor, a sex therapist, or both. From my POV the men are definately onto something here,why bother with marital sex at all? Because sex at its best is about expressing love for each other. Of course if you don't love each other then the point does become moot. because no matter how good it is or how hard you try eventually sex with the same person is going to get boring. Now this is fascinating. How is it that people never ever get tired of having sex with themselves? How is it that having sex with someone else requires 'variety' when there is very little variety one can manage when having solo sex? You are bitter and resentful; this is by no means a 'great' relationship. Your whole post drips with spite. You could, of course, attend counselling on your own as a first step but you should get him to go with you.
lindya Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme How is it that people never ever get tired of having sex with themselves? Woody Allen answered that one in Annie Hall.
mymojo Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme We have had dozens and dozens of threads on this - many started this year. Plus you could always start a new one of your own. And so the productive solution would have been to go to a marriage counsellor, a sex therapist, or both. Because sex at its best is about expressing love for each other. Of course if you don't love each other then the point does become moot. Now this is fascinating. How is it that people never ever get tired of having sex with themselves? How is it that having sex with someone else requires 'variety' when there is very little variety one can manage when having solo sex? You are bitter and resentful; this is by no means a 'great' relationship. Your whole post drips with spite. You could, of course, attend counselling on your own as a first step but you should get him to go with you. He won't go, he's been asked many times,so many times in fact that the last time I asked he flat out said "dear, a therapist isn't going wave a magic wand to make your breasts bigger or make you 20 yrs younger,I love you as a person,I love you deeply but your physical body repulses me so please do us both a favor and stop bringing this issue up,be grateful at your age that you have a husband at all "
shygurl Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 Originally posted by mymojo He won't go, he's been asked many times,so many times in fact that the last time I asked he flat out said "dear, a therapist isn't going wave a magic wand to make your breasts bigger or make you 20 yrs younger,I love you as a person,I love you deeply but your physical body repulses me so please do us both a favor and stop bringing this issue up,be grateful at your age that you have a husband at all " I knew it ,that underneath your attitude was a whole lot of deep seated hurt. Your husband, if he really says such heartless things - is an emotionally and mentally abusive monster. He doesn't know what really loving someone is about for if he did, he wouldn't even think these things, let alone say them to your face. I'm so sorry. Have you ever thought of counselling for just yourself? You must have a lot of pain and sadness inside
mymojo Posted July 3, 2005 Posted July 3, 2005 Originally posted by shygurl I knew it ,that underneath your attitude was a whole lot of deep seated hurt. Your husband, if he really says such heartless things - is an emotionally and mentally abusive monster. He doesn't know what really loving someone is about for if he did, he wouldn't even think these things, let alone say them to your face. I'm so sorry. Have you ever thought of counselling for just yourself? You must have a lot of pain and sadness inside My husband isn't a monster, after our 500th argument over these issues he just finally blurted out the truth in a moment of frustration.As far as solo therapy goes, I see no use for it, truth is my body is pretty ugly and scarred up,I'd rather save the money to possibly have some plastic surgery done rather than pay some therapist.
Craig Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 Some men can love, as well as be in love with, as well as make love with, a woman with doggy ear breasts, stretch marks and scars. They can do it without porn and without gawking at other women. Some men can't appreciate a woman with a slim attractive body that has stretch marks, scaring from operations and small breasts that have seen a pregnancy. They'll say things to their SO after a pregnancy like "where'd your breasts go?" or "isn't there something you can do about those scars." One comment or look of disdain at a time and soon enough, bitter disillusionment and stressful sadness replace hope, trust and love. Maybe one of the many things people should ask themselves before declaring that they are "in love" with someone is whether they would love that person just the same and just as much if that persons face was burned off. If a person can't answer yes to this question then love, IMO, was never present in the "relationship." Honesty in a relationship, something that is pretty much required for success, isn't just about being honest with a SO, it's also about being true and honest with yourself.
moimeme Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 Maybe one of the many things people should ask themselves before declaring that they are "in love" with someone is whether they would love that person just the same and just as much if that persons face was burned off. If a person can't answer yes to this question then love, IMO, was never present in the "relationship." Absolutely agree!
mymojo Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme And you love this jerk? He's not a "jerk" one can't help what you find attractive, nor can you force yourself to find repulsive things sexually appealing. the most damming thing is that I look awesome...till I take off my clothing. I have wall to wall stretch marks, surgical scars etc,I am as slim and as tone as I can reasonably be, I can't fix the things that are wrong with my body without $$$ for surgery all I can do is cover up so as not to expose my ugliness.I actually feel bad for my husband, had he relised at the start how bad I look naked, he would have said thanks but no thanks.
Craig Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 Originally posted by mymojo I can't fix the things that are wrong with my body without $$$ for surgery all I can do is cover up so as not to expose my ugliness. mymojo, are you going to have the surgery? If you are going to have the surgery, why?
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 We need a self-esteem intervention here, and quick. I can't believe I'm reading this woman writing such awful things about herself, and willingly taking the blame for her husband's abusive behavior, which would be unacceptable to any woman with one ounce of self-worth. She needs to get to a trained professional therapist ASAP to undo the psychological damage inflicted upon her by this lecherous pig. Please, someone back me up here!
moimeme Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 I agree. Mymojo, you sound very much like a victim of verbal abuse. Which is why I think your husband is a jerk. The things he's said to you are vile and he's a terrible man for saying them. And I'm shocked that you believe them.
lindya Posted July 4, 2005 Posted July 4, 2005 Scars, wrinkles and stretchmarks are what you get from living your life and getting through the more testing parts that it throws at you. Very sad that your husband isn't capable of seeing anything but ugliness in that...and I think it's sadder still that you have embraced such a hideous and shallow attitude as being "the truth."
cara Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 When it comes to porn, a leopard CAN NOT & WILL not change its spots! My first experience with porn was when I moved in with a guy a yr after I left my H. He would spend an incredible amount of time in the basement, with believable excuses. He would come upstairs and f me about ever 2 - 3 hrs. I thought wow, he thinks I'm one hot babe. Yep, until my 10yr old daughter caught him surrounded by his porn. He was getting off on his playmates and using MY body to finish the job. So, now I associate porn with being used. 6 yrs later I met XXXXX on dating site. While talking on line & discussing our pasts, this subject came up. He knew beyond a shadow of a doubt how I felt about. The day he moved in I told him if I ever found anything on his pc, & I will be checking, he could start packing. 3 months later .... yes I stupidly forgave him."I'll never do it again" B.S. He went to great lengths to hide his stuff. One day a banner came up on my pc stating " register now for file safeguard" What the heck was that? I clicked & had the words " dont want your wife to know what you're doing on the net? Dont want her to find out about your porn? Download this software. Its in stealth, she'll never find out" So I downloaded it to see what it was about and I was informed " you have already downloaded a free trial of FSG. If you download it again you will loose all your previous info." I downloaded the SOB. When I confronted XXXXXXXXXX (yes his real name) he told me he just wanted me to see that if he WANTED to hide something he could. YA RITE! This man is obsessed with women & their body parts. He couldnt keep his eyes off my sons 13 yr old girlfriends boobs & my 18 yr old daughters but. One day he pinched my nipple & told me to "inflate to 45 psi" I "was" very flat chested. To make up for his stupids he was the most affectionate, dotting, cant do enough for me kinda guy. I never washed a dish for 3 yrs. He did laundry, made the bed & cooked. Wouldnt you want a guy like that? Well you can have him. I no longer could deal with all the hurtful words, all the none stop lies, the hurtful actions and the betrayal of trust.and his obsession with naked women. The way he played with my self esteem and self worth. After every fight, he'd hit the dating sites and yahoo groups "married & bored housewives looking for sex" How do I know? Cause the guy was so stupid he thought hed outsmart me and use my email posing as me to check chicks out. If I found it, I may have forgotten about it or he didnt realize that these people send you mail in YOUR (mine) mailbox. Duh! 2 yrs after he lied to me and said he had been separtated a yr, I found out it was only ONE month after wife #2 kicked him out that he met me. I now realize he couldnt afford to live on his own so he chose me, an independant finacially secure woman to prey on. In December I kicked him out. In April he moved in with another woman! If she's as stupid as he is, they'll have a great life together. If she's smart ....XXXXX you'd better watch your back!!! A leopard WILL NOT change his spots.
cara Posted August 2, 2005 Posted August 2, 2005 By the way Lisaanne .......... It didnt matter what I did to try to hurt him, short of having an affair and I couldnt do that, NOTHING bothered him. I mean NOTHING!!! As far as I'm concerned if a guy doesnt feel the least bit of jealousy, or care about anything that you do HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU!!!!! I'm speaking from experience here. If he did love me he wouldnt have jumped into playing house so quickly with someone else. He cant stand to be alone with his own pathetic self. He needs company! Any company, because odds are he'll run across a dumb one who wont know what he's up to, or she'll just put up with it to save face & cry herself to sleep. Thats NOT the kind of life I want to live!!!
wannanewlife31 Posted August 3, 2005 Posted August 3, 2005 I Found out almost 2 years ago my husband was doing porn on internet and burnt cds since high school. How I found out was horrible. When I met my husband I was not as wild as I was when I was younger I am now 32 I traveled a lot with my job and I just enjoyed finally a single life and was very happy with myself and where I was in my life. I then got a call from my mother and father (which I regret listening to) but she went on and on about how she was worried I was not going to be with men anymore and blah blah. To pray for a husband (she is not even religious) but anyway I met my husband the next day (did my mothers phone call had something to do with it?) I will never know I met my husband and fell in love with the sweet man I thought to know and well lets just say I was not a prude and not afraid to show wild side of me. But one day I was cleaning up for him just what you do I guess when you are in love and I found a box full of porn , I was like well I never saw a box full that’s a lot and well I said that’s strange but at the same time I was not taken aback (does this make sense?) so anyway I said something to him in a joking manner and he said that he adopted the box from his Fraternity and that when he left that year he was the one to take the box (sounded good at the time) So anyway I was changing jobs after sept 11th and we were dating for a long time and I moved in with him you can say but still had my own place we were getting serious. I found a job that was near our places and I forgot something at his place and had to run back upstairs before leaving for the new job. I then opened the door to hear the noises you hear in porn. I was in shock why? maybe because the box and then seeing him at 8 am and doing you know what to porn was just to much for me at that point and was not used to that extreme of a behavior but I will tell you the truth and the truth is I did not even think my lord what is he doing I was thinking well "I HAVE BEEN UNDER SO MUCH STRESS FINDING A NEW JOB DUE TO ME NOT WANTING TO TRAVEL SO MUCH SEPT 11TTH HAPPENED AND I LOST MY UNCLE AND COUSIN AND I JUST THOUGHT WELL I HAVE NO SEX DRIVE SO MAYBE HE NEEDS SOME" Well in a million years I would never have thought I would have thought that way. Well that happened twice. Then I saw something like a website opened after that after marriage and I was pregnant but then I never saw anything again for awhile. I Then found out about some debt prior to getting married forgot that one and he just said he partied a lot during college and was paying it off so i saw that he was paying it off he had a great job so what business of it was mine he was paying it. I just wanted to make sure he was paying for it to get into to much of why I was not there yet I did not need to know since I did not know he had a problem. I guess later on something was really pulling at me maybe call it intuition or maybe call it something is wrong. He was traveling like 5 days out of the week. He was acting weird. I was so upset that he was gone for so long and I just had enough I started fights I was pissed and I was a tough ass and I was angry ( by the way I fail to tell you sooner that he had a freak for a mother and weirdo for a father and he was just plain weird family was driving me nuts) so I had a lot of stress with his mother and I finally gave him the last straw if he was to stick around he had to do something about his mother. So I assumed that the stress I was feeling for awhile was due to the stress him family was putting us through. We went to therapy and I brought up the porno and then he sort of manipulated the whole thing and then the therapist thought he had low self esteem and that he needed more organization in his life so she thought her partner was great for this and she was sending him to see her for this problem. Well Mr. boy next door was able to find some sort of tie with this women (by the way my husband is a great liar and he looks like a teddy bear and manipulates you to think he does nothing wrong) so she finds out his dad drank for 20 something years and he is sober now and sees her in him because her father drank and so she takes his side and when we sat in a room all together began attacking me in the room and then told Steve I was crazy. So he said to me well she thinks you’re crazy. So I said that’s fine. I then went nuts since I was told I was I lost my mind I just could not take it anymore I said something is just wrong so I found another therapist and she heard me and said have you heard of Sex addiction? I said what? So she explained it to me I just listened and thought about it. I went to his lap top since he says he can’t use his lap top due to his job I just thought I would not find anything. I did he was at a bbq in our neighborhood block party type of thing. I stayed home due to being crazy (joking) I just did not want to go out. So I found all this crap and I called him. I said come home I then told him what I found he said that was old he was cleaning the computer memory well I said I was not going to fight him at this moment. I went back to therapy told her and she set me straight. Things got bad. I just lost it. I went to Atlanta with him and my son my son was 1 year old at the time. I was really sick I just felt so much stress but I had pains in my lower belly. We were driving back from Atlanta and I said I have to go to the urgent care something is wrong with me. I then said well I don’t have my cell phone and I speak to my mother everyday (I am an only child ) so I saw there was messages I checked it just in case she called and this women said hello Stephen this is so and so and the check you gave me bounced. So he said let me hear and he erased it but let me tell you that I don’t know what the hell I was thinking I just said who was that but I was in so much pain I just cant remember why I did not go after him some more about it at the time. I then went to the Dr and I had a severe OBGYN infection had to get antibiotics. I went to the hospital before this trip and they did a test on me and it supposal came back positive for an STD I freaked out and I found that out when I got back and I was like what the hell is going on . So with all that I got home from being tested again and they said that was negative but I had this and that and that was so high up in my fallopian tubes that I probably would have trouble having children. That day I came home and my husband was not home as of yet he was stuck at the airport coming from Mexico on a trip. I then said on the cell phone he needed to get his a& (& (& home or else. So there he was at the steps of my staircase and he broke down to tell me that he went to strip bars and took out a book on sex addiction that his father gave him when he left his home after college and I just went numb after that I stopped listening and I just fell apart inside but was numb I did not cry or yell I just went upstairs to my office and I just looked at all my photos and thought that it all was a lie. He told me he thought the girl that was a stripper gave him something due to the fact she had no underwear on. (Don’t think for one moment I believed him) I just thought this guy lost him mind. I know strippers first off they don’t take checks (yes he said that phone call was from a stripper you should have heard the story on that one) then I said you don’t get STD that way. So I said come back to me with the real story and then lets talk so I got the real story he went to massage parlors before I met him and he went once during our marriage ( I cant prove if it was more then once at this point) he then got caught i can only prove once and i can prove with phone calls he called places. my life was turned around I thought pastors could help us God could help us ( I don’t think anyone can this is not like drinking you cant smell it on him its not like drugs you cant see if his eyes are dilated) I just lost it I then one night just was to calm and I said to him that he had to leave he said why if I am going to a sex addiction meeting and he threw pants at me and said why don’t you go to a meeting he threw pants at me from upstairs so I said oh no you did not ( so while he was being stupid I took the keys off his key chain) I then called a 24 hour locksmith had the doors lock changed and he came home not being able to get in. He rang the door bell and I finally opened it said you will wake up the baby and he then started to get arrogant and I then said if he did not stop I was calling the cops. So I did and there they are and I said he was trying to get in he told them the WHOLE STORY THEY WERE LIKE YOUR NUTS MAN! I mean it was like an episode from cops I AM A SEX ADDICT I WENT TO MY FIRST MEETING AND BLAH BLAH BLAH they took him away. So he was in jail his dad took him out I was like pissed off why did you let him out? That one I did not forgive for a long time. now with this whole thing happening I really went numb I left for NYC I stopped all credit cards that had my name on it and I closed accounts and made sure he could not use our accounts left him here with hidden money in areas so that if he needed it he could call me and I told him where to find it. I left him alone for thanksgiving through the New Year alone. I made him leave and stay with his friend 1 hour away but 2 hours when driving back and fourth to see our son. I just was not going back but my mom wanted me to try and see what I could save ( nuts ) So I did I tried and he says he has been sober for 1 1/2 years but ( don’t believe him) I don’t have proof just guts telling me. I am planning on leaving him I am checked out emotionally and just looking forward to a new life. I have two kids with him. Anyone have anything to say about this story I left out a lot to much to write. found out almost 2 years ago my husband was doing porn on internet and burnt cds since highschool. how i found out was horrible. When i met my husband i was not as wild as i was when i was younger i am now 32 I traveled a lot with my job and i just enjoyed finally a single life and was very happy with myself and where i was in my life. I then got a call from my mother and father ( which i regret listening to) But she went on and on about how she was worried i was not going to be with men anymore and blah blah. To pray for a husband (she is not even religous) but anyway i met my husband the next day (did my mothers phone call had something to do with it ?) i will never know I met my husband and fell in love with the sweet man i thought to know and well lets just say i was not a prude and not afraid to show wild side of me. But oneday i was cleaning up for him just what you do i guess when you are in love and i found a box full of porn , i was like well i never saw a box full thats a lot and well i said thats strange but at the same time i was not taken aback (does this make sense?) so anyway i said something to him in a joking manner and he said that he adopted the box from his Faternity and that when he left that year he was the one to take the box (sounded good at the time) So anyway i was changing jobs after sept 11th and we were dating for a while and i moved in with him you can say but still had my own place we were getting serious. i foudn a job that was near our places and i forgot somethign at his place and had to run back upstairs before leaving for the new job. I then opened the door to hear the noises you hear in porn. I was in shock why? maybe because the box and then seeing him at 8 am and doing you know what to porn was just to much for me at that point and iwas not used to that extreme of a behavior but i will tell you the truth and the truth is i did not even think my lord what is he doing i was thinking well "I HAVE BEEN UNDER SO MUCH STRESS FINDING A NEW JOB DUE TO ME NOT WANTING TO TRAVEL SO MUCH SEPT 11TTH HAPPENED AND I LOST MY UNCLE AND COUSIN AND I JUST THOUGHT WELL I HAVE NO SEX DRIVE SO MAYBE HE NEEDS SOME" Well in a million years I would never have thought i would have thought that way. Well that happened twice. Then i saw something like a websight opened after that after marriage and i was pregnant but then i never saw anything again for awhile. I Then found out about some debt prior to getting married forgot that one and he jsut siad he partied a lot during college and was paying it off so he was had a great job so what business of it was mine he was paying it. I just wanted to make sure he was paying for it to get into to much of why i was not there yet i did not need to knwo since i did not know he had a problem. I guess later on somethign was really pulling at me maybe call it intuition or maybe call it something is wrong. He was travleing like 5 days out of the week. He was acting wierd. I was sop upset that he was gone for so long and i just had enough i started fights i was pissed and i was a tough ass and i was angry ( by the way i fail to tell you sooner that he had a freak for a mother and wierdo for a father and he was just plain wierd family was driving me nuts) so i had a lot of stress with his mother and i finally gave him the last straw if he was to stick around he had to do somethign about his mother. So I assumed that the stress i was feeling for awhile was due to the stress him family was putting us through. We went to therapy and i brought up the porno and then he sort of minipulated the whole thing and then the therapist thought he had low self esteem and that he needed more organization in his life so she thought her partner was great for this and she was sending him to see her for this problem. Well Mr boy next door was able to find some sort of tie with this women ( by the way my husband is a great liar and he looks like a teddy bear and minipluates you to think he does nothing wrong) so she finds out his dad drank for 20 something years and he is sober now and sees her in him becuase her father drank and so she takes his side and when we sat in a room all together began attacking me in the room and then told steve i was crazy. So he said to me well she thinks your crazy. So i said thats fine. I then went nuts since i was told i was i lost my mind i just could not take it anymore i said something is just wrong so i found another therapist and she heard me and said have you heard of Sex addiction? I said what? So she explained it to me i just listened and thought about it. I went tp his lap top since he says he cant use his lap top due to his job i just thought i would not find anything. I did he was at a bbq in our neighborhood block party type of thing. i stayed home due to being crazy ( joking ) i just did not want to go out. So i found all this crap and i called him. I said come home i then told him what i found he said that was old he was cleaning the computer memory well i said i was not going to fight him at this moment. i went back to therapy told her and she set me straight. things got bad. I just lost it. I went to Atlanta with him and my son my sonwas 1 year old at the time. I was really sick i just felt so much stress but i had pains in my lower belly. we were driving back from Atalanta and i said i have to go to the urgent care somethign is wrong with me. I then said well i dont have my cell phone and i speak to my mother everyday (I am an only child ) so i saw there was messages i checked it just in case she called and this wome said hello Stephen this is so and so and the check you gave me bounced. So he said let me hear and he erased it but let me tellyou that i dont knwo what the hell i was thinking i just said who was that but i was in so much pain i just cant remember why i did not go after him so more about it at the time. i then went to the Dr and i had a severe OBGYN infection had to get antibotics. I went to the hospital before this trip and they did a test on me and it supposly came back postive for an STD i freaked out and i found that out when i got back and i was like what the hell is going on . So with all that i got home from being tested again and they said that was negative but i had this and that and that was so high up in my falopin tubes that i probably would have trouble having children. That day i came home and my husband was not home as of yet he was stuck at the airport coming from Mexico on a trip. I then said on the cell phone he needed to get his a&(&(& home or else. So there he was at the steps of my staircase and he broke down to tell me that he went to strip bars and took out a book on sex addiction that his father gave him when he left his home after college and i just went numbe after that i stopped listening and i just fell apart inside but was numb i did not cry or yell i just went upstairs to my office and i just looked at all my photos and thought that it all was a lie. He told me he thought the girl that was a stripper gave him somethign due to the fact she had no underwear on. ( dont think for one moment i believed him) i just thought this guy lost him mind. Boy i know strippers first off they dont take checks(yes he said that phone call was from a stripper you should of heard the story on that one) Then i said you dont get STD that way. So i said come back to me with the real story and then lets talk so i got the real story he went to massage parlors before i met him and he went once during our marriage ( i cant prove if it was more then once at this point) he then got caught. my life was turned around i thought pastors could help us God could help us ( i dont think anyone can this is not like drinking you cant smell it on him its not like drugs you cant see if his eyes are dilated) I jsut lost it i then onenight just was to calm and i said to him that he had to leave he said why if i am going to a sex addiction meeting and he threw pants at me and said why dont you go to a meeting he threw pants at me from upstairs so i said oh no you did not ( so while he was being stupid i took the keys off his key chain) i then called a 24 hour locksmith had the doors lock changed and he came home not being able to get in. He rang the door bell and i finally opened it said you will wake up the baby and he then started to get arrogant and i then said if he did not stop i was calling the cops. So i did and there there they are and i said he was trying to get in he told them the WHOLE STORY THEY WERE LIKE YOUR NUTS MAN! I mean it was like an episode from cops I AM A SEX ADDICT I WENT TO MY FIRST MEETING AND BLAH BLAH BLAH they took him away. So he was in jail his dad took him out i was like pissed off why did you let him out? that one i did not forgive for a long time. now with this whole thing happening i really went numb i left for NYC I stopped all credit cards that had my name on it and i closed accounts and made sure he coudl not use our accounts left him here with hidden money in areas so that if he needed it he coudl call me and i told him where to find it. I left him alone for thanksgiving through the new year alone. I made him leave and stay with his friend 1 hour away but 2 hours when driving back and fourth to see our son. I just was not going back but my mom wanted me to try and see what i could save ( nuts ) So i did i tried and he has supposly been sober for 1 1/2 years but ( dont belive him) i dont have proof just guts telling me. I am planning on leaving him I am checked out emotionally and just looking foward to a new life. I have two kids with him. anyone have anything to say about this story i left out a lot to much to write.
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