lexi29 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 My fiance proposed just over six months ago and we are getting married at the end of this month. He was excited about the wedding from day one. He wanted to start planning things as soon as we got engaged but I talked him into waiting a few months. He has been very involved in every part of the process. It has been great at times since I've seen my friends get married and their husbands' attitudes were mostly "you plan everything and put everything together and I'll show up". My fiance and I have done everything together- selected the cake, the dj, the reception site, the wedding site, and he didn't want to be left out of anything. He even went shopping with me (I didn't even have to ask) for the decorations and he helped pick everything out and paid for it. The only part he hasnt' had any interest in is picking out the flowers. He even wanted me to show him what types of dresses I liked. We just met the minister who is going to marry us and we are going through pre-maritial counseling with him and my fiance really is into it and we took this compatibility "test" with this minister and it was almost 200 questions and I thought my fiance would think it was a waste of time but he really got into it and is very interested so see our results (we will discuss them when we go back this weekend). He was very involved in setting up the catering and picking out slow songs for the dj to play. He totally agreed with my choice of a song to play for my walk down the aisle. He said it fits us perfectly. He was telling me last night that he can't wait for our wedding. He says he is so excited and happy. I'm thrilled that he feels this way but it just seems strange that a guy is excited about their wedding day. I don't think he's a guy who just wants to get married because he's 31 and several of his exes have wanted to get married to him and he just wasn't interested at all. His parents thought he'd never get married (he's from a family of five boys and the rest have been married since before he and I even met! And he isn't the youngest.) I'm just used to seeing what my friends go through and even though their husbands were agreeable with their plans none got into it even half as much as my fiance is. He is totally interested in every single step of planning. The only thing I can think of that will change after we are married is we will live together (so maybe he's excited about that?) I have no idea. Any insight? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 You didn't mention whether you were happy about his behavior. Are you? I think the guy just loves you and this is his wedding and he wants to be a part of every thing that happens. A lot of women would give their right arm for that. My 1st husband was that way after we got engaged. He wanted to be a part of everything. I made this mistake of taking my best friend (and maid of honor) with me to pick out our china and crystal patterns and to register. I like you didn't think he would want to be bothered with that stuff and was looking forward to doing it with my bf. He almost had a stroke when he found out what I had done. I guess thinking back on it that was kind of selfish of me but I didn't mean to be. Oh well, since your fiance's family and friends will be there he wants to have his input. Link to post Share on other sites
vander Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 My fiance is just as excited as yours. He said he has daydreamed about his wedding ever since he was a little kid. I never daydreamed about my wedding as a kid, so I think it's cute that he is so excited about it Society considers "wedding fascination" to be limited to females -- but really some guys get into it too. I think that most of them are just afraid to admit it out of concern for their friends calling them "gay". Link to post Share on other sites
The Collector Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 It worries you because he is too keen. A true catch would commitment-phobic. The thinking that leads many men to treat you ladies with indifference, lack of interest and maintain a 'challenge state' if we want to keep your attraction levels high. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 could it be possible that he is just a control freak? i don't know - except this was the way my xH was and it turned out that he wanted to control everything in my life - including buying my own clothes and the groceries. this ensured him that i wore what he found acceptable and we ate what he preferred. there was more - but you get the idea... Link to post Share on other sites
Kenyth Posted September 9, 2008 Share Posted September 9, 2008 Some women complain about the strangest things. Link to post Share on other sites
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