Is there something there between us?

[struck]

I am sixteen. The guy I am going to talk about is nineteen. Let's call him Jack...

 

My uberfriend (lets call her dani) (uberfriend meaning i have to hang out with her because she is good friends with MY good friends so we are always around each other, so in general I'm pretty nice to her upfront even though i think she is an immature pot-head who has no respect for other peoples feelings) has these older guy friends that I got to meet one night at one of their houses. At first I thought maybe they were too old for me, but we settled in and it turned out they were really cool. I came with two other friends who decided to get drunk and high with the guys, but I remained sober and have pot-free lungs.

 

Jack's friends were really nice, even when one of my friends puked all over his bud's carpet. So somehow Jack and I ended up outside in this circle of chairs, (more people were sitting there earlier) and we started talking about stuff. Things like school, and about his last and only girlfriend he had. He is single and has been for a year now, but hes still kind of heartbroken because he did everything for her; brought her flowers all the time, treated her like a queen and walked across town to see her. It was so immensely sweet, I thought my heart was going to melt. They broke up because she was cheating on him. Then we talked about parents and hard times during school, (not beeing that cool and not being accepted by everyone) and other stuff for what seemed like hours, and by the end, I thought I had met the one guy I was searching for since forever... ( have never had a boyfriend before... too afraid of heartbreak) we went inside, and he said to his friends... "Whoa how long were we out there? Wow I just had this huge heart-to-heart conversation with her... hmm I've never done that before"

 

Later that night we were all sitting in the same room and found out something not too good.... Dani has this huge crush on Jack and he thinks he might like her too... (AAAAAAHHHHHH!)

 

I'm sorry that I'm detailing it too much it's just that I can't stop thinking about him, I can't wait to see him again... This is the first time I've felt this way about anyone and I really need some help.

 

Questions..

Is he too old? Am I too young?

Should I tell him? Or should I wait and see.

Is this wrong because of Dani and him?

 

 

Any other comments you have?

[chizzn]

Theres plenty of other fish in the sea. You are 16 and youve known the guy for one night. Calm down killa, it seems your trying to rush things with this guy and already becoming a tad bit jealous because "dani" likes him too. Moving fast usually causes heartbreaks in which you said your affraid of. I think everyones affraid of a heartbreak but it happends to us all eventually. If i were you id try to focus on school and staying away from "pot heads". You have a long life ahead of you. Good luck.

[struck]

sorry i mislead you... i've known jack for six months that was just the first time we have talked that much at once

[jenny]

hey -

 

i'm not sure how the not drinking and not smoking figure into this except to prove that you feel that you are a cleaner person than dani and thus more deserving of jack? is that the general idea? that's kinda cool, i hope he is into that. how about talking to dani and asking her if she is serious about him? if you do it on the sly, then your lack of ethics exceeds her lack of morals. also, has jack shown any interest in her?

 

finally, and this is so not a big deal, but i'm pretty sure you're not using the term uber quite right, i think the word you might be looking is para-friend, or maybe pseudo-friend?

[struck]

thanks jen- about the pot and drinking, i just dont do that stuff... not now anyway.