feelunwanted Posted August 15, 2003 Share Posted August 15, 2003 I am not in any way opposed to porn- it has it's place- but my concern is that my bf is preferring it to the real deal. I have never brought it up to him- in the past I have found porn websites that have been looked at on my pc- we are the only 2 to use it- it usually doesn't bother me, but he is not exactly the sexually aggressive type. I'm o.k. w/ that, but he doesn't seem to initiate sex often at all- unless I ask. And when he does- often times it's pretty blah...he even asked once "Do you feel like having sex?" And today I was doing his laundry and found a post it note that was not his writing in his pants w/ a porn web address on it and nothing else. I don't mean to be difficult, but all of our friends- male and female consider me to be very attractive, I'm a very sexual person and I enjoy sex frequently. I really don't know what to do- how to bring it up or if I should be worried. My bf is a little overweight but I find him to be very handsome- not the flirty type and very faithful. Cheating has apparently never occurred in any past relationship. I don't think that's what is going on now. HELLLP! Link to post Share on other sites
win1234 Posted August 15, 2003 Share Posted August 15, 2003 Hi, This is a tricky one. For some couples its completely acceptable that one or both partners is into porn, but at the end of the day, its something which in my opinion I would only ever have any interest in if I had been single for 10 years, and was on the verge of exploding from sexual frustration. ( If you get my point- I am in a relationship myself ) But in your BF's case, he has you, a stable relationship, and a very sexual partner and it does not sound like he would have any reason to be more interested in porn rather than the real thing. I know I definetly prefer the real thing, and when you have it with someone you love its all that more special. I know if my partner found me looking at porn she would certainly find it suspicous, and insulting towards her. Maybe you should talk to him about it. Maybe he is frustrated in some way, and can only be satisfied through pornography ( however by what you have said, that you enjoy sex regularly, i cant see why ). Also see how he reacts to you asking him. Does he react defensively ? And also is he trying to hide the fact that he is looking at porn ? Just some things to think about.... W Link to post Share on other sites
SmallnSad Posted August 18, 2003 Share Posted August 18, 2003 Maybe he is using porn because he has some sexual views that are a little less than conservative, and he's afraid you won't accept him for it. Would you? If you would, why don't you try to initiate the sex, through the porn? Hey, have a little fun with it. Go to a porn site, pick out a full page of it, leave the computer on with the porn in full view, with a post it note on the monitor saying something like, "I'm waiting." Enjoy yourself! V Link to post Share on other sites
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