Soulburn Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 Hello, everyone. I need some help, here... One of my best friends is a nice guy. TOO NICE (yes, there is such a thing). He has been dating quite a bit the past two years and has made a habit of buying women things and being at their beckon call. If they call, he jumps. If they mention in passing that they want something, he'll get it for them. Their reaction is "thank you, that's great" or "that's awesome" but he ends up alone at the end of the night -OR- going broke while she quickly gets faster at telling him what she wants and needs while none of his wants or needs are met at all! He's not living the type of life I know he'd rather be living. In a solid, good relationship with someone who does as much for him as he does them. Out of four women, the first three were very obviously looking for someone to 'take care of them' financially and emotionally. Very needy and desperate. They wanted 100% of his time (even though they weren't remotely interesting) and as much of his money as they could get their hands on. He's not rich! This new one is a bit different. She wasn't looking for anybody to take care of her but she is torn between two men at the moment. She's seeing my friend and also someone else. My buddy here keeps doing things for her (nice birthday gift, a thoughtful keychain in her favorite color with her name on it, etc...) while the other guy does whatever he can to get the most time with her. I honestly think this girl likes my friend quite a bit but she's always got this other guy pulling at her for her attention. She hasn't been asking for much, unlike the women from the past he's dated but he's showering her with gifts because it's all he knows and this has NEVER worked for him. What should he do? I've tried to explain to my friend that it's not what you buy someone or how much you're sitting there waiting for her to call that creates interest. For the guys who have experience with this, do you have some good advice? And ladies, we all know what creates attraction when it comes to men! But instead of hearing it from me, I think it would help for him to hear it from other women. Can you guys help me out here? He's very lost. I'll start from the ladies point of view. What creates interest, to me, is if a guy is fun, a little flirtatious with me, has a great sense of humor, likes to do things together...and talks about things that go through his head. Link to post Share on other sites
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