My friend confuses me?

[CXP]

Hi, I'm new to this forum. It looks like a great online community with a huge wealth of information, advice, and friendly people. I'll warn you in advance - I have a bad habit of being long winded, so unless you like to read, you may be better off with someone less verbose.

 

I have sort of a dilemma. I'm 19 years old, I've been going out with my current girlfriend, Cayla, for nearly two years. Unfortunately, I think my relationship with her is fast approaching a crash and burn. Thats a completely different topic, however. The topic I need advice on is my friend, Nichole. I've known Nichole nearly four years. She's been going out with her current boyfriend, Casey for nearly two years. Casey is an absolute ass. Nichole tells me that I just happen to catch him in a particularly foul mood every single time I have the misfortune of meeting him, and that he really can be quite sweet sometimes. In any case, Nichole has been an awesome friend to me for a long time. We kind of fell out of touch for a while and started hanging out again about two months ago. Since then, and increasingly recently, she's been.. acting.. weird? She's been dressing provocatively, blowing off her boyfriend to hang out with me, sticking really close to me whenever possible.. just random things like that. I should probably mention that I'm basically clueless when it comes to girls. There are a couple of examples in particular..

 

Example 1. Cayla was out of town visiting family. I invited Nichole and two other friends to watch Pineapple Express with me, because I wanted to watch it and Cayla absolutely positively would not be dragged into the theater for it. Turned out to be hilarious, BTW. Anyway, I drive the four of us there (approx 30-40 minutes each way, I'm like the eternally designated driver which is cool by me.), Nichole insists on sitting shotgun, next to me (in my subcompact car, it really is right next to me). When we get to the theater, she sits right next to me. The two friends in the back seat horse around like the entire way home afterwards, Nichole and I talk. I drop the other two off first, and when we get to Nichole's house, she just sits in the car. SOP With my friends and I is I park in front of their house, they jump out, I wait for them to get inside and then take off. Nichole sits in the car with me for like 30 minutes talking with me. Not that I mind at all, I actually enjoyed it.

 

Example 2. Cayla, Nichole, and I all decide we want to get drunk, and have sort of a mini-party. No problem, we just have to pick up booze, snacks, etc. Our other friend tags along, but doesn't want to get drunk, having work in the morning. Nichole sticks like right next to me the entire time. This makes me nervous for 2 reasons: 1. I had just gotten off a twelve hour shift in what I affectionately refer to as "The Chinese Sweatbox." I needed a shower in a bad way. 2. Cayla is a particularly jealous creature. Also, when we finally do get around to drinking, Nichole way over drinks her capacity to keep up with me. She's like 110 pounds, maybe. I'm like 200, optimistically . She also spends a good deal of time getting carried around by me because she can't stand, and hugging me for support. Again, not that I'm complaining. Nichole also happened to be wearing a T-shirt that said "What Boyfriend?"

 

Its not just that, I suppose. She has started talking to me a lot more than before. She laughs at my stupid jokes - all of them. When asked if she wants to hang out, she goes from "I don't know.." when someone else asks to "When can you pick me up?" when I call. She doesn't usually like motorcycles, but has complemented mine numerous times - especially with me on it. She's asked me if she can brush my hair a couple of times - I'm a dude with long red hair. She's insinuated that she'd like to ride two up on my bike.

 

Nichole is smart, funny, into the same books and movies that I am, and, lest we forget, very beautiful. Pretty much everything I could ask for in a girlfriend. So here's why I'm confused. Does she like me? Am I imagining that she likes me? She has a boyfriend. She's also an awesome friend, and I would hate to lose her friendship. I guess my main question is, based on this, would you think that she likes me, or am I going crazy? Is she just trying to be a good friend? If she does like me, enough to break up with Casey? I'd like to think I'm a fairly intelligent individual, but when it comes to this stuff, I am the dumbest smart person I know. Thanks in advance for your help and suggestions!

[Nemo]

I'll warn you in advance - I have a bad habit of being long winded, so unless you like to read, you may be better off with someone less verbose.

Thanks for the warning.

Thanks in advance for your help and suggestions!

Wha?? Where am I? Oh, I must have fallen asleep at the computer. Let's see, help and suggestions. Got it. I think you're good to go with your idea (reading between the lines) of suggesting a threesome. And no, I don't think you'll have any post-coital jealousy issues to worry about. Just be safe, watch their fingernails, and don't mention your wind problem.

[CXP]

Thanks for the warning.

 

Wha?? Where am I? Oh, I must have fallen asleep at the computer. Let's see, help and suggestions. Got it. I think you're good to go with your idea (reading between the lines) of suggesting a threesome. And no, I don't think you'll have any post-coital jealousy issues to worry about. Just be safe, watch their fingernails, and don't mention your wind problem.

 

 

Hahaha. Not particularly interested in a threesome, believe it or not. Thanks for the laugh, Nemo, I needed that.

[Crazy.S]

I don't know man seems kind of tricky. Maybe it's just a phase for you and your gf. Maybe you will get your spark back or maybe not. Also Nichole could just be using you for attention. Like I said this is very tricky. I would wait to see how things go and not initiate anything. If she likes you and continues giving you signals, maybe you should go for it. You risk losing your friend and your girlfriend. Is that a chance you are willing to take?

[CXP]

I don't know man seems kind of tricky. Maybe it's just a phase for you and your gf. Maybe you will get your spark back or maybe not. Also Nichole could just be using you for attention. Like I said this is very tricky. I would wait to see how things go and not initiate anything. If she likes you and continues giving you signals, maybe you should go for it. You risk losing your friend and your girlfriend. Is that a chance you are willing to take?

 

I don't think its a phase for my Girlfriend and I - I definitely feel like she's using me for sex and money, and have for several months. I just haven't had the heart to break up with her because she has emotional issues and needs someone to love her. I'm definitely getting an attraction-type vibe (lol ) from Nichole, but I don't know if I'm imagining it because I'm attracted to her. Thats the tricky part. Thanks for your reply!