I can't get myself to do it

[kapchamp]

There's this girl at my school who I really like. I have known her for about a year, but we don't talk much. Last spring, I asked her to prom. She said she wanted to go, but later canceled because of a golf tournament. I followed that up by asking her out to a movie on a different day. She said no, and apologized. She said that she was to busy for a boyfriend. Although that was not exactly what I had in mind, I let it go for the summer. I am naturally very shy about starting conversations, although I really will talk a lot. School started a little while ago, and homecoming is next week. Should I ask her to the dance, or just take the hint and find someone else? I am really shy about these things, and I don't know how to ask.

 

Other info: Im 17, a senior, and have never had a girlfriend. I have actually never even gone on a true date with a girl. I noticed that she looks my way alot in class, and laughs at my jokes, but she never says anything. I almost feel pressured to get a girl, because everyone in my class has had some kind of a relationship, and I have never even kissed a girl.

 

Thanks for taking the time to read this. Appreciate any advice!

[Soru]

I know exactly how you feel haha. I'm 17, and even though I had a girlfriend before...I haven't been in a real relationship. You should ask her to homecoming anyway, and if she declines then that's when I think you should give her up and look for someone else. That's just me though.

[ed-205]

Ask her anyway, but there is one thing I will toss out here for your consideration. It takes a girl about 30 seconds to decide how far you are going to get with her, and there is only one rule you need to keep in mind:

 

If she doesn't answer "Yes", than *anything* else she says means "NO!".

 

You are far too young to be bothering yourself with trying to figure out what's going on in the mind of any individual girl, and you will simply frustrate yourself if you try. Keep asking others, and don't worry about the ones who say "No", worry about the ones who say "Yes", because they're worth the effort.

[CXP]

I was in your shoes for a long time. I'm only 19 now, so I'm not that far off, as well. I would agree with the people that have already posted. If you like the girl, ask her. If she says no, or anything resembling no, it isn't worth your time. If you are 17 and in high school, there are girls who will date you - you just have to find them. There is no use obsessing over this girl, especially if she isn't interested in dating you.