atzorvas Posted September 12, 2008 Share Posted September 12, 2008 My ex broke up with me via text message a couple of months ago. I've maintained no contact for a month now. She is super angry with me for neglecting her and a month ago she told me to never contact her again and that she doesn't care for me or feel anything toward me. We dated for a year. I'm over the hurt but I still think about her every now and then. I saw her on msn messenger the other online but I didn't say anything. My question is- if I did contact her and said hi or something..would it have brought back the hurt? Please let me know! Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted September 12, 2008 Share Posted September 12, 2008 For you, yes. Stick to NC. She is the one who broke up with you. You should live your life as if she is never coming back. Delete her off MSN too. Move on with your life so you can meet the right woman. If your ex really wants you, she knows how to find you. Why would you waste your time on someone who doesn't want to be with you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author atzorvas Posted September 12, 2008 Author Share Posted September 12, 2008 you are right caliguy I'm so glad I didn't get tempted. Its not like we are going to be friends, nothing will change, it will not bring her back, and I will only risk getting hurt again if I tried. haha i just deleted her contact and if felt...strangely liberating =) thx caliguy!! Link to post Share on other sites
CherishG Posted September 12, 2008 Share Posted September 12, 2008 I think each time we all try to contact the "ex", even on friendly terms or what not, it will hurt EVERY TIME. Because it's just a reminder that they aren't in your life the way they used to be. And no matter what you say, or what they might say, it's not going to erase the fact that it's over. I am finding it super super hard trying to NOT contact my ex. I already messed up 3x and broke NC, but I'm learning to cope and I'm striving to let go. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
0hpenelope Posted September 12, 2008 Share Posted September 12, 2008 Whenever I see posts like yours, one thing that I ask myself is why we would want to contact them. They're the ones who wanted out, they're the ones living their life "so well" or whatever the heck that means to them, and why should we care? They're the greatest source of our disappointments... Frankly, I wouldn't want to look at a heaping pile of dung. Just my $0.02. Yes, this is what I think about when I think of breaking NC. Also, the hurt will only come back if you haven't lived your life completely believing that she's gone for good. I think that you'll gain some changes that even if there's contact between the 2 of you in the future, you'll be way past caring to even be fazed. Link to post Share on other sites
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