Change in Power - Long

[NotHimself]

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[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]Long time lurker, first time poster.[/FONT][/COLOR]

[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]I have been dating a beautiful woman for the past few years. In the beginning, I wore the pants 100% and probably took advantage more than I should. I went out and partied all hours of the night while she stayed home. We watched what I wanted to watch, did what I wanted to do, etc. While this was going on, my girlfriend cooked, cleaned my house, had crazy sex with me every night, did my laundry, etc. After a year, she moved in with me and it for the first few months it was even better.[/FONT][/COLOR]

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[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]Here comes the crazy part. I caught her crying a few times saying how badly I treated her and I finally realized that I was. (I had always been a huge player and always treated women like crap in the past so I didn't really notice until the tears flowed) I decided to change. I started cleaning around the house and pulling my weight. I started watching her shows at night. I stopped partying all the time. I started trying to show her that I did care. She then started school and I began supporting her financially as well. (95% at least) Once I started doing this, everything went downhill.[/FONT][/COLOR]

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[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]For the past six months she now gets mad at me when I don't clean correctly. She refuses to cook and gets mad at me that I don't. (I still buy dinners when we order in or go out) We began having sex once a week...maybe twice and it consistently sucks since I know she puts nothing into it. It started to take a toll on my confidence.... I started to feel used and it started breaking me down mentally. A month ago I told her this and she promised it would get better and that she was just stressed out with school. (she studies a lot, but I work 50 hour weeks in a very stressful job as well)[/FONT][/COLOR]

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[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]But lately, it has been even worse. In the past two weeks (even after we aired out this huge argument a few times of how I feel used) she has started going out with friends all hours of the night and when she is home she just sleeps and is worthless. I find out that she is getting emails from a very wealthy man after one of her nights out. I found a list she wrote about me with a group of friends that I introduced her to and it just trashed me with every bad personality trait I have and a few I don't. (she put good ones on there too, but there weren't as many) We got in a fight Friday about this and she still left town for the weekend and didn't call or text me once.[/FONT][/COLOR]

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[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]When she got back, I threw everything out there and told her I was basically done. I told her that I almost cheated on her a few times and broke up with her mentally. I told her I felt used and the way she was treating me was unacceptable. We argued for a while and decided to fix things. She tells me she is the same person she is when we met and that I have been over thinking things. That she has done nothing wrong. (I do analyze everything and my mind never shuts off) She used to be everything I wanted, but now I really don't know......[/FONT][/COLOR]

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[COLOR=black][FONT=Verdana]I am sitting here now a few days later wondering if I shouldn't have just kicked her out and become single again and just look for someone new. It would be much easier and probably much more fun. But, I did love this girl so much and it makes me wonder if I should try again since she didn’t do anything drastic, just a bunch of little things that added up over a very long period of time. [/FONT][/COLOR]