Anyone have a revenge affair with MP spouse?

[The Collector]

Go for it. Then go on Jerry Springer.

[bish]

I am trying to make my marriage work but I am beginning to think the only way I can make it work is if I have an affair too. I have bonded so to speak with my wife's OP spouse. She is a knock out and we are attracted to each other. We have acknowledged the attraction but have yet to act on it. I think if we are ever alone again it will happen.

 

I know it's wrong but I want to have an affair with her. I want her husband and my wife to find out after the fact so they know the pain they inflicted on us. I want to be able to tell the OP to his face that I slept with his wife multiple times and that I have no intention of stopping. It's only a fantasy right now but if I really pursued her I could make it happen.

 

Anyone else been in a similar situation?

 

Oh I know how satisfying on a personal level it might be to have an affair on the both of them. and honestly, they deserve it. Its the ONLY time I feel people deserve to be cheated on.

 

but don't lower yourself to their level. why be a scumbag?

 

As far as your wife, what are you going to do? If you want to have an affair, I'd say simply get a divorce. Hell, maybe the OM's wife will get one too and then you can start seeing each other. But its still probably not a good idea since it would be like a revenge thing.

 

I'd just leave your wife. She doesn't deserve you.

[whichwayisup]

Thank you BNB for your post.

 

You really took the wind out of my sails. I do not want to do anything to hurt my son. I am going to think about how I can get my revenge and not get my son caught up with this. I might have to settle for sleeping with the guys wife and not having the satisfaction of him knowing about it. I really, really wanted him to know but not at the expense of my son finding out. I definetely have to modify my original plans.

 

I am not sorry because I made you stop and think. That was the whole point. If it was just you on your own it would be a different story, but you DO have a son to think about. What you do DOES affect your son, I just wanted you to recognize that and understand too, consquences and fallout.

 

It may not be your intention to hurt your own child, but if you DO go ahead with this crazy plan to bang the OM's wife for revenge - Be prepared to deal with and accept the fallout. Consquences can be brutal and innocent people can be hurt.

 

whichwayisup, you shouldn't use is son in extreme cases just to push your opinion. I'm not saying he should go through with his revenge because ultimately revenge does create more revenge. Trying to convince someone using a very rare case will not help, it just seems desperate.

 

My whole idea was to get this guy to slow down and think. He did and I'm grateful for that.

 

Right now he is feeling a whirl wind of emotions, rightfully so! He is feeling betrayed, hurt, angry, bitter, the whole works - Everyone understands that. He needs to calm down and think of the whole picture here, not just stay on one path - Revenge.

 

The bottomline is, he DOES have a child to think about in the midst of this mess. HE has to be the stable one during this more than likely divorce, reguardless if his wife is step-mom to his child. Him reacting out of pure angry and emotion is only going to land him in a worse situation than he's in now.

[bish]

I have a 9 year old son from a previous relationship who lives with us 50% of the time. We have no children together thank the lord.

 

Oh man!! Then its easy!! GET OUT OF THIS MARRIAGE WITH A TOTAL HO!!!

 

Run like the wind!!!

[Lorenzo76]

underpants,

 

I am some what limited on what I can do to him. The closest I came to really getting under his skin is when I made fun of him for being sterile. I told him he was less than half a man for not being able to give his wife a child she do desperately wanted. He wanted to punch me and I think I almost made the bastard cry. If he reacted like that to me making fun of him shooting blanks can you imagine how he would react if I banged his wife?

 

He is the one person who never faced any real consequences. I have the ability to make him pay dearly and I feel as I am crazy to pass that up. As other posters have mentioned I have my son to think about. I have to tread very carefully.

[Lorenzo76]

Oh man!! Then its easy!! GET OUT OF THIS MARRIAGE WITH A TOTAL HO!!!

 

Run like the wind!!!

 

I'm getting there. I'm holding our for December when she gets her masters finally. She works part time but after she graduates she will get promoted at work. According to my lawyer if I divorced her now I would have to pay the ho alimony. Once she starts working full time she will be self-supporting and I can kick her to the curb.

[Owl]

This isn't about revenge.

 

This is about you wanting to bang someone and get away with it.

 

This is your "free pass".

 

If that's the kind of person you are...I say go for it.

 

Do it. Heck, you may as well go for your cute neighbor lady while you're at it too...or that hottie at the office you've had your eye on.

 

Heck...skip any kind of protection while you're at it too...if you're going to do this...go ahead and get another woman pregnant...THAT will show your wife up, won't it?!?!?!

 

This entire thread speaks VOLUMES about your personality and morals. Given what I've read here, I'm not all sure why you even bothered to post the question here, unless you were hoping for everyone to say exactly what I've just said.

 

WWIU was pointing the right stuff out to you in the very beginning.

 

Do you want to fix your marriage, or are you just looking for some fresh !@#@???

 

Because your gameplan right now will be the END of your marriage, and nothing more than that.

[IfWishesWereHorses]

Have you considered, also, that OM's W might be emotionally vunerable? Do you want to hurt her even further? I would tread very carefully even with the friendship.

[Lorenzo76]

This isn't about revenge.

 

This is about you wanting to bang someone and get away with it.

 

This is your "free pass".

 

If that's the kind of person you are...I say go for it.

 

Do it. Heck, you may as well go for your cute neighbor lady while you're at it too...or that hottie at the office you've had your eye on.

 

Heck...skip any kind of protection while you're at it too...if you're going to do this...go ahead and get another woman pregnant...THAT will show your wife up, won't it?!?!?!

 

This entire thread speaks VOLUMES about your personality and morals. Given what I've read here, I'm not all sure why you even bothered to post the question here, unless you were hoping for everyone to say exactly what I've just said.

 

WWIU was pointing the right stuff out to you in the very beginning.

 

Do you want to fix your marriage, or are you just looking for some fresh !@#@???

 

Because your gameplan right now will be the END of your marriage, and nothing more than that.

 

This is about revenge, justice, pay back, whatever you want to call it. I have no real interest in saving my marriage. I am biding my time before I kick her to the curb. I have known her since I was 10 years old, that is 22 years. I still care for her but I am not in love with her so I would be settling by staying married to her. There is only one way to put it. I am faking a reconcilation so I don't have to pay alimony. I should have been more up front with that in the beginning. Seriously there is no way I could even think about staying with her unless I cheat on her. The marriage over she just does not know it yet......but she will in December.

 

What some people are failing to understand is that my wife and her OP got the ball rolling on this. I would have never dreamed of sleeping with his wife before this.

[Lorenzo76]

Have you considered, also, that OM's W might be emotionally vunerable? Do you want to hurt her even further? I would tread very carefully even with the friendship.

 

I don't want to hurt her but it takes 2 to tango. I am not giving up the friendship no matter what, unless she wants to end it. For some reason I don't see that happening.

[Owl]

What some people don't realize is that its pathetic to say "she started it!!" and point your fingers at your wife while you're boinking someone else.

 

Get a divorce.

 

That's the only advice I can give you.

[Lorenzo76]

What some people don't realize is that its pathetic to say "she started it!!" and point your fingers at your wife while you're boinking someone else.

 

Get a divorce.

 

That's the only advice I can give you.

 

I will in due time.

[bish]

I'm getting there. I'm holding our for December when she gets her masters finally. She works part time but after she graduates she will get promoted at work. According to my lawyer if I divorced her now I would have to pay the ho alimony. Once she starts working full time she will be self-supporting and I can kick her to the curb.

 

Very good idea. Doesn't it suck that in this day and age, a cheater can get away with it and end up getting paid for it? Something seriously out of whack with that.

[marlena]

And I say you're such a pig!

 

You can't be serious!

 

Just because someone's way of thinking or lifestyle is different than yours does not make them a pig.

 

Sorry, this was below the belt and uncalled for.

 

Whatever happened to plain civility?

[IfWishesWereHorses]

You can't be serious!

 

Just because someone's way of thinking or lifestyle is different than yours does not make them a pig.

 

Sorry, this was below the belt and uncalled for.

 

Whatever happened to plain civility?

 

 

 

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I say go for it.. from what I understand, your W and your 'friend''s H are having an affair.. and now you'd love to sleep with his W... why not?

 

What's good for them, should be good for you too... if everything works out... maybe you can swap partners.. and just move from one house to another.. less trouble that way, don't you think.

 

sometimes, I think I would loooove to scr*ew one of the biotch's husband (this big cow from work)... she is a boss of my boss.. and she hates me with a passion (she is a big jealous biotch)... and is now trying to make my life miserable at work.. gosh I wish I knew her H.. I would, for sure, try to seduce him.. to get her..

 

You just gave me 'food for thought'... as soon as tomorrow... I will try to know where he works and how I can get in touch with him.. mouaahahhahaah..

 

Your definition of civility? OK, got it, you're intitle to your opinion.

[pelicanpreacher]

You say that you've known your wife since she was 10 years old for a total time period of 22 years. You also say that you're both emotionally detached from each other and this has been the state of your marriage for some time now. She has stayed in a loveless marriage for what...to take care of your son? You're upset that she had an affair but you show no concern for the fact that you allowed your marriage wallow in a state of perpetual vulnerability without doing anything to countermand the situation and was actually satisfied to force your wife to live this way in perpetuity. When did you forget that your wife is a woman with all the needs, dreams, and desires of a woman? NOW that she's demonstrated that fact you want to jump up and get "froggy"? If you can't get past this affair then you need to a least get past yourself for your behavior now and prior to the affair makes you as big a villian as she is.

 

As far as the future plays out I would suggest that you divorce your wife and make yourself a permanent fixture in OM's marriage. His angst at your constant presence and influence would be his just desert for having the audacity to take advantage of a vulnerable married woman by using the sympathy card of his own physical deficiencies to exploit a blatantly selfish agenda to "eat his cake and have it too"!

[Trialbyfire]

I am trying to make my marriage work but I am beginning to think the only way I can make it work is if I have an affair too. I have bonded so to speak with my wife's OP spouse. She is a knock out and we are attracted to each other. We have acknowledged the attraction but have yet to act on it. I think if we are ever alone again it will happen.

 

I know it's wrong but I want to have an affair with her. I want her husband and my wife to find out after the fact so they know the pain they inflicted on us. I want to be able to tell the OP to his face that I slept with his wife multiple times and that I have no intention of stopping. It's only a fantasy right now but if I really pursued her I could make it happen.

 

Anyone else been in a similar situation?

Don't do it. Why do this to yourself?

 

I also had contact with my ex's ex-OWs husband. I shared information with him, which helped him with his divorce but that's it. I can still say I like and respect myself. Would you be able to do the same after entering into an affair yourself?

[lkjh]

You say that you've known your wife since she was 10 years old for a total time period of 22 years. You also say that you're both emotionally detached from each other and this has been the state of your marriage for some time now. She has stayed in a loveless marriage for what...to take care of your son? You're upset that she had an affair but you show no concern for the fact that you allowed your marriage wallow in a state of perpetual vulnerability without doing anything to countermand the situation and was actually satisfied to force your wife to live this way in perpetuity. When did you forget that your wife is a woman with all the needs, dreams, and desires of a woman? NOW that she's demonstrated that fact you want to jump up and get "froggy"? If you can't get past this affair then you need to a least get past yourself for your behavior now and prior to the affair makes you as big a villian as she is.

 

It takes to to destroy a marriage but only one to have an affair. Just because the M is in a bad state does not give her the right to cheat.

[pelicanpreacher]

 

It takes to to destroy a marriage but only one to have an affair. Just because the M is in a bad state does not give her the right to cheat.

 

Please don't get me wrong here! I in no way condone her actions in the least. The only issue that I have is the OP's claim to victimhood when he's clearly indicated that HE'S DONE NOTHING DURING THE COURSE OF THE MARRIAGE TO CLOSE THE EMOTIONAL GULF HE HIMSELF CLAIMED TO BE FULLY AWARE OF LO THESE MANY YEARS! He can show high passion now but couldn't muster it to improve his marriage for the many years it languished in its loveless and emotionless state? Of course we don't know the entire story behind his marriage and its likely that what we hear, after the fact, will be biased to the nth degree! He reminds me of Shellz in a "Bizzaro World" sort of way!

[bish]

sometimes, I think I would loooove to scr*ew one of the biotch's husband (this big cow from work)... she is a boss of my boss.. and she hates me with a passion

 

LMFAO....you say that as if you need a reason to screw someone elses husband.

[Lizzie60]

LMFAO....you say that as if you need a reason to screw someone elses husband.

 

Bish .. I think you're obsessed with me..

[mopar crazy]

My advice...don't do it! It will backfire some how. It's not a good choice.

[bish]

Bish .. I think you're obsessed with me..

 

I'm sure you'd like to think that I am as weak minded as the rest of the married men you brag that you can easily get.

[Sup]

I will in due time.

 

 

I can understand why you wanna wait on the divorce. Just make sure that your STBXW doesn't ever get on here, so delete cookies and history, don't use that auto fill feature as well. Don't screw his wife. Perhaps when OM's wife hears that you are getting divorced, perhaps she'll divorce OM, then she may wanna marry you, and get on you and screw you really hard!

 

But, don't do the revenge thing, not worth it. Besides, if you did that, the courts would screw you over because you're a man, in the courts eyes, a woman can do it to a man and get away with it, but, not the other way around! It's whacked and twisted, but, welcome to america!

 

Just be sure to protect your assests!

[JustBreathe]

I want to say "Do it and take pictures." But that would be bad advice. I want to say take pics and show them how it's done!!! Make mad hot monkey love all night, tape it and watch it 1000 times, at least 999 times when you're wife is present. But then that would be living out my ultimate fantasy through someone else. That would be so wrong, wouldn't it. I do understand your compulsion. But no. *sigh* That's wrong, isn't it. No, unfortunately, I gotta agree with the others.

 

You are incredibly hurt and angry and you aren't thinking straight! Think about it. You'd be taking advantage of this woman who is obviously as hurt and fuzzy headed as you are.