I want to use the time she here to try to reconcile

[GeorgeTown]

I am 38 and my fiance is 23 and we have been together for the past 4 1/2 years. We had a beautiful son in march 2001 and after my son was born we moved to Calif. I have family in calif and she doesnt. Well we were fine at first but then after my son was born I felt she got a lil more demanding like as if I she can demand all she wanted since now we had a kid together and I had just started a business that was very stressful on my life. This business got me so stressed out that I was having anxiety attacks and was giving zanax to help me.

 

Anway I left the business but during the course of the business my and my fiance grew distant. She would try so snuggle of touch me and I would say I wasnt in the mood and slowly she was growing distant from me and constantly complained about how I kept her from her family but yet every year I sent her to visit her family for like a month at a time. Well last time ( 2 weeks ago ) I sent her to NY because she was 3 months pregnant and wasnt eating and throwing up anything she ate because she gets like this in the first 3 to 4 months of the pregnancy. After being there a week I noticed she started staying with her mother (WHICH SHE NEVER DOES BECAUSE SHE SAYS THERE IS TOO MANY PROBLEMS THERE)

 

Her mother dates a different men to put it politely and so does her sister and never have any money and are always arguing, Which is why she never stays there and always stays with her aunt. Well after she started staying there I noticed her getting more and more cocky and her cellphone would go dead cause she forgot to charge the battery and strange things like that would happen, So we got into an argument because she said that she was with her brother and when I asked her to put her brother on the phone we got into a big argument of how I dont trust her and then she hung up the phone and turned it off.

 

Her cellphone is the only way I have to contact her since her mother doesnt have a phone and then then next day we spoke and I asked her if it was over casue I needed to know where we stand and then she said it was over and she was tired of me trying to run her life and not paying attention to her and now she is going to live her own life and If I wanted to see my son that I would have to go to NY to see him. Well after a couple of days I told her that I wanted to work this out and even told her that I would even go back to NY so she can have her family near her and get a job and an apt and try to work this out and she stilll refused.

 

The other day I checked her voicemail on the cellphone and seen that some guy left a msg on her phone saying that he was down stairs in front of the house and why did she have the phone off. So I am filing for custody of my son and I really dont want to get ugly like this but I cant let my family go like this! I told her that I do realize my mistakes and I am sorry and really want to work this out. Well from what I hear California courts will make her bring my son here for the fight since he lives in calif. What I want to do is use that he time she here to try to reconcile and I feel that I would have a better chance with her family away from her and not putting stuff in her head like her father and aunt said that they are doing. Anybody got any advice for me on how to get this to work and what do you think about me dragging her her to try it because I cant loose my family and didnt know how much I loved her till I thought of her with another man.

 

Oh and she is smoking cigarettes now and said that she is getting an abortion!

 

I am willing to do anything to keep my family together!

[Curt]

Talk to her, pray for her, and get into therapy with her A.S.A.P. Get custody yesterday.

 

She's getting an abortion????

 

Good grief...restraining order if you need to to protect your unborn child? Is this possible?

 

Jeepers...she's into a REALLY bad scene. Did this simply start over something simple like not cuddling? or ?

 

I'm beyond words here.

 

Curt