A Point of View difference with a close one. No Ways to work through?

[bio1010flo]

Me and this one guy have liked each other for a good few months now. We both like each other in many ways, mostly because of our each personalities. We do not got into dating though, because of my school. We both agree on, getting this relationship starts will interfere my schoolwork. So we agreed on keep this open. But never shoot to make scenarios.

 

What happened was, we had this one big discussion about how we view or do with the people relationship. This guy he is a Filipino American. And I am a Chinese American. So we were sharing our thoughts and how we do with people (or whoever that comes across to your life). And he realizes that indeed we have such a HUGE difference of the view and way of dealing with people. Simple put, it is a point of view difference. And value difference that kind of thing?

 

Because of his culture, plus his personality, he is definitely a people person (which to me is not a problem at all. That is cool if he is a people person), who would build close relationship with whoever that come across his life. You know, all that taking your time building a close relationship with each one. Plus, he is def family-oriented. To me, and I also have said to him, I truly adore and like the people who is family-oriented. Because I do not really grown up in such family. Again, I have told him. I was brought from an individualistic family, who pretty much, everybody just really care about themselves (kind of selfish in that kind of way) u know. Get up. Go to Work. Come home and see your family. Not really reaching out that kind of thing.

 

And that's why, the way how I grow up and me personality, I like to meet A LOT of people, but not necessary is a people person. I know A LOT of people, but only a few get real close to me. I mentioned that I have many acquaintances, or those so-called friends. Pretty much, the people who you just have a short, brief moment with.

 

Anyway, so how this turns out was that, my pov of how I deal with people totally offended him. Completely. And he said that, "whoa now I get to know about other aspects of your personality. I see this HUGE difference." And he said that the people relationship that kind of thing is the MOST important part of his life. (Again, here, I also have mentioned that I adore the people who is family-oriented, because I really do not have that). But yah, so we talked and got to open up this part of ourselves. To me, it is no problem. Because I would love to have someone in my life who can put a family together. But to him, it is totally a problem. Probably he now thinks that I am selfish, and very self-oriented. But yeah, it is true that I am very individualistic.

 

So this Point of view thing about people relationship causes our relationship turns to a critical point. To him, we Totally clash. But I think that, him and I both reach people just in a different way. I find myself also very easy to open up to people, but yeah, the truth is that, not many becoming close, only a very few. BUt then he is talking about community, family, etc. And he said I do not have a standard when comes to meeting people. I am too random and weird in a way. And he does not understand that. He really doesn't.

 

AH, You can't beat or fight with the POV difference huh? Is it a done deal? That is it?