Why did she kiss me?

[John777]

My ex-gf and I dated for a year. She broke up with me a month ago for reasons I won't get into now. Even though she broke up with me, we always confessed that we still love each other and probably always will.

 

She has been very clear that she wants us to 'just be friends' and stresses how it should be a platonic relationship and nothing more.

 

During the past month, we've kept in touch on and off, usually via texting.

 

This weekend, we were both at the same festival and agreed to meet afterwards. We sat in her car for 45 minutes and did nothing but have an intense make-out session. It was passionate and loving. I was in bliss.

 

When I left, she texted me and said 'I love you'. I texted her back 'I love you too'.

 

I don't know where we stand right now. Yesterday, I texted her and she hardly said anything to me. It was almost like our 45 minutes together meant nothing. I mentioned something to her about having lunch together and she didn't even mention it.

 

Does anyone have a clue as to why she would spend 45 minutes with me, making-out, and then the next day, go back to being 'broken up'? I just don't get it. I thought we were getting back together.

[Scooter25]

I know it's not what you want to hear but it's possibly just a head game to her. She's just keep you close until she finds what she's looking for.

 

My ex did it to me until I cut off all communication with her. She broke up with me and I figured it wasn't fair to keep dragging me around with a fish hook in my mouth.

 

Once I cut her out it killed her and broke my heart but it was eventually good for me. There were some nights I would be sitting around waiting to hear form her because she said she would call, but I never got them and looked like an a$$ when I would tell her I waited to hear from you last night. She knew she wasn't going to call and she didn't want to feel guilty for breaking up with me.

 

When I finally realized all of the above I became a better person and wasn't going to allow anyone to treat me like that especially after all the years we were together.

[mixwell]

I agree with the other poster.. She doesn't want to be with you but she is acting interested to keep you there until she finds someone. I would just cut her off completely (as hard as it is to do) but you will respect yourself more and if you want to get back with her, this method will work more than you just hanging and chatting every now and then. By doing that it eases her emotionally outta the relationship. My ex did that to me for 5 months before she moved onto another guy..

[Intergalactic]

sometimes, an ex will do that, especially if it's a recent ex, because that's how it always was with you both and just being completely platonic feels kind of weird. my ex told me last night that he kissed me after breaking up with me and continued to sleepover and cuddle with me because it felt right, because that's how it always was with us and the familiar feelings were comforting. it DOESN'T mean they want to get back together with you, and they're not always doing it to be hurtful. Break-ups are confusing, for both parties, it's not always black and white. you need to gently remind her that the relationship is now platonic, and that making out with her is not okay anymore. i know it's hard, because she called it off and you probably want to get back together, but sometimes the person who didn't initiate the break up needs to be the one to push it to completion.

trust me, you don't want to do this half-way thing with her. i did it for two months, holding on to hope that it meant he wanted me back, and there never was any hope. end it now.

[CaliGuy]

You are being given table scraps of her attention to hold her over till she finds someone new. This is a game to her. But to you, it's not and shouldn't be.

 

Stop talking to her. You're giving her all the milk for free with no need to purchase the cow. Catch my drift?