sandrawg Posted September 16, 2008 Share Posted September 16, 2008 What is it with men and their ex-girlfriends? Why do men seem to have so much trouble moving on from them? I know so many guys who've hooked up with their exes when a rel'ship ended, or who keep their ex on the side. It doesn't seem to matter how badly the guy was treated by the girl, either, or all the horrible things that went wrong. So many guys like keeping exes as "backups." Why would anyone want to do that? A co-worker of mine put it quite graphically: why would you want to lick up where you once vomitted? Why can't guys move on? Link to post Share on other sites
blair08 Posted September 16, 2008 Share Posted September 16, 2008 I have never hooked back up with an ex. They are an ex for a reason. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sandrawg Posted September 16, 2008 Author Share Posted September 16, 2008 I have never hooked back up with an ex. They are an ex for a reason. That's how I feel, too. But are you a man or a woman? (Sorry, but Blair is the type of name that could be either.) Link to post Share on other sites
blair08 Posted September 16, 2008 Share Posted September 16, 2008 That's how I feel, too. But are you a man or a woman? (Sorry, but Blair is the type of name that could be either.) Female. It tells if you click the person's name, and click view profile. Link to post Share on other sites
AAlike Posted September 16, 2008 Share Posted September 16, 2008 that is CERTAINLY not just a guy thing. I have never hooked up with an ex either, but I know plenty of people that do go back to exes quite a bit. In fact, I have several friends of both genders who regularly hook up with exes when they see them out, despite clearly not having the feelings for them that they used to. I mean, on a visceral level, maybe it's somewhat preferable to hooking up with a random stranger as you already know each other's bodies somewhat and probably are quite aware of what turns the other one on. it takes a while to evolve to where you have "efficient" sex with someone - where you can coordinate orgasms and stuff like that. not to mention, when you're in a long-term relationship with someone, I think that the sex naturally compartmentalizes itself at least a little bit. me personally, I don't think that I'd be the type to hook up with an ex - much like you, once I'm over someone, I am over them. I think it also might have to do with how serious the relationship was in the first place - it's a lot different to hook up with an ex-wife or ex-live in than someone that you casually dated for two months or something like that. Link to post Share on other sites
sweet&simple Posted September 16, 2008 Share Posted September 16, 2008 I honestly think it's a comfort thing. I have hooked up with an ex.. yeah, I regretted it and I'm sure most people do.. if things don't work out the first time, they won't the second. And honestly, the hooking up with my ex thing wasn't about sex. Here's what happened: I broke up with him thinking I wanted to see other people/I had grown tired of the relationship. I started seeing another guy a while later.. he ended up screwing me over pretty badly stating that I was a bad person and all of this other stuff when really, he just wanted to hook up with another girl. I called my ex [who had also been my best friend for over a year] and he came over and took care of me. I think in some cases an ex is just likely to be there for you [unless you did something terrible in the relationship.] But if you're just talking about guys who string their exes along in case of a break up, then I agree-- what a jerk. Link to post Share on other sites
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