ladybug Posted August 18, 2003 Share Posted August 18, 2003 \[color=green][/color] Hello all, This is my first time to post. I guess I'll get right to the point. I have moved to two different states w/ my boyfriend in the last year & a half & I'm feeling very unstable. This is the first time in my life that I don't have friends or family to lean on. Back home I had a wonderful career, many friends, & lifelong roots established in my community. We are living in a very desolate area & there are not very many full time residents. My boyfriend is self employed & he works out of the home. We now share a car & go everywhere together. When out & about he has no problem striking up a conversation w/ just about anybody & I'm a little more reserved(shy). While he's working the crowd , I'm just standing there like a scared little kid. I've got all this negative self- chatter going on in my head & it really bites the big one. Since we have moved I have become very insecure, fearful, & my self image is shot. I just don't know what to do with myself. I'm so hungry for companionship. I'm so used to being around my sweet Grandmother, loving friends & neighbors... It's such a struggle at times, perhaps someone out there in cyber land can offer some insight or friendship or a book that might help. Ladybug Link to post Share on other sites
I'llBeBetterOFF Posted September 8, 2003 Share Posted September 8, 2003 LadyBug: Yes a good book would be "Self Matters" by Dr. Phil McGraw I think you will find it may unlock other doors and give you answers to your questions. Good Luck to you! Take Care!! Link to post Share on other sites
Clancy Posted September 9, 2003 Share Posted September 9, 2003 I know he's become a cliche by now but I highly recommend Anthony Robbin's books. I think one is called Awaken the Giant Within and the other is Absolute (or Unlimited)Power. If you study his books and apply what he's says to your own problems I find you can't help but begin to feel better. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted September 9, 2003 Share Posted September 9, 2003 that's a stinker, moving away from a familiar place where your friends and family are still living, Ladybug. Have you thought about getting involved in volunteer work in an area you like? Or maybe joining a church or school group? Even taking a class will help open doors to new relationships, like courses offered through local colleges, museums, libraries, clubs, etc. Don't despair, though, sometimes it just takes a bit longer to feel comfortable in a new place, but getting involved helps a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
Bonzai007 Posted September 9, 2003 Share Posted September 9, 2003 Hey Ladybug, I know what it feels like, the way you do....but to make a long response short, Ill tell you this. I would go back to your family, your old town for a weekend or week. Then I would decide from there If you like it too much or if you think you moved on a bit and are ready to let go....remember it takes sometime to meet new people...but If your heart is throbbing and you feel you need to go back, do! Just Another Crazy Opinion by BoNzAi Double O Seven Link to post Share on other sites
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