How long do you think it will take for her to realize I will always be there for her?

[tracys toy soul]

I am so confused and scared. There's a very special woman that I think I love, but I don't think she feels the same way. We started out as friends in april when we met, she started it by kicking me. Everyone I trusted always hurt me in the end, but when something happned and she said she would help me out if I needed it I knew I could trust her because she didnt even know me that much but she trusted me. We were together everyday. I was always doing something for her, making her laugh, fixing the A/C, helping her out in everyway I could. She told me her parents like me and her kids do too, and I was the best friend she had in a long time.

Then one night, her and I and a friend went to a bar and everything was fun, until I seen her dancing with another guy, I couldn't even look at her the whole night, I guess I had those feelings for her for a while but I didn't want them, I knew I’d end up getting hurt again. I'm 27 years old and I've always been alone because women generally hate me. What's wrong with her? I still kept my feelings for her hidden. Theres a bus we take together, and the bus driver started hitting on her but she made jokes about it, then I guess after a while she started to get interested in him. When they finally started talking she was really happy. When she told me I pretended to be happy, but it was tearing me apart, I wanted to be with her now.

 

I decided to tell her how I felt about her one day and when she found out she said it surprised the hell out of her, and said it was sweet. She told me she wanted to get her life in order before she starts anything. Then about 3 weeks later we started talking about it again and she said theres a few good guys she has her eyes on. I asked her if i was one and she said yeah.Nothing can explain how that made me feel.

 

Then I was kinda hurt when we stopped seeing each other as much as we did because she had other things to do. So I started thinking that maybe she didnt want me around anymore. I said something about me jumping out of a window (when I told her how I felt about her I also told her about what happnend 4 years ago when I thought of ending it all). She took that really hard and was angry, She tried it about a year ago with pills, it happned to her friends too. I guess she thought I was rushing her for more She said that her only feelings for me are as a friend. I wasn't rushing her, I would have waited forever. The day before, her mom and dad were over, yelling at her like they always do about her life and they really upset her. All I wanted to do was go over there to be there for her, but she said that she was to mad for company right now. That’s why I said what I did.

 

I lied to her about why I said the things I did, so she forgave me. She told me that I’m a really good friend and she doesnt want to ruin it. So I really dont know, is it possible that she might give me a second chance? I thought that she might be testing me to see if I bail out on her, or if I was only there for one thing. Maybe she wants to know how long I'd be there for her.

 

She has been in 2 relationships and both especially the last one were really abusive, and I just don't want that to happen again. The last relationship she had was 10 years long and he beat her up the whole time, It must have been a nightmare. Maybe she wants to see if she could trust me, or trust herself to get out if it doesn’t work. I wouldn't hurt her, but I think I did by lying to her about why I was talking about the window. I thought of something that has bothered me since i thought of it, maybe because of everything that has happned to her, she is scared because she knows how I feel about her and I will always be there for her and she has never had that. I don't think she had anyone that was there for her.

 

Is there any hope of me winning her heart? Will she ever want to be more than friends in time?, because I am willing to wait. God, I love her so damn much. Uncle kracker's drift away reminds me about how I feel about her, now I just cry when I here it because I dont think we will ever be together.

 

I just want to give her the world, and she knows it, but I can't. When something isn't working the way she wants, I want to hold her in my arms until she falls asleep, and tell her everything's gonna be ok, when she falls asleep I'd go out and make it ok. when it seems everything is falling apart for her, I want to hold her by her fingertips and tell her that whatever happens, im not going to let her fall. I want to run after her just tickling her, I’m always carrying her kids around on my shoulders, and that’s all good, but I wanna carry her. Her foot got scraped by her daughter on a bike ride with the training wheels, she was limping really bad and all I wanted to do was carry her home in my arms, but I couldnt because she just wanted to be friends and I think it would have made her uncomfortable. I found a place where I can buy an acre of mars and I wanted to get one to give to her, I'd tell her I can't give her the world but I can give you a piece of mars. She is a scorpio so mars is her planet. But I cant do that now because I have to hide my feelings for her because I dont want to lose what I got with her.

 

So this was certainly long wasnt it? If someone can help me out and let me know if I really do have a chance at winning her heart, if so how? Do you think she is testing me? Is being there for her when everyone else quits something that can help me win her heart? How long do you think it will take for her to realize I will always be there for her? Can we be more than friends? Will we ever be together? I really need her. I really do love her. She is the only woman to treat me like I mean something, and it’s just scaring the hell out of me.

[Curt]

So much of me wishes I could tell you that you will win her heart.

 

So much of me wishes that you will eventually hold her hand as her partner.

 

So much of me wishes that your dream will come true.

 

Why?

 

Well, I am in a similar type of situation myself.

 

A woman whom I would give my last bit of life to has decreed that she wants to be friends only.

 

Since, we have talked about her life growing up in her old community, the way she spent her summers, etc. We got into a great discussion about the story she loved her dad to read her when she went to bed - "The Three Little Pigs".

 

We've sat and chatted about what she is doing at university, her dreams for the future, her views on the importance of people enjoying just "spending time together" as compared to always having to be "doing something"...and the list of topics discussed goes on.

 

I even went so far as to get a book that I told her about from the local library and brought it to her to read. Given that she liked "The Three Little Pigs" so much as a kid, I told her that she might enjoy taking a look at the story "The Truth Story of The Three Little Pigs" Although it is a children's book (and I told her so beforehand), I thought she might get a charge out of it. She did, and although very busy at work that evening, she read it, and enjoyed it.

 

I guess it was very silly that I did that. Nonetheless, I want her to be with me, and I would do anything for her. She would certainly always be respected, loved, and appreciated. Nonetheless, that is MY dream, and not hers. I can't even explain how much that hurts, but, such is life. We are friends, but I am starting to believe that even if this was a mistake on my part, as I really want her to be so much more. In a situation like this, it's best likely to just go separate ways.

 

Why should I recount this ?

 

Well, look at your predicament. The love you give goes one way, and even though she likes you as a friend, I don't know how you can really stay her friend and keep YOUR sanity. Perhaps you are stronger than I am, and can live seeing her and talking with her, but not loving her. I'm not so sure I can say the same. I've been wondering if I should just stop talking to the girl I've fallen for completely, and save my own heart. You need to consider the same thing.

 

You will likely never win her heart, as she doesn't want you in a love relationship. Know that this has nothing to do with you yourself, but that it is just her preference. I too know the pain of being alone, and feeling like a waste of skin. Nonetheless, in times of testing such as these we need to be ever aware that God knows what is best for us. Pray for guidance, pray for strength, and praise him for the opportunity you were given to know and appreciate her as you did.

 

I wish I could tell you that things would be as I stated at the start of this post...because it might give me hope too.

 

Nonetheless, I fear you will always just be her friend.

 

Good luck in your search. You will make some girl very lucky someday.

 

Keep the faith.

 

Curt.

[tracys toy soul]

I hear what you are saying, but I just can't let her go. I don't want to ruin our friendship over my feelings. She needs someone, she has been through hell, and I am NOT going to bail on her. If I do, than she gets hurt, and I'm still alone so we both lose. I've been hurt like this all my life so I just don't care anymore. I think she will crush my soul. Oh well, it's only life I guess, it doesnt mean anything.

 

Anyone else got another side to my problem? please[color=black][/color][color=darkred][/color][color=red][/color]

[BlockHead]

I don't think that she knows what love really is. Maybe she is looking for the erotic sexual fantasy that we call "love at first sight," or maybe she is looking for what she thinks is her "true love." If she was willing to be in an abusive relationship for 10 years, maybe she has no concept of real love. Maybe she finds comfort in people trying to control her, or maybe she likes an overwhelming will. All of this could stem from her childhood.

 

I get the impression that you want to be a hero. I agree, nothing feels more manly than being able to come to someone's rescue. The problem is that you can't help someone that does not want your help.

 

I can't help thinking that she is trying to manipulate you in some sadistic way. Maybe she is trying to seduce you into forcing her into a relationship. Maybe she thinks that if you love her, you would force her. Maybe she thinks compassion and empathy are weaknesses. Whatever you do, don't fall into that trap.

 

Personally, I think your energy is better spent elsewhere. If you want to feel like a hero, then do some volunteer work because it will be a lot more productive.

[tracys toy soul]

Some of what you said kinda makes sence, but I really hope you are wrong about her wanting another relationship like the past. I think she just might want some time alone, she has been in relationships since she was 17. the last guy, the monster, she was with treated her like gold until the wedding night, thats when everything went to hell. Maybe she believes that I will do the same to her. The reason that she stayed 10 years with him is because of all the drugs he had her on, and he manipulated her into thinking that she was absolutely nothing and he is the only one that will ever love her.

 

As for flat out telling her how I feel, well I think it's too unstable right now to do that, I want to show her that I do want her enough to wait for her to be ready to date again. But I thought about telling her exactly how I feel too.

 

Maybe when she realizes how much I honestly care about her and would never make her do anything she doesn't want to, she will see what I can offer her.

 

When we met I didn' even think about her this way, then when we got to know each other I Knew I had a great friend, then just like that out of nowhere I fell for her. I hope that's how she will feel about me someday.

 

She said Im a really good friend and she is comfortable just talking to me and not worrying about saying the wrong things. Isn't that kind of openness and freedom you want in a relationship? Maybe someday she might change her mind about me, I hope.

 

Thanks for understanding BlockHead, many people just reply with "you need help".I don't need help, I need her.

[BlockHead]

I am in a similar situation myself. I like a woman who said that we can only be friends. Her reasoning was just absurd. She was never able to explain what her idea of love is. I believe that she subscribes to the idea that there is the "one" or the "true love" as dictated by the heavens. The kind of love that can topple mountains. I want to see that topple me.

 

She seems to crave sympathy. For example, she will ask "why can't men feel the pain of childbirth?" It is as if pain were some kind of affliction that women had to endure. She believes that "men have it easy."

 

She sometimes likes to say that she does not like it when people try to control her, but I can tell that she also tries to manipulate me. Instead of asking me to do things, she will order me. When I refuse, she will apologize saying that it was a joke. Whenever we are together, she will take control of the conversations. Maybe I'm feeding her Narcissism.

 

Sometimes I ask myself "why do I bother?" Maybe I really do love her. Maybe I think the other women in this world are no better. Maybe I'm just lonely because I don't have many close friends. Does she really deserve somebody like me? Do I deserve to be treaded like this?

 

In demonic possession, the people who are possessed tend to be people with greater inner strength, and greater potential for good that most people. They are often lonely people who are seduced with the offer of friendship.

 

Maybe you should spend some time (a few weeks) away from her, and think things through, and that means absolutely no contact.

[tracys toy soul]

I was told that she might be felling "smothered" by me. I was told to give her some space because she might just run away from me. And after some thought I decided that might be true. So I thought I'd back off a while, but I'm scared she might think if I don't call or anything it's because I don't want to talk to her anymore because all I wanted was to sleep with her or something like that, and because she only wants to be friends I don't want anything to do with her. Which is so not true.

 

my neighbor said I should ignore her for a while, but this guy is pure scum and enjoys playing with womens emotions. So I never have that idea a second thought. Then a woman on another forum told me that she might just quit being friends with me if I dont give her some space. Thats what this woman did to her guy friends that had feelings for her. So that makes sence.

 

She used to jokingly ask me if I missed her when we seen eachother the next day, but now even our phone calls last about 5 minutes. But the funny thing is, she started being clingy first!

 

It's not that Im trying to be clingy, I just really enjoy spending time with her and her kids. We've only talked about "us" 4 times, and she brought it up twice. We just talk and have fun together. She came into where I work yesterday and said hi. She could haven't said anything, I wouldn't have even noticed she was there, so i think she still wants to be friends which is good. Also she works too and says she is tired so thats why we don't talk much, she does sound tired when I call, but i still want to back off. I know how much I miss her so maybe she will miss me too.

 

Yeah, blockhead, you do love her. All my advice to you is just be there for her. maybe when she sees how much you care she will think differently about you.

[TS Garp]

I've said this before here, but I'll say it again: I disagree strongly about being trapped in the friend zone. Friends can become lovers and can become involved in relationships. I never stop laughing at posters here who think otherwise.

 

It does sound to me like you've pressured her a bit. Back off, be there for her and let the relationship develop on its own for awhile. You might be surprised at the result.

[tracys toy soul]

have you seen it happen before? I hope you have. I hope you are right about this.

 

ok look this is weird, ive got 2 different forums with the same subject, here is a link to the other forum. please check it out to get the WHOLE story.

 

 

under coping/ general questions/ can we ever be more than friends

[TS Garp]

I'm living it.

 

My advice: Just be yourself, be her friend and make it clear to her that you're in for the long haul. There are no absolutes. It's possible she's a difficult character who will use you. But it's equally possible that she'll see how much she means to you. The signs will be obvious if she does.

 

Good luck.

[tracys toy soul]

Were you the one that wanted someone or were you the one that just wanted to be friends?

 

If you were the one that wanted more, do you know what happned to change her/his mind? and how long did it take?

 

If it was you that changed your mind about being more than friends, what happned to change your mind?

 

also how long have you been together, and how is the relationship going?

 

And congratulations on living my dream.

[tracys toy soul]

Can someone please put me out of my misery. I've just resorted to trying pheromones.

[siljie]

Hey there,

 

wow, you've resorted to pheromones ? You're way head over heels for this woman, I c. But how's that supposed to help? I mean even if it works, that means you're gonna be ordering a life supply of that stuff or what? And if she finds out?

What's the difference from casting a spell on her then?

 

It looks like you're prepared to wait for this person, at least it seems like you think u are. So how long would you wait? It's your choice. Do wadever makes you happy, and wadever feels rite, but you have to be very clear abt what to expect. There are no guarantees.

 

You have to let her know before anything can happen. Even if you decide to prove to her with the passing of time, you still have to let her know how you feel 1st. I know where you're coming from.

[tracys toy soul]

Hey I know they won't even work, but I just gotta try. I just thought that if it does work then she might start to think differently, that's all. I would do anything for her. As for how long I'd wait, as long as it takes, or until she finds someone, and crushes my soul.

 

I read your post too, and I know how you feel. Theres just got to be a way for us to do this. If only I knew how. I think Tracy and I connect on certain levels, but we don't quite know what eachother is thinking, and I hope we never do because loosing her to someone else then would kill me.

[tracys toy soul]

You said I should let her know how I feel first. Well, she knows how I feel about her. I was thinking if I should show her in little ways like chasing her around the house with her kids or tickling her feet and just childish things like that. But I'm not sure it would be appropriate. Can I? Please let me know if that kind of stuff would be ok. I mean if I wanted to be friends with someone but thay wanted more, and I she started doing things like that I'd have second thoughts. Hey she did chase me around her place then shoved an ice cube down my pants!!

[siljie]

Hey, how's everything?

 

Well, maybe you shouldn't read too much into anything at this point. You said dat she knows how you feel so you actually told her? How did you tell her and what was her reaction?

 

It really depends. For me, I'm a friend till the memory of time fades away NO MATTER WAD, and I don't do anything to push it. But it's very clear that I care alot abt her and I can't be more genuine. The line between friends and lovers is quite fuzzed up, sometimes, the grey can't get greyer. It isn't exactly the most conscious process.. but anyway, just stick your best bit there for her. If it's meant to happen, she'll know one day, that's of cos if you're prepared to wait no matter wad. which is why I asked you the 1st time if you were.

 

Anyway, what makes you so sure that she's the one for you? Like they say, there ARE other fish in the ocean.

 

Wadever you do, just don't overdo it. Ppl tend to lose their own ability to influence or exude their personalities when they go gaga, and it's not like I'm asking you to play hard to get. Even friends need a measure of space and respect for each other, so keep it there. Enjoy yourself if you love this gal, it'll show, and if she knows, great! Cos you've gone beyond words to show her and yourself.

 

It's a great thing already to be able to love somebody who's beautiful.

[Leikela]

It IS possible to go from "just friends" into something more. This has happened to me twice in my life. The first time I was 16 and my guy friend told me he liked me in Feb and I told him I just wanted to be friends. Then he grew on me and by May we were going out. That relationship lasted 8 years and we separated because we were too young to get together and just went on different paths in life.

 

The second time was just recently. September of 2002 I met my current boyfriend at my part time job. We instantly connected on a friendship level but I had never thought of him as anything more. To make a long story short, he became my best friend and we were inseparable. Apparently, he said he loved me from the moment he met me and had wanted to be with me ever since. He never told me though and I was clueless.

 

By December I started to see him in a different light. He was such a good friend, but I had a boyfriend at the time so I never took it any further. Finally it was evident that we were crazy about eachother and I broke it off with the other boyfriend and here we are 11 months later, happy as clams! He is the most loving, generous, patient, caring guy ever. I just wish it didn't take me so long to realize that!

 

As for your problem, just take it day by day and if it happens, it happens. I think you're stressing about it too much. I know you love her and want to be with her but the best thing comes to those who wait. Continue to be her friend and carry on like you have been. Don't ever mention your feelings to her again.

 

Putting some space between you two might be a good idea, but only so she can miss you. Don't stay away too long. Just say you have been very busy. If you play your cards right, it might work out in your favor. The first step is to remain calm and take it one step at a time.

[tracys toy soul]

Yip, I was thinking I should give up all hope last night, but Leikela, what you said has kinda renewed my hope. I thought of her as a great friend too at first, then after a while I began to see her differently. That's why I thought maybe she might change her mind some day about me.

 

I really want to get to know her like no one else does, only her (NOT LIKE THAT YOU FREAKS!!) Hey, she is beautiful, she would make a bishop kick out a stained glass window kind of beautiful, but it's so much more than that.

 

So never talk about my feelings for her again?

 

To answer your questions siljie, well when I told her I didn't exactly tell her. I've lied to people that could have thrown me in jail for 30+ years without even tapping my fingers, but I knew I couldn' t tell her how I felt without houng completely numb, so I emailed her.

 

When I talked to her the next day she said "It shocked the s% out of me." She said it was very sweet, but she couldn't get into anything like that right now. She also said she didn't want to break my heart. So what does that mean? that there is no hope at all? Then one night she brought it up, she said her 85 year old uncle got a girlfriend. He asked ge when shes going to find a guy, she said that when she is ready she has a few good guys in mind. I asked her if I was one and she said "yeah".

 

Than after that incident when she was angry at me for what I said, she told me that her feelings for me were as a friend. So that's what is making me so scared now, that's why I think there may be no hope. Can she change her mind?

 

I think she may have just lied to me the first times about there being a chance so I wouldn't get hurt, but I know she is a very honest and outspoken person, so I don't know if she would lie. Now I don't think that there's a chance at all.

 

And how do I know she is the one, well it's like this. 4 years ago, as I said, I wanted to die, but I found something to live for, well someone to live for. I never thought about any other woman except her. I knew we'd never be together, but I had to try and find out. But she was a dream. Then Tracy showed up and changed EVERYTHING.

 

I don't know what the hell I was even thinking, a guy like me doesn't get a girl like her. That only happens in the movies. I think SHE put a spell on me, she is really evil. She was born on halloween.

 

She is a wondeful, strong, amazing and beautiful person. I'm glad I got to know her, I'm glad that we're friends and I love her. I just wish I NEVER met her.

[siljie]

Hi hi,

 

 

I think what you need now is to take a deep breath, hold it there, exhale and then take stock.

 

Somebody did say that there's no telling the future, and truly there isn't. I've seen enough stuff happen to know that things can always change, and I'm almost ready to believe that anything is possible. Ultimately, it's the choices we make that make a difference, and to be honest, if you find out that you're not her choice for a lover, accept it and move on. There's the one whos' meant for you.

 

There are only a few persons in this world that we can truly feel for in our lifetime. We tend to feel closest to the ones who understand us best, and it's not without reason. However, if one of your closest friends decides she will marry for reasons other than just that level of intimacy, it's her choice, and you have to respect her for that. And move on. It's the only way to live your life, anyway. Even now, you have to maintain some form of autonomy and independence. Esteem goes both ways, and so does the giving and receiving in any relationship. You need to be your own person rite now for her to appreciate you in the 1st place.

 

Hang in there, you can do this. And really, you just never know what may happen. )

[tracys toy soul]

Well all I know is this has happned to me my whole life. Everytime I fall for someone it always ends up with me being alone, and I can't do this anymore.

 

I've lost my heart a long time ago and now I'm going to get my soul crushed by Tracy, it's the only way it can be. This time though, it will be the last time. I am just going to be alone forever. There is no one for me and never will be.

 

I know she will find someone else, that's how it always is. It's just god's little joke, or am I the joke?

 

You know what's the funniest thing about all of this is? To me love is what life is all about, it's the only reason to live. If you are together with someone, that's all you need to get through anything life has in store. But I'll never know what it feels like.

[siljie]

Hey,

 

You have got happy times always to look back to, and you should try to capture those again in your life now. Forget all those preconceptions and don't bear grudges with the past, it doesn't really matter anymore than you allow it to.

 

IF it isn't mutual for her, then she is not the one for you; there's no point and anyway we hardly know what the point of life really is. Am not asking you to drop her, stick to the plan we talked abt earlier if you actually still want to after having thought abt it, and if you are sure that you can take it. If not, it's always a good thing to drop her now (u can still be frens u know even closer perhaps than b4) becos that means that you're one step closer to meeting the one 4 you.

 

All things happen for a reason, and I'm sure this too. Besides, friendship is sometimes better anb more valuable than romantic one r/s.

 

You can do this.

[iloveash]

Originally posted by tracys toy soul

I hear what you are saying, but I just can't let her go. I don't want to ruin our friendship over my feelings. She needs someone, she has been through hell, and I am NOT going to bail on her. If I do, than she gets hurt, and I'm still alone so we both lose. I've been hurt like this all my life so I just don't care anymore. I think she will crush my soul. Oh well, it's only life I guess, it doesnt mean anything.

 

Anyone else got another side to my problem? please[color=black][/color][color=darkred][/color][color=red][/color]

 

hi, i am having almost the same problem as you now, fall in love with my friend, express my feeling for her, and was rejected by her, she say want to remain as friends, waste still, she said there is someone else in her heart already and told me there is not point waiting for her, i think u could understand my pain, tell u the truth when she sms me that she dont mean to hurt me and hope to remain as close as before as friends and she even sms me two cute teddy bears and greet me good night, i actually cry...even in the middle of the night, i woke up and cry, i have given her my heart and now i got this outcome, i just felt very sad because in future i can only look at her as friends and nothing more.

 

i totally understand what u mean by "i just can't let her go" because i too is having the same problem right now and the pain and scars is still there inside my heart.

 

i am not sure whether this will help but someone told me this "let her be your friend. Stop looking for clues and signs she is ready for more. If she is ever ready she will let you know"

[siljie]

Hey Ash,

 

I agree with what your friend told you. We don't have to be onthe lookout constantly just to see if she's showing signs of being more than just a platonic friend or sth. Anyway, all of us have made it clear that we're romantically inclined towards them, so the rest is pretty much up to them.

 

Let's just carry on with the rest of the good things we have in our lives. Anyway, remaining a pathetic crawlie doesn't actually tell the person that you're emotionally mature and independent for a serious relationship, and it kinda discredits the feelings that we professed we have for them. We like or love them, not addicted to or dependent on them.

 

That said, I suppose we need to check ourselves every now and then. If it's love that I have for her, I would like to respect her choices, her privacy, and everything else that's her. Furthermore, to be in love with a close friend doesn't exactly mean you aren't her friend anymore, or does it? The friendship may have been built up over years or even decades, and even if time is not the factor, friends are treasures in life. She still wants to talk to you, confide in you, do stuff and hang out with you. Just remember how much this person means to you, and not focus on the amorous part and forget everything else.

 

Humans are funny creatures and that applies to all of us. LOL

Let them know with the gradual passing of time that it's always been an honour to love and cherish them as your friend, as a person, as someone dear in your lives.

[iloveash]

Originally posted by siljie

Hey Ash,

 

I agree with what your friend told you. We don't have to be onthe lookout constantly just to see if she's showing signs of being more than just a platonic friend or sth. Anyway, all of us have made it clear that we're romantically inclined towards them, so the rest is pretty much up to them.

 

Let's just carry on with the rest of the good things we have in our lives. Anyway, remaining a pathetic crawlie doesn't actually tell the person that you're emotionally mature and independent for a serious relationship, and it kinda discredits the feelings that we professed we have for them. We like or love them, not addicted to or dependent on them.

 

That said, I suppose we need to check ourselves every now and then. If it's love that I have for her, I would like to respect her choices, her privacy, and everything else that's her. Furthermore, to be in love with a close friend doesn't exactly mean you aren't her friend anymore, or does it? The friendship may have been built up over years or even decades, and even if time is not the factor, friends are treasures in life. She still wants to talk to you, confide in you, do stuff and hang out with you. Just remember how much this person means to you, and not focus on the amorous part and forget everything else.

 

Humans are funny creatures and that applies to all of us. LOL

Let them know with the gradual passing of time that it's always been an honour to love and cherish them as your friend, as a person, as someone dear in your lives.

 

i so very much agree with what u are saying man,i guess we just have to be patient,time will tell, if we really love her's', even to the end of time, she's' will always be in our heart. i told her that, i respect her decision but if ever she needs someone to talk to when she is feeling down, i will be there for her... time will tell man, time will tell...

[Wolverine117]

Hi

 

 

I just wanted to say I know how you feel. Or I think I do.

 

 

Please be patient. Give her space. DO not go to her and profess your love.

It doesnt work. Trust me.