vascogirl Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 But I've been a longtime lurker here and I've been reading alot of threads and honestly majority of you guys are weak individuals, I'm sorry if I sound harsh. It's very hard to make things work out once you've broken up, my Auntie always said things are never the same after a first break up. I'm a female and I've always learned to move on. I think most of you guys need some help. I just don't believe what people on the internet have to say, I don't think everyone here tells 100% of there problems when they make a thread. I'm saying everyone everyone,but at least 75% don't tell the whole truth. Again, I'm sorry for this but I feel like this is too much for me at the moment, If the one you want back does not feel the same way,accept it and move on as hard as it sounds, desperation makes it worse. It seems when one tells you guys to move on all you do is ignore them and say thanks to the person who gives you weak emotional support. The way I see it is if your here for advice because your relationship is having alot of problems or your trying to get your ex back, than your answer lies within yourself. I'm sure you guys will all disagree with me and say I'm mean etc. But I'm not weak especially since most females are. Have a good one. Link to post Share on other sites
BCCA Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 I don't mean to sound mean.... Classic disclaimer, usually imediately followed by an obviously mean statement. You cant judge someone's character based on how they act following a break up. I think that's great that you can just move right on, but there are people here who have been married or together 5-10 years. Have you been married or with someone longer than 5 years? If not, then you just dont understand. I can't honestly imagine that you wake up the next day and feel perfectly fine about losing a long term bf. I'm sure you grieve as well. There is no schedule for getting over a breakup, everyone loves differently. I know you are just giving your opinion, but people come here when their heart is broken and the feel helpless. They come here for some advice, and yes - sometimes sappy moral support, but people need some help sometimes, and there is nothing wrong with that. People are down, no need to kick them, too. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 The OP seems to be posting in one particular poster's threads...no clue why that is... On-topic, it is a support and advice forum, open to the public, so weak and strong mix at will. Just like in life Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 I just don't believe what people on the internet have to say, Should we believe you ?.. You did just post this on the internet... I find your post about how people deal with problems a rather large generalization.... All people have their own demons to slay ..even you.. Each person slays their demons their own way.. some move on as you do and some don't and require the help of others.. it doesn't make them weak.. it makes them human.. People aren't weak for coming here and asking for help.. They are merely looking for a way to feel better... One day you may find yourself in a position of not moving on and require help also.. I had always moved on easily from breakups until this one where I invested too much of myself emotionally I got handed my heart in pieces.. I needed help.. so I got some here... Link to post Share on other sites
High Plains Drifter Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 But I've been a longtime lurker here and I've been reading alot of threads and honestly majority of you guys are weak individuals, I'm sorry if I sound harsh. It's very hard to make things work out once you've broken up, my Auntie always said things are never the same after a first break up. I'm a female and I've always learned to move on. I think most of you guys need some help. I just don't believe what people on the internet have to say, I don't think everyone here tells 100% of there problems when they make a thread. I'm saying everyone everyone,but at least 75% don't tell the whole truth. Again, I'm sorry for this but I feel like this is too much for me at the moment, If the one you want back does not feel the same way,accept it and move on as hard as it sounds, desperation makes it worse. It seems when one tells you guys to move on all you do is ignore them and say thanks to the person who gives you weak emotional support. The way I see it is if your here for advice because your relationship is having alot of problems or your trying to get your ex back, than your answer lies within yourself. I'm sure you guys will all disagree with me and say I'm mean etc. But I'm not weak especially since most females are. Have a good one. Well, I don't disagree with you. You post here for one or two reasons: You're one of these fragile flowers that burst into tears every time your GF breaks up with you, or because you've just learned your spouce is cheating, or you are tired of being married, or whatever. OR You feel you have gone through all this BS and have something constructive to say. Link to post Share on other sites
WiseOne1 Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 But I've been a longtime lurker here and I've been reading alot of threads and honestly majority of you guys are weak individuals, I'm sorry if I sound harsh. It's very hard to make things work out once you've broken up, my Auntie always said things are never the same after a first break up. I'm a female and I've always learned to move on. I think most of you guys need some help. I just don't believe what people on the internet have to say, I don't think everyone here tells 100% of there problems when they make a thread. I'm saying everyone everyone,but at least 75% don't tell the whole truth. Again, I'm sorry for this but I feel like this is too much for me at the moment, If the one you want back does not feel the same way,accept it and move on as hard as it sounds, desperation makes it worse. It seems when one tells you guys to move on all you do is ignore them and say thanks to the person who gives you weak emotional support. The way I see it is if your here for advice because your relationship is having alot of problems or your trying to get your ex back, than your answer lies within yourself. I'm sure you guys will all disagree with me and say I'm mean etc. But I'm not weak especially since most females are. Have a good one. I agree mostly with you. I feel that we sometimes put up with things or we spend to much of our time on trying to get someone back who doesnt want to be with us. Sometimes we spend hours and hours on LS while, our ex's are having a blast and living life. Sometimes when you look at your own old post it makes you feel weak and pathetic for sitting here and spending time, plotting or wishing or worrying will they ever get back with you. And Even i've made the mistake of trying to get someone back, most of them broke up with us, they should be trying to get us back for god sakes. Really" why would you want to be with someone who doesnt want you???? ______________________________________________________________ Butttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt! Your gonna get into a relationship with somebody one day, and there gonna step all over your heart, hey 'maybe when you get married' and if you ever did love them, your gonna end up on a website like "Loveshack" or your going to end up in counseling. Everyone is diffrent, how can you expect a person to get oversome they loved, or someone they were married to for 5 years or etc. Ya Know. So I agree, and kinda disagree Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 The OP seems to be posting in one particular poster's threads...no clue why that is... On-topic, it is a support and advice forum, open to the public, so weak and strong mix at will. Just like in life Well- if THERE is detective work to be done, one can look at writing patterns to see if we have a troll. THEN, it may become apparant who the mystery troll is. There, they're, their. Then, than. (clues) I just don't believe what people on the internet have to say, I don't think everyone here tells 100% of there problems when they make a thread. I'm saying everyone everyone,but at least 75% don't tell the whole truth. Again, I'm sorry for this but I feel like this is too much for me at the moment, If the one you want back does not feel the same way,accept it and move on as hard as it sounds, desperation makes it worse. It seems when one tells you guys to move on all you do is ignore them and say thanks to the person who gives you weak emotional support. The way I see it is if your here for advice because your relationship is having alot of problems or your trying to get your ex back, than your answer lies within yourself. I'm sure you guys will all disagree with me and say I'm mean etc. But I'm not weak especially since most females are. Have a good one. I'll just grab Fred, Velma, Shaggy, and Scooby-Doo, hop in the mystery van and get right on this. We're good at chasing Troll mysteries. Carhill- can you please bring the scooby-snacks? Blah- Even strong people have weak moments. There's no shame in that. I must point out that most people who are really happy and content with THEIR lives, don't normally make a habit of pointing out how weak other people are. Especially not those that are suffering. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 Better yet, why not convert that negativity into positive action and help some people in need. With all your strength, you can show everyone how it's done, potentially, all in one night! Great idea, huh? Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
ahhhchooo Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 I think most of you guys need some help. And this is a great place to find that help... I post here while I'm bored at work, then go home and put some of the advice into action. And it helps. Link to post Share on other sites
dead-dyke Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 Well- if THERE is detective work to be done, one can look at writing patterns to see if we have a troll. What's a troll? Nevermind - urban dictionary had the cure. Link to post Share on other sites
Intergalactic Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 lol, troll. yeah, i'm weak. the dude's a huge weakness for me and i fully admit that. yeah i'm ****ing depressed. i have bipolar disorder and therefore claim the right to be depressed about this and want to die over some guy who dumped me who i happen to love with every part of me. yeah, i'm supposed to get over it. thanks for that mate, i had NO IDEA that i need to move on from this. oh, but i can take however long i want, can't i? my life. if i want to bitch and whine for 6 months, i totally will. no one needs to read or listen. if you don't like what people are saying in their posts, why don't you **** off an not read them. by the way, it sounds like you're breaking up with LS - "Again, I'm sorry for this but I feel like this is too much for me at the moment". lol, my ex said that to me when he dumped me. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 Dee, sign me up for some Scooby-snacks. I too smell a rat... Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 Why so seriouse? Let me put a smile on your face! Link to post Share on other sites
me007 Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 A breakup and broken heart is no walk in the park. I think this is a great place for all us weak people to come for support. Link to post Share on other sites
Jilly Bean Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 Weak is the new black. Link to post Share on other sites
EmperorR Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 Well some people deal with emotions differntly , maybe you are right for that person but maybe not right now Link to post Share on other sites
Taramere Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 I just don't believe what people on the internet have to say, I don't think everyone here tells 100% of there problems when they make a thread. Never! You mean to suggest that people might not disclose every painful, embarrassing, unflattering or downright revolting aspect of or secret about themselves for the delectation of Loveshack readers? Shame on them. Again, I'm sorry for this but I feel like this is too much for me at the moment Snap out of it you lily-livered, consumptive weakling. Get over it! If the one you want back does not feel the same way,accept it and move on as hard as it sounds, desperation makes it worse. It seems when one tells you guys to move on all you do is ignore them and say thanks to the person who gives you weak emotional support. The way I see it is if your here for advice because your relationship is having alot of problems or your trying to get your ex back, than your answer lies within yourself. I'm sure you guys will all disagree with me and say I'm mean etc. But I'm not weak especially since most females are. Have a good one. This smacks of projection. I think that you're currently pining over someone who doesn't want you, and contemplating calling them. If insulting people on this website is what you need to do to distract yourself from doing such a thing, then you're every bit as weak and desperate as you fear you are. Link to post Share on other sites
nowhereman82 Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 It will be interesting to see if the OP bothers to respond This is a support forum....so yes, weak people and people that are strong with weak moments come here to vent, to be told what they already know. People do withhold info...either to keep it short or to hopefully get the answer they are looking for. I've noticed most people here see through it. But the OP is only fooling themselves if they twist the truth. Really makes me wonder why the OP has been checking this site for a long time....I only found this site when googling about relationship issues. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 *waits for the posting of the link to how2bestrong4$9.99dotcom* Link to post Share on other sites
Ingenue Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 To the OP, that's quite a blanket generalisation you've got going there. Even those who consider themselves emotionally strong have moments where they require advice and support. We all heal at different paces and in different ways. Before being involved in a long term (5+) year relationship, I never knew what it was like to have my heart broken. I never quite understood the pain that some of my friends would go through. And then it happened to me and I never would have pegged myself for the plastered-on-the-floor-can't-function-type of girl in a break-up. But that's exactly what I experienced. I accepted the break up, but it still. It hurt in ways that I had never imagined it could hurt. That doesn't make me less of a person because I experience the emotions of grieving and acceptance and pain. Places like LS are great to seek advice, solace, comfort and a sense of camaraderie that the problems we individually face are also experienced by many other people out there. Instead of judging us, perhaps it might be more productive if you used your strength in moving on to motivate others to do the same. Link to post Share on other sites
0hpenelope Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 :ahem: "Cuz like, you're so totally strong, rite?" Get over yourself, OP. Most LS participants - lurkers and posters alike - were looking for something at one time: support. Now the ones who stick around... most are the ones who have overcome their struggles and have enough empathy to help out by giving tough love or "nice love". Perhaps you're withholding that you came here to validate your perception of how much stronger you are than the "weak" LS members? Actually, that just makes things sound worse. I think we're just feeding the fire by responding to your thread. You're entitled to your own opinions, but making 'blanket statements' is rarely a winner. If nothing else, I call you 'troll' as well. Link to post Share on other sites
High Plains Drifter Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 Guys... The OP probably was a troll. Try to PM. no. Link to post Share on other sites
0hpenelope Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 *waits for the posting of the link to how2bestrong4$9.99dotcom* It's weird how OP didn't put this in her sig, actually. That's where those usually go. Thread closing any moment now? Link to post Share on other sites
0hpenelope Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 Guys... The OP probably was a troll. Try to PM. no. OP doesn't have the PM option. The account's still too new for the option. Link to post Share on other sites
High Plains Drifter Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 OP doesn't have the PM option. The account's still too new for the option. Ok try the AIM. Link to post Share on other sites
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