Dadubwa Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 I got married 4 years ago. I suppose the correct term isn't "married" instead it's "unionized". Whatever. We broke it off almost 3 years ago. I kept in touch with her, we're "friends" I suppose you can say. She picked right up after the divorce. I didn't. I sulked and felt sorry for myself. It's haunting me now to find out what shes been doing with her life. She got arrested, she's been sleeping around (with men and women alike), she's in debt. I can't even help but be jealous, of what i don't know. She's no good for me I know that. But the thought of her with someone else KILLS me. I can't even take it. It's terrible, and it's been almost 3 years. This is awful. She's over it. She tells me she loves me when she's drunk and what-not, and sometimes I lead myself to believe it. But it's not true. She's lying just to get what she wants. My attention. Get me out of this habit. WHY can't I allowed myself to close this chapter of my life? Why can't I just get over her and not be jealous? Why does every thing she says to me sound like 'save me'? Help PLEASE. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 She got arrested, she's been sleeping around (with men and women alike), she's in debt. I can't even help but be jealous, of what i don't know. You can't help but be jealous ? Why are you envious of her ability to trash her life, marraige, finances and body? I don't understand that. She sounds toxic. I wouldn't take her phone calls, open her emails or even return her spoken greeting. The real question isn't why she's done what she has, it's why you're even interested? There's a lot of other girls in this world, pick one and get involved. That is, unless you need the drama ... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
toughchoices Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 If this continues to bother you so much after three years I think you should seriously limit contact or cut it off altogether. It isn't doing you any good and you don't seem like you have been able to move on. Being around her when she is drunk knowing she is after attention is just begging for the pain. Ask yourself why you do it and perhaps look at getting some counseling. Divorce is a big stress and you may have some issues to resolve. Best of luck and hope this helps. Link to post Share on other sites
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