Isis1808 Posted September 19, 2008 Share Posted September 19, 2008 Lets start at the beginning, when i met my MIL my BF had just broken up with his ex (we were seeing each other while in other relationships). The first time i met his mom the first thing she told him was that she preferred his ex. Our relationship went a bit fast, cause i got pregnant about 3 months later. Im not that close to his sister or his mom, and i think its b/c of what she orginally said since she really didnt have a chance to get to know me and already she preferred his ex. I feel like the only reason she "likes" me at this point its b/c of the baby.. shes been waiting for him to have a child in a while since hes the baby and was the only one of her kids without kids. He wants to be go over her house alone to visit, talk and just get to know each other. I wouldnt mind doing that cause i have done that in past relationships, but i dont think i can do that if theres not an effort to get to know me by her part either, there has to be a middle ground and a 50-50 effort. My BF keeps pushing it and i asked him why and its b/c his ex was close to his mom and she was always all over her. The thing that bothers me is that he wants to be all over his mom but he cant even call mine to say hi. He also wants me to be bffs with his sister, which i cant even have a decent convo with her b4 shes telling me what to do with my son and giving me unwanted "advice" thats what the convo always consists of. I need to have convos that consists of something other than someone thinking that i dont know what im doing when it comes to raising my son. I dont even know what to say or do at this point b/c its apparent that he wants to be more like his ex with his fam, but we are 2 different ppl. He feels that just b/c my mom and sis moved to Vegas and i dont have any other immediate family around, i should just all of a sudden feel close and comfortable with his fam. That builds up, i dont just wake up and im close to someone. Hes all about pushing his fam on me but what about the rest of my fam thats here, my grandma, aunt, grandpa, i dont see them. Im not looking to replace my fam and the way hes pushing things thats how it feels. How do i approach this situation to my BF, MIL, and SIL without offending anyone??? Link to post Share on other sites
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