hoopsy32 Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 I'm new at this but I thought I'd give it a try... My boyfriend and I are at a point in our relationship (of over 4 years) where we are I guess on a break. Instead of just letting time pass and 'seeing how things go,' I want to be able to turn him on and show him the greatest sex, so that he can think twice about ever wanting to leave me. But, I'm just a pup... I don't know all that crazy kinky, mind-blowing, orgasmic stuff yet. I was wondering if anyone had any tips? Link to post Share on other sites
Jamie31 Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 Why don't ya go rent a few pornos and watch them and that would not only get you in the mood, but it would also give you some good ideas!!! hey, here's an idea - tell him to be at your house at a certain time one night. Then clean the house really good and get some really sexy candles lit to get the house smelling sexy. Then get some really romantic music. A few hous before he comes over, watch a few pornos to really get you in the mood. Then cook a really sweet dinner for him and have it over candlelight. Have the romantic music and the whole house lit up by candles when he gets there. And wear a really sexy dress and fix yourself up. Wear some sexy perfume. And have a bottle of champagne or wine with your dinner. After you do all that for him, surely he will be in the mood to get busy. And I think after an evening like that, the sex will be great, especially if you make the whole evening really romantic. And when you do have sex..take it slow. Make it last for hours and have lots of foreplay to get the mood going. Just take your time and make it last. If that don't blow him away, I don't know what else will. Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted August 19, 2003 Moderators Share Posted August 19, 2003 Not usually the type of topic I post on but... Have you both tried the above that Jamie suggested, with massage as an element of the mix? There is some nice stuff at http://www.sexuality.org on mutual massage for men and women, G-spot stimulation and Various other goodies are included. It's safe info. Make sure to follow up with making love...but only after the massage is done for both of you. Look into tantric sex as well. Might be worth a try. Body Electric has some massage workshops that are pretty well known. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hoopsy32 Posted August 20, 2003 Author Share Posted August 20, 2003 It'd be nice if I had my own place. Sure, I've thought about doing stuff like that, but not at his house where his dad would be wanting to know why I was cleaning up the place and being all fixed up and junk lol. There is a long story behind the reason why I don't have my own place, but I'm working on it. I just wish guys were eaiser to figure out! Link to post Share on other sites
Ryan Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 I just wish guys were eaiser to figure out! The penis is an insanely simple organ. One of the things guys like is normal stuff....with enthusiasm. Give a blow job but really get into it....."mmms" and the like. Have sex with you on top....work it like it's going out of style. Give him a lap dance...push that chest all up in his face. It's friggin great when women not only want it...but they TAKE IT. But this all is likely to be irrelevant. Great sexual activity does not a relationship make (or keep). Your time might be better spent figuring out why you are on a break......and that answer may be that the relationship has run its course. One of the hardest things to learn about having a good relationship is knowing when it's done. Link to post Share on other sites
cindy0039 Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 Wow, thanks for all the tips Ryan. It'll really help out when we have that convention. Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 giggles: candles are sweet, and awesome, but also: {with apologies to kipling} If if you can watch porn and acknowledge the basest desires of men and neither flinch nor judge and seek to understand and fulfill these desires and know that only training and systematic repression keep you from feeling similar desires daily and feel the urgent abject darkness of your soul and love it and say stick it in me as fast as you can from behind then, my dear, you are a sexual m'animal and a real woman. man, only four more days till my fifth date, im going bananas Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted August 20, 2003 Moderators Share Posted August 20, 2003 Hmm...Jenn...That rabbit looks like it could suck the chrome off a '57 Chevy. I'm sorry in advance. Curt Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 alright, thats it, ryan will have to share his conference with curt. Link to post Share on other sites
PurpleAngel Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 Originally posted by hoopsy32 I want to be able to turn him on and show him the greatest sex, so that he can think twice about ever wanting to leave me. NO amount of acrobatics or kinkiness is going to or should make you both stay in a relationship. It amazes me that women still think that as long as you keep a man happy in bed he will stay no matter what! Well the sex might be ACE but doesn’t mean that makes for a beautiful, profound and secure relationship! You need a balance of everything. Work on what the real issues are. Sex/love making is very instinctual so I am sure you are doing just fine at it! But working at relationship sometimes feels a little less instinctual so work at being in reality about where you are both at and where you are both wanting to go. Good Luck ~PurpleAngel~ Link to post Share on other sites
Author hoopsy32 Posted August 20, 2003 Author Share Posted August 20, 2003 I know, but right now I want to do the best that I can of every thing in our relationship and if that doesn't work, then I know its not me and I'll go from there. I'll have to see if he's willing to work on things and if not, then I guess its the end because I've tried my best. Link to post Share on other sites
Ryan Posted August 21, 2003 Share Posted August 21, 2003 No man worth having is gained or kept by way of sexual performance. Link to post Share on other sites
PurpleAngel Posted August 21, 2003 Share Posted August 21, 2003 Originally posted by Ryan No man worth having is gained or kept by way of sexual performance. I'd say AMEN!!! My advice is that you work on things OTHER than you performance at this stage. Stop thinking about it! Gees if I where having problems with my partner I sure wouldn’t be thinking about bonking him senseless, I’d be thinking about having a good ol' fashion chat! THEN i would bonk him sensless! Make up sex is always the best! Discussion, compromise and understanding! + All the rest! Lay it all out and then you will know 'if he is willing to work on things' as you said! Link to post Share on other sites
Author hoopsy32 Posted August 21, 2003 Author Share Posted August 21, 2003 I've listened to all your replies and last night we made-up and I spent the night... I just hope we don't do this again. Thankyou all for your advice! Link to post Share on other sites
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