In a one-yr. relationship but falling for a friend

[Confuesd Corner]

I am really confused right now. I have a boyfriend, with whom I have been going out with for a year now. However, I am beginning to feel attracted to a guy friend of mine. My bf doesn't know that we hung out behind his back because he's a jealous freak.

 

I realized that I am not as happy when i am with my bf as I am when i am with my guy friend. This guy friend of mine used to like me just before I started going out with my current bf. And now, my feelings for him have all came back and I want a chance with him. But I don't know if it's worth the 1 year relationship that I have been trying to keep. And how do i find out if my guy friend is interested in me still?

[Leikela]

Obviously, if your feelings for this other guy friend are back, your current relationship is LACKING. Your needs are not being met by your current boyfriend. When this happens you have two choices. 1-- Leave him or 2-- Try and work things out.

 

The fact that you let yourself get "involved" emotionally with another guy is a form of infidelity. Why would you want to salvage your relationship just because you put a year into it? The time frame does not matter. If you feel you cannot fix what you have with your boyfriend, end it. Why stick around? That's not fair to your boyfriend. You're playing with fire here. End one before you begin another...

[Tony T]

If your guy friend isn't seeing anybody now and he's spending a lot of time with you, then you need to talk to him about what his interest might be in taking the friendship to a higher level.

[jalexy]

i think its kinda crappy, but i think if you leave your man to be with this new man, that relationship will be cursed. and i think you need to put your mans needs and feelings into consideration here.

[STALLION21]

Please don't make the same mistake I made, I am w/ a guy now who I have been w/ for 4 yrs and we now have a child, if I would have listened to my iner self and left almost 3 and a half yrs ago, I would be much happier right now. Leave before you become deeply entagled if you do not want to be there, no matter what you have invested in this one yr relationship, is not worth you being happy.

[Confused Corner]

well..as the matter of fact, I did talk to my guy friend more about it. We both confessed to having feelings for each other. But we are just going to stay friends. But I know deep in my heart that I should do something about it. I don't want to be in a relationship when I am constantly thinkiing of another person. It's just not fair to either one of them. But it's just so hard to say the words to break up.

[chocolate_boy]

Don't stay with your current boyfriend just because you are too cowardly to end it. x

[Confused Corner]

i just talked to my bf or ex-bf...we are taking a break right now. i want to see if the feelings i have for the guy friend are actually legitimate. my bf was understanding about it but i feel so guilty and i almost want to get back together again. i miss him, afterall, it has been a year of memories. i am just trying to see how this break goes. i am petrified that i will end up with noone, which is most likely going to be the end result. but i guess i deserved it.

[christian]

first of all, you shouldn't be hanging out with this guy behind his back.. it appears that you are trying to make sure that you have someone else before you break up with your bf..

 

Is this guy friend of yours from where you work at?

 

maybe your bf is jealous because he knows that you might do something like you did.. by hanging out and being dishonest..

 

break up with your bf or work it out.. don't test the waters and if your friend likes you break up.. that is the lowest thing anyone can do on this planet..

 

be honest with your bf and tell him that you hung out with this guy.. he will not like it, but will be very happy that you were honest with him..