kimmie Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 i was looking for stuff on the internet about approaching strangers, and i came across this forum... i have an odd sort of situation. there is this really attractive guy whom i'd like to get to know working at a local grocery store, but i have no idea at all as to how to approach him. for starters, i'm incredibly shy when it comes to talking to guys (if there's interest on my behalf). i have the problem of getting so worked up thinking about it that i can't get up the nerve to actually do anything about it. i thought about maybe saying something like, "what high school did you go to? you look familiar...". but that is so lame, and it sounds like a blatant pick up line. the other thing is that he isn't a cashier or anything like that (where i could go through his line and end up with the "how are you today?" ice breaker). he's a produce stocker, so it's sort of difficult. i mean, i can't just go up to him and say something like, "wow, there sure are a lot of vegetables here...". how ridiculous would that be? he seems to be about my age (i'm 18, though he may be just a bit older), and i'm pretty sure he's seen me in there several times. i've tried to make eye contact (although i haven't blatantly stared, because that might seem creepy), but he is usually working with at least one other person and is usually involved in what appears to be idle chit-chat, so i've haven't actually been able to catch his eye. the other night, though, i was in there with two male friends, and as we were leaving, i noticed that he was on break with some others outside, and he definitely seemed to be looking out into the parking lot to see where we were going or whatever. oh, and there's one other thing- i leave to start college in about two weeks (although it's only 2.5 hours away from where i currently live), so on one hand, approaching him may not even bring about anything since i'm leaving. i also haven't dated anyone for over a year, not since a long-term boyfriend and i broke up, so all around, i'm really unsure about everything, what to do, and how to do it. the one thing that is keeping me so interested in him is because he is so damn sexy, and i feel some other psychological... pull towards him. i don't know what, but i really want to meet him... what should i do? any advice would be greatly appreciated! Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted August 19, 2003 Moderators Share Posted August 19, 2003 OK... I might have not even tried to answer this post, but the psychological pull thing is where you had my interest...have a sort of soft spot for that. Now you need a surefire way to see if you can pick this guy up? Be yourself. Look good, feel confident, go in there with all feminine "guns blazing", and introduce yourself. Then tell him that you've been looking through the store for a fair while, but there's something you really want, but you're not sure if you can get it there or not. Hopefully, he'll ask you what it is... (Afterall, that's his job?) Then you tell him you would really like a chance to get to know him better. Ask him if that's possible.. If yes, suggest a place and time, etc. where you both could go together. If no, say ok, no problem. Just sorta pass it off. Afterall, no biggie. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. ------------- Sounds corney doesn't it...oh well, I tried. Curt Link to post Share on other sites
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