BLaZeStaR Posted August 19, 2003 Share Posted August 19, 2003 so my parents got involved in this whole new business thing...and their partners...have a son the same age as me...20...we go to all the meetings as well..because we are trying to get into the business as well...at the meetings there are older people...we are the only two young ones...hes talkative and usually talks to everyone at the meetings but me...i see him looking...and we talk here and there..i mean he knows i exist...he says hi to me with his hands..like he looks and smiles and with a steady hand...moves his fingers...u probably understand what im trying to say..its not really a wave...ive been trying to figure out if hes interested or not...but wouldnt a guy who was interested in you talk to u..he talks to my dad a lot...the thing is his parents are always at the meetings and so are mine...we are both in college...my looks dont have anything to do with it...but my question is if hes talkative and talks to all these older people..why wouldnt he try to talk to me? please help...a.s.a.p. ....i see him on sunday again... Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted August 19, 2003 Moderators Share Posted August 19, 2003 Is he already in a relationship? I'm wondering if he worries that it might be inappropriate to go hitting on ya, given the business thing. Maybe he respects your dad too, and might feel a bit unfcomfortable getting too close/interested in you as a result of that. Ask him if he'd like to go out/hang out with you sometime away from work. If he says yes, make sure to have a time and place, etc. figured out so that you can give him the details of where you'd like to go with him, etc. Go as friends, with no further expectation than to get to know each other better. Take the chance. Ask him out. Could be a really nice guy...maybe just a little shy. Even if no is his answer, just look at it this way: Wouldn't it be better to just be a little uncomfortable for a while if he says no, or be a lot uncomfortable for a long time, just sitting there wondering if you both had a shot. By the way, does your dad like 'im? Go try to snag him, girl ! Let us know how things go. Curt Link to post Share on other sites
Author BLaZeStaR Posted August 20, 2003 Author Share Posted August 20, 2003 hey curt...well i dont know if whether or not hes taken...i feel asking him straight out will make him curious to why i asked...he seems like a great guy...my dad likes him...usually are talkative guys shy around girls they like? or are they still talkative...the thing is..when i ask him something..he talks to me without a problem..but he never wants to start the conversation...also im shy...so the whole time i think of what to say..but nothing comes to my mind...lol...also he lives in a different city...but his parents live close by...asking him to hang out...would be a it awkward...dont u think?well hes coming to my house sunday...maybe that would be the best time to talk to him..since usually the meetings are held elsewhere...are there any signals i should look for?..if u could help me with that..i would really appreciate it..thanks for your help... Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted August 20, 2003 Moderators Share Posted August 20, 2003 usually are talkative guys shy around girls they like? or are they still talkative...the thing is..when i ask him something..he talks to me without a problem..but he never wants to start the conversation. Hey Blaze, sometimes when I'm around women I like, I feel like my IQ drops about 40 points. He may be suffering from the same IQ problem around you. Hence the stunning sound of silence. ...also im shy...so the whole time i think of what to say..but nothing comes to my mind...lol Do lots of diggin' for things to talk about beforehand. ...also he lives in a different city...but his parents live close by...asking him to hang out...would be a it awkward...dont u think? How far away though? Is he within an hour's drive or...is he out in da boonies? well hes coming to my house sunday...maybe that would be the best time to talk to him..since usually the meetings are held elsewhere...are there any signals i should look for? Your house is perfect. It's your territory. Make him feel welcome. Signs he's interested; 1. Possibly flushed face. (Unless he's hypertensive) 2. Shifting his body position to match yours - turning toward you, matching your orientation. (Of course, he may be a wiggle worm...which can be interesting, I suppose.) 3. Fidgeting might tell you he's a bit nervy/insecure around you. 4. Dilated pupils (unless he's overcome by your beauty and he faints...all bets are off then) 5. Subtle or more outright glances at you. (Or outright oggling ya if he likes what he sees a lot.) Wear something appropriate, but attractive. Look your best. 6. Comments of how pretty, attractive, smart, beautiful, etc. etc. you are. 7. Active listening and questioning always tells of interest and therefore, often appreciation of a person's company. Anything else to tell this lady folks? The distance thing I am wondering about. Curt. Link to post Share on other sites
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