He is going to Vegas this weekend!!!!

[Lauriebell82]

So my boyfriend of 2 years is going to Las Vegas this weekend for his friend's bachelor party. Okay, so this makes me cringe. I have heard ALL kinds of stories about Vegas. It's like he is being sent out into the wild!

 

I'll footnote by saying I trust him completely. I know he would NEVER cheat on me, and I have asked him several times "what he will be doing."

He has told me over and over "I am just going to gamble." Okay, meaning strip clubs. He said he is staying at this hotel with mirrors on the walls and ceilings. Like I have said before, his freinds are extremely immature and behave like they are still in high school. All these crazy images are running through my mind.

 

Anybody wanna offer support!

[Jersey Shortie]

I'd be concerned. Anywhere from 20-60% of men cheat. and 95% of them will never tell their parnter unless they have to. These are facts I have read. Does that mean men are evil? Of course not. But it doesn't mean those men are treating their partners right or with respect.

 

Bachelor parties to strip clubs and places like Vegas are bs ways for men to act like they are stll single. I have no issue with men wanting to be single and act so if they actually are single. But why do men celebrate their marriage, somethign that is suppose to be special and about the one woman in their life, by going on a binge of x amoun tof women? It's lame and disrespectful. Now if a guy wants to go on a golf weekend, camping with his buddies or whatever that's very cool and understandable. But when you make a special trip to purposely involve members of the other sex, you got to ask yourself why.

[Treasa]

He's been to Vegas a couple of times before, though, right? I seem to remember that.

 

My boyfriend doesn't like strip clubs, and refuses to go to them even if I tell him it's ok. However, if he were to go to one, I'd trust him. He's never done anything shady or anything to make me feel nervous.

 

Tell him to have a great time, don't ask him what he'll be doing, and tell him you'll be out most of the weekend (leave it vague), so that he should leave you a message if he can't get ahold of you. And then actually go out all weekend!

 

It comes down to whether or not you truly trust him.

[Lucky_One]

Good gosh; he's going off for a fun weekend. Why does everyone think that all men immediately act like horny jackasses the minute they are away from their GF?

 

I wish I was going. I went to Vegas two years ago with a bunch of friends (one couple in the group), and we all "behaved". The guys didn't turn into tongue dragging Neanderthals or anything. Seeing the T&A at the casinos was as good as going to a strip joint anyway.

 

How about trust him, and tell him to have a good time?

[tanbark813]

Horror stories about bachelor parties are not the norm.

 

I planned my friend's bachelor party in Vegas a couple months back. We didn't step foot in a strip club the whole weekend. But then we're in our 30's and the novelty of strip clubs has lessened a bit. And no one did anything they couldn't tell their SO's about. It was mostly gambling, drinking, and comedy shows.

 

If you really trust your bf then you have nothing to worry about. I'll also add that if you're worried then you may not trust your bf as completely as you think you do.

[Jersey Shortie]

Why does everyone think that all men immediately act like horny jackasses the minute they are away from their GF?

 

Partly our fault. Partly men's fault for always stressing how much guys like sex, women and other things that invovle sex and women. I know guys can get mad with us thinknig the worst but sometimes even guys perpetuate that mindset.

[Lauriebell82]

Thanks for the replies. As others have commented, I really do trust him. We wouldn't have much of a relationship if I didn't. I know he won't cheat on me. I suppose I just feel that the thought of him in some sleezy strip club getting lap dances irks me a tad. But he said he was just mainly going to gamble and drink and see shows. His friends are really immature and act stupid, but I don't think they could EVER influence my bf to cheat on me.

 

Actually this will give me a chance to do some "girly" stuff and watch a bunch of chick flicks.

[djhall]

Actually this will give me a chance to do some "girly" stuff and watch a bunch of chick flicks.

While the other guys run off to party in Vegas, I'll come over and watch chick flicks with you.

[2sunny]

let it go... and don't make a big deal out of him going.

 

plan a few fun things for yourself while he is gone.

 

you have said in prior threads that you trust him - but history shows that you may overreact when the time comes and he goes to vegas.

 

so let it go - don't make a big deal about him living life. be happy he has friends and will behave when he's gone.

[Star Gazer]

If you trusted him as much as you say you do, you wouldn't even be posting this thread. If in your shoes, I'd be nervous too.

 

Vegas is what you make of it. By the sound of who he's going with, it won't be the gamblings-shows-spa experience that a more mature crowd would enjoy. Do you know the name of the hotel they're staying at?

[Lauriebell82]

If you trusted him as much as you say you do, you wouldn't even be posting this thread. If in your shoes, I'd be nervous too.

 

Vegas is what you make of it. By the sound of who he's going with, it won't be the gamblings-shows-spa experience that a more mature crowd would enjoy. Do you know the name of the hotel they're staying at?

 

Well, I DO trust him, I DON'T trust his friends. They are all really close, and I think sometimes they influence him to lead a "single life" if that makes sense. I think the name of the hotel is "Treasure Island" or something like that.

 

His friends are immature, they aren't going to want to go gamble over seeing naked girls strip.

[Lauriebell82]

While the other guys run off to party in Vegas, I'll come over and watch chick flicks with you.

 

I plan on renting "Made of Honor." I tried to talk my boyfriend into seeing it in the theater and he said he wouldn't be caught in that theater.

[Star Gazer]

Well, I DO trust him, I DON'T trust his friends. They are all really close, and I think sometimes they influence him to lead a "single life" if that makes sense. I think the name of the hotel is "Treasure Island" or something like that.

 

His friends are immature, they aren't going to want to go gamble over seeing naked girls strip.

 

In other words, you don't trust him. Sorry LB, but not trusting his friends in this circumstance is no different than not trusting your BF.

[Lauriebell82]

In other words, you don't trust him. Sorry LB, but not trusting his friends in this circumstance is no different than not trusting your BF.

 

That's not true. They could never get him to cheat on me EVER. I know that he would never do anything to betray me, even if his friends tried to convince him to hook up with some girl.

 

I don't trust his freinds not to try to influence him. But I do trust my boyfriend NOT to give in to their influence.

[Star Gazer]

That's not true. They could never get him to cheat on me EVER. I know that he would never do anything to betray me, even if his friends tried to convince him to hook up with some girl.

 

I don't trust his freinds not to try to influence him. But I do trust my boyfriend NOT to give in to their influence.

 

You don't need trust for his friends. Only for him.

 

You seem pretty concerned that they WILL convince him to stray.

[Lucky_One]

That's not true. They could never get him to cheat on me EVER. I know that he would never do anything to betray me, even if his friends tried to convince him to hook up with some girl.

 

I don't trust his freinds not to try to influence him. But I do trust my boyfriend NOT to give in to their influence.

 

Then why are you so upset about him going to Vegas?

[Jilly Bean]

LB - please stop creating unnecessary drama in your life where it doesn't exist.

 

If you trust him as you say you do, then no need for fretting.

 

Honestly LB, I think a lot of people would be happy to have such a low-maintenance and problem-free relationship such as yours (I know I would! lol).

 

Try and be happy with the peace, count your blessings, and don't start making issues out of nothing.

 

[Lucky_One]

Looks like a nice place - not quite mirrors on the ceilings.

 

Do you watch too much CSI?

[Lauriebell82]

LB - please stop creating unnecessary drama in your life where it doesn't exist.

 

If you trust him as you say you do, then no need for fretting.

 

Honestly LB, I think a lot of people would be happy to have such a low-maintenance and problem-free relationship such as yours (I know I would! lol).

 

Try and be happy with the peace, count your blessings, and don't start making issues out of nothing.

 

 

I don't like the idea of him at a strip club, but oh well. I guess that is what bachelor parties are.

 

I'm going to let it go, I just posted this to get opinions on what Vegas bachelor parties are like. We really are very happy right now, and I don't think a trip to Vegas will change that. Actually maybe it will give us both a little space and it will help our relationship! (because we are together all the time.)

 

Thanks guys.

[djhall]

His friends are immature, they aren't going to want to go gamble over seeing naked girls strip.

Not much to strip if they're naked .

 

I plan on renting "Maid of Honor." I tried to talk my boyfriend into seeing it in the theater and he said he wouldn't be caught in that theater.

Should I be embarassed to admit that is in my Blockbuster Online Queue?

 

Some guys find it strange that I'd rather stay home with their girls than run off with the guys... umm.. hello... think about it guys!

[Star Gazer]

I don't like the idea of him at a strip club, but oh well. I guess that is what bachelor parties are.

 

Not true. Of all the bachelor parties I've heard of personally (i.e., friends, friends' husbands), there's only been one bachelor party that involved a strip club. But maybe my friends are boring...or mature. *shrug*

[Treasa]

Are you really scared because of his friends, or are you just insecure? Meaning, would it still bother you if he went to a strip club all by himself and you knew nothing would come of it?

 

I think that's the actual problem, honestly. What I can't figure out is why you're insecure, or rather WHAT made you insecure.

 

If you trust him then don't worry about things. He won't cheat or do anything inappropriate, and if he does, you don't want to be with someone like that anyway.

[carhill]

Time to set my page view to 40 posts per page

 

OP, hope your BF has fun and comes back refreshed and missing you

[Lishy]

I agree that you do not trust him as much as you would like to

 

I do not believe your insecurities come from nowhere. You say how great it all is and how much you trust him but you do not show this in your thoughts of him.

 

Be honest with yourself and ask why you are worried about his friends. SUrely it would not matter if they shagged the whole strip club as long as your BF went home alone.

 

I say this because my ex had friends who acted like kids when drunk yet I never doubted his fidelity. Never!

[Lauriebell82]

Ugh, I knew this was going to happen. I think this thread would have turned out totally different if someone else had posted it.

 

Anyway, I got lots of opinions and that was what I was after. He will miss me and I'll miss him, so it will bring us closer together. Absense makes the heart grow fonder. He can have fun getting drunk, actually when he gets hammered he usually ends up calling me and telling me how he loves me and thinks I'm so hot. He'll be thinking about me in Vegas that's for sure.