bish Posted September 22, 2008 Share Posted September 22, 2008 I plan on renting "Made of Honor." I tried to talk my boyfriend into seeing it in the theater and he said he wouldn't be caught in that theater. Why not? I watched it with my gf. Its the least your bf could have done for you for kicking you out of your apartment a month ago. Link to post Share on other sites
torranceshipman Posted September 22, 2008 Share Posted September 22, 2008 Lol to most of this post! You were joking about him showering after sex werent you, seriously?? As for the strip thing....I think, to be fair, you feel disrespected and that's the real point of this post. I dont blame you, he sounds like he turns into a complete frat boy when he's with his mates. The key thing to realise is that they dont 'turn him' into this - it is an important part of who he is - its just not how he acts when he's with you. Its understandable you feel uncomfortable and disrespected - a lot of girls dont have a problem with their man going to see strippers - but if you personally do, then he'll know that, and so then the whole thing does feel a bit disrespectful. I dont get really positive vibes from this R, but I think its because you're both still so young and there seems to be so much drama...in fact, he sounds way younger than you... Link to post Share on other sites
climbergirl Posted September 22, 2008 Share Posted September 22, 2008 (1) Most of the strippers in Vegas are anything but nasty and sweaty. They're Maxim, FHM, Stuff, and Playboy come to life. (2) You'll LET him have his fun? Does he need your permission? (3) You'll be even? Is that a mature attitude to have? Or is it vindictive? In all seriousness, these are good questions. Especially #3. Maybe you were kidding, but you don't want to start off a marriage with a score card. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted September 22, 2008 Share Posted September 22, 2008 So my boyfriend of 2 years is going to Las Vegas this weekend for his friend's bachelor party. Okay, so this makes me cringe. I have heard ALL kinds of stories about Vegas. It's like he is being sent out into the wild! I'll footnote by saying I trust him completely. I know he would NEVER cheat on me, and I have asked him several times "what he will be doing." He has told me over and over "I am just going to gamble." Okay, meaning strip clubs. He said he is staying at this hotel with mirrors on the walls and ceilings. Like I have said before, his freinds are extremely immature and behave like they are still in high school. All these crazy images are running through my mind. Anybody wanna offer support! I haven't read any of the responses in this thread yet as I wanted to give you my initial reaction/response. Laurie, why do you insist on finding something wrong so often? What is the problem with your bf going away with his friends? You SAY you trust him but your actions (as posted here on LS) say otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
Jilly Bean Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 Yeah, he goes to take a shower immediately afterward lol. Oh, dear. Please tell me that was sardonic. LB - if not, then start a thread. For THIS is the kind of thing you should be concerned over, rather than his weekend in Vegas... Link to post Share on other sites
Legend Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 Wow, man seriously, red flags pop up all over the place concerning you Lauriebell. You're the one that needs the counseling... Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 OK.. this is not new.. you've known for a quite a while now that he is going to Vegas.. what's the big deal now? Just enjoy your time with the girls.. never mind him.. there is nothing you can do about it.. you already know that he enjoys his 'friends' and enjoys his time with them.. the more you will cringe and screams .. the more you will push him away. I have said it before and will say it again.. you are both waaayyyy too immature to live together.. you won't last 5 years.. mark my words... Link to post Share on other sites
almost famous Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 I would be concerned because he could have asked you to go with him. This would concern me seriously that he didn't want to go to Las Vegas with you, you could have had a fun time when he wasn't out with the guys and you could have gone shopping, etc. when he was doing the guy thing. I do not like this. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 famale body What's a famale body??? Yeah, he goes to take a shower immediately afterward He has OCD - Is he on some form of medication for this or is he seeking therapy to help him control it? If he isn't, his OCD will only get worse and change in odd ways when he gets older. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 I would be concerned because he could have asked you to go with him. This would concern me seriously that he didn't want to go to Las Vegas with you, you could have had a fun time when he wasn't out with the guys and you could have gone shopping, etc. when he was doing the guy thing. I do not like this. In his defense, you do NOT bring your GF along to a bachelor party! Link to post Share on other sites
IrishCarBomb Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 I would be concerned because he could have asked you to go with him. This would be a terrible idea. It would wind up badly for everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
almost famous Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 In his defense, you do NOT bring your GF along to a bachelor party! It doesn't sound like he's taken her on a decent trip anywhere, yet he won't take her along to Vegas? I already stated there are times when they can spend together besides the "bachelor party" and enjoy Vegas as a couple, also. Link to post Share on other sites
almost famous Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 This would be a terrible idea. It would wind up badly for everyone. I think it's a win/win. They can enjoy Vegas together and he can still go to the bachelor party. Going out of state for a bachelor party is a bit much anyway. Missing a little crazy time with the guys is nothing, because isn't time spent on a trip with the one you love better??? Like I said, I don't think they've even gone on a major trip anywhere....hmm... Link to post Share on other sites
IrishCarBomb Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 I think it's a win/win. They can enjoy Vegas together and he can still go to the bachelor party. Going out of state for a bachelor party is a bit much anyway. Missing a little crazy time with the guys is nothing, because isn't time spent on a trip with the one you love better??? Like I said, I don't think they've even gone on a major trip anywhere....hmm... Really? You mean his friends won't alienate him for bringing his girlfriend? You mean he won't get a tiny bit resentful that she manipulated her way onto the trip? You mean she won't be let down by the fact that he will be preoccupied by the original purpose of the trip: the bachelor party? It'd only make things worse. He goes out with his friends for the guys night, and all she can do is drive herself crazy walking around and seeing all the models/strippers/hookers/etc. There's no reason not to trust HIM on this trip. Even if you think so many guys out there are complete liars... this specific guy hasn't given her a reason to doubt him. You've gotta trust somebody at some point, and he seems like a decent guy, so why not just trust him? Link to post Share on other sites
almost famous Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 It's not about trust. I just think that a guy who loves you would want to take you on a major trip. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 It's not about trust. I just think that a guy who loves you would want to take you on a major trip. You're kidding, right? You are suggesting he take her on a BACHELOR trip? Link to post Share on other sites
oceangrl Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 I don't see the harm in LB going. My bf went to a bachelor's party last month and asked me to go. I don't mean the actual bachelor's party....but he asked me to go so that we could visit some of his friends before and after the party. And if I did go, I would have hung out with a group of his friend's gfs--and we would go do our own thing while the guys were out. I didn't go cuz of finals week but thats what we would have planned. But the problem is that the majority of the LB's bf's friends are single at the bachelor's party.... Link to post Share on other sites
almost famous Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 Yes but he doesn't have to spend every second with the guys. If he really cared for LB he would want to spend time with her. He doesn't have to be at every single part of the party. Why can't it be a special trip for them AND the bachelor party and she can enjoy herself and at the same time have a romantic trip to Vegas? Who cares what the original intention was, everybody can win? Because he doesn't want to take her because he doesn't love her. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 Yes but he doesn't have to spend every second with the guys. If he really cared for LB he would want to spend time with her. He doesn't have to be at every single part of the party. Why can't it be a special trip for them AND the bachelor party and she can enjoy herself and at the same time have a romantic trip to Vegas? Who cares what the original intention was, everybody can win? Because he doesn't want to take her because he doesn't love her. This is ridiculous. A man is allowed to spend time with his friends without having his SO there (same goes for a woman). What is she, a child? She doesn't need babysitting. She said herself she's going to make use of the time by doing her own thing. Your response astounds me. Link to post Share on other sites
almost famous Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 I just have been in a committed, loving relationship and we would have gone together. I feel badly that no one can relate to this. Link to post Share on other sites
djhall Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 Who cares what the original intention was, everybody can win? Because he doesn't want to take her because he doesn't love her. Here is how that would go: Buddies: "Dude, its the guys' weekend out of town and you're spending half your time with your girlfriend instead of us! WTF, man!" Girlfriend: "Honey, we're here sharing this weekend out of town in Vegas and even outside the Bachellor Party you're spending half your time hanging out with your buddies and leaving me all alone. WTF, don't you want to spend time with me?" Plane flight home: Turn up iPod, drink heavily, ignore pissed off friends and pissed off girlfriend, be pissed off that friends and girlfriend ruined your weekend by demanding and fighting over your time and attention. Link to post Share on other sites
IrishCarBomb Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 Because he doesn't want to take her because he doesn't love her. Right... because this small and reasonable trip negates 2 years of evidence that he does indeed care about her. The quoted assumption above is just plain crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 Yes but he doesn't have to spend every second with the guys. If he really cared for LB he would want to spend time with her. He doesn't have to be at every single part of the party. Why can't it be a special trip for them AND the bachelor party and she can enjoy herself and at the same time have a romantic trip to Vegas? Who cares what the original intention was, everybody can win? Because he doesn't want to take her because he doesn't love her. A bachelor party is for a man and his friends. Now if it were a Jack and Jill, that's different. It's not. Should he take her on business trips too? By saying what you do, you are implying that a woman needs a man around 24/7. That's insulting. And what if this were a bachelorette party? Would that change things? People are entitled to time with their friends. And your assertion that he doesn't love her based on this sole fact is absurd. I guess this means most men who have relationships outside of their romantic one are plain selfish and don't love their SOs. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 Hahhaha to say he should ask her to go with him is absurd!!!!!!!!!! No way! Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 You don't really want to know what I think do you? Didn't think so. Link to post Share on other sites
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