Touche Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 He sent me a text message saying he lost $130 in gambling. It sucks, I haven't gotten a chance to talk to him much. He hasn't called me, but he has sent me some. I really miss him! Thank goodness he comes home tommorrow! He hasn't called you the entire weekend? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 28, 2008 Author Share Posted September 28, 2008 He hasn't called you the entire weekend? When he got off the plane on Friday, he called me and told me he got there. He told me before he left that he didn't know if he could call because of reception. I think it's more because he doesn't want his friends razzing him that he has to call his girlfriend during a guy's weekend. I understand he is with his friends and all, but I don't see why he can't just tell his friend's that he is going to call me and that he will be right back. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 He is out of order not to call LB Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 28, 2008 Author Share Posted September 28, 2008 He is out of order not to call LB I just called him and he picked up and said he was just walking around. I talked to him for like 5 minutes before he said his phone was going to die. He said he'd call me later, but I don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 How do you feel about it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 28, 2008 Author Share Posted September 28, 2008 How do you feel about it? Well, I understand he is with his friends, but I'm still hurt he couldn't just call and talk to me for a few minutes. I'm sure they arent spending every second together. My only guess is that he doesn't want them all to think he's whipped. I don't know why the heck he cares so much what they think. I am really hurt he hasn't called me though, I mean I had to call him. Maybe it's my insecurity creeping in, but if I was on a trip to Vegas with a bunch of girls I would certainly call him. I don't know what the big deal is. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 Reception is JUST FINE in Vegas. Trust me on that. He didn't bring his phone charger? I find that hard to believe. That all said, he's on a BACHELOR PARTY weekend, LB. To expect phone calls during that time is a little much, IMO. He's with his boys. I'd also avoid calling him. He doesn't want to feel like he's on your leash (which he is!). Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 LB, this sucks. I'm sending you hugs because that's all I can do. When I've thought it's been your insecurities at play, I've said so. This is not right. You two LIVE TOGETHER just as if you're married. It's really no different. He should have called you. At LEAST at night when he was alone before bed to say goodnight to you and ask about your day/evening. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 28, 2008 Author Share Posted September 28, 2008 Reception is JUST FINE in Vegas. Trust me on that. He didn't bring his phone charger? I find that hard to believe. That all said, he's on a BACHELOR PARTY weekend, LB. To expect phone calls during that time is a little much, IMO. He's with his boys. I'd also avoid calling him. He doesn't want to feel like he's on your leash (which he is!). He brought his charger I think, he just has a habit of not charging it everyday, so it dies all the time. Yeah, I know he's with his friends. I don't expect him to be calling me all the time talking for like an hour, but at least one phone call would have been nice. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 I would be upset and hurt too LB, I am not saying he should have rung you constantly but one call would have been nice Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 28, 2008 Author Share Posted September 28, 2008 LB, this sucks. I'm sending you hugs because that's all I can do. When I've thought it's been your insecurities at play, I've said so. This is not right. You two LIVE TOGETHER just as if you're married. It's really no different. He should have called you. At LEAST at night when he was alone before bed to say goodnight to you and ask about your day/evening. Yeah, well I think he's been out getting trashed every night and then passes out in the hotel room. Not much chance for a phone call I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 28, 2008 Author Share Posted September 28, 2008 Plus he is sharing a room with a bunch of guys, so they'd all be there drunk too. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 I think it is time for you to think about a boozy weekend away with your girls and just leave your phone at home He needs to know how it feels! Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 Plus he is sharing a room with a bunch of guys, so they'd all be there drunk too. Lovely. You sure you two are a match? Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 When my ex went on holiday with his brother and 2 friends last year he rang me every night. I told him he did not need to call so much but he said he wanted to. His friends ribbed him but he said he didnt care I get a bad feeling for some reason, I dont mean I think he is cheating on you I just get a bad feeling Link to post Share on other sites
Krajt Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 You sure you two are a match? They aren't. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 28, 2008 Author Share Posted September 28, 2008 When my ex went on holiday with his brother and 2 friends last year he rang me every night. I told him he did not need to call so much but he said he wanted to. His friends ribbed him but he said he didnt care I get a bad feeling for some reason, I dont mean I think he is cheating on you I just get a bad feeling Yeah, I know I was a little suprised that he didn't call at all. I don't know why he cares what his friends think so much. I think part of the reason why he can't/won't commit is because he can't cut the cord from his friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 28, 2008 Author Share Posted September 28, 2008 Lovely. You sure you two are a match? He hasn't ever taken a trip where he didn't call me. He's gone home to visit his family and called me, but this I don't get. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 LB - consider the sources. As much as I love Touche (), she rarely if ever has anything good to say about anyone's relationship. (It's true!!!!) Lishy is the same way. They're also a lot older than you and your BF. I suspect there's a generational issue at play as well...as this entire thing would admittedly be a lot different if your BF was in his late 30's or 40's. But your BF is young (26, right?) and has flown across the country to Vegas for a bachelor party with his buddies. This is not just a random guy weekend in PA or a weekend to visit his family. It's a bachelor party. This is a once in a lifetime situation for the groom. There's not only a machismo to the whole situation (can't let on that he's on your leash, as I said), but he's WITH HIS FRIENDS for a very, very important bonding weekend amongst men (er, boys/guys in their case ). His focus is, and should be, on THEM. I bet you good money that the groom hasn't even called his bride every day. The whole point of a bachelor party is to be free of the women they've left back home. I can't tell you how many guys I know who have had bro-fights with their buddies because of the lack of dedication from one dude or another during a bachelor party...whether it be not showing up at all, or talking about their W/GF, or running off to call her, or picking up/responding every time she called/texted......you get the idea. I've been to several bachelorette parties, and the same thing goes for the gals calling their men - it generally doesn't happen. It's almost a given. He's bonding. Let him have this time. Chill out. And PLEASE do not harp on him when he returns. It's absolutely no reflection on how he feels about you or the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 He hasn't ever taken a trip where he didn't call me. He's gone home to visit his family and called me, but this I don't get. Was that when you weren't living together? (Not that that matters..just wondering.) I don't get it either, LB. I don't. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 Hmmmmmmmm LB, my thinking at this present time is that he is not as invested as you are, that could answer many of your questions and also account for your insecurity ... Could I be wrong here? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 28, 2008 Author Share Posted September 28, 2008 LB - consider the sources. As much as I love Touche (), she rarely if ever has anything good to say about anyone's relationship. (It's true!!!!) Lishy is the same way. They're also a lot older than you and your BF. I suspect there's a generational issue at play as well...as this entire thing would admittedly be a lot different if your BF was in his late 30's or 40's. But your BF is young (26, right?) and has flown across the country to Vegas for a bachelor party with his buddies. This is not just a random guy weekend in PA or a weekend to visit his family. It's a bachelor party. This is a once in a lifetime situation for the groom. There's not only a machismo to the whole situation (can't let on that he's on your leash, as I said), but he's WITH HIS FRIENDS for a very, very important bonding weekend amongst men (er, boys/guys in their case ). His focus is, and should be, on THEM. I bet you good money that the groom hasn't even called his bride every day. The whole point of a bachelor party is to be free of the women they've left back home. I can't tell you how many guys I know who have had bro-fights with their buddies because of the lack of dedication from one dude or another during a bachelor party...whether it be not showing up at all, or talking about their W/GF, or running off to call her, or picking up/responding every time she called/texted......you get the idea. I've been to several bachelorette parties, and the same thing goes for the gals calling their men - it generally doesn't happen. It's almost a given. He's bonding. Let him have this time. Chill out. And PLEASE do not harp on him when he returns. It's absolutely no reflection on how he feels about you or the relationship. I hope you are right. I do realize he is with his friends, I'm sure the ones who have gfs have not called them either. I don't expect for him to be calling all the time, but one phone call would have been nice. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 28, 2008 Author Share Posted September 28, 2008 Was that when you weren't living together? (Not that that matters..just wondering.) I don't get it either, LB. I don't. Yeah, that was before we were living together. Like I said his friends are very immature, therefore I'm sure they would get mad if he called me. Not saying that excuses it, but he cares what his friends think of him. Maybe it's a 26 year old guy thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 I know I'm right. Trust me on this. I've seen it soooooo many times, but with far worse characters who would be up to no good. Your BF is just not that type. Also, he's been texting you though, correct? I bet you he's even snuck off to send you those. He does care, LB. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 LB - consider the sources. As much as I love Touche (), she rarely if ever has anything good to say about anyone's relationship. WTF? So not true! Wow. Where are you getting THAT from? (It's true!!!!) Lishy is the same way. They're also a lot older than you and your BF. I suspect there's a generational issue at play as well...as this entire thing would admittedly be a lot different if your BF was in his late 30's or 40's. But your BF is young (26, right?) and has flown across the country to Vegas for a bachelor party with his buddies. This is not just a random guy weekend in PA or a weekend to visit his family. It's a bachelor party. This is a once in a lifetime situation for the groom. There's not only a machismo to the whole situation (can't let on that he's on your leash, as I said), but he's WITH HIS FRIENDS for a very, very important bonding weekend amongst men (er, boys/guys in their case ). His focus is, and should be, on THEM. I bet you good money that the groom hasn't even called his bride every day. The whole point of a bachelor party is to be free of the women they've left back home. I can't tell you how many guys I know who have had bro-fights with their buddies because of the lack of dedication from one dude or another during a bachelor party...whether it be not showing up at all, or talking about their W/GF, or running off to call her, or picking up/responding every time she called/texted......you get the idea. Wow, couldn't disagree more. I guess some are willing to settle for less than others, SG. Sorry but come on! I've been to several bachelorette parties, and the same thing goes for the gals calling their men - it generally doesn't happen. It's almost a given. Well, I could say some stuff here but I'll refrain...I guess I'm suspect of any couple who indulges in this ridiculous ritual. (Bachelor/bachelorette parties) He's bonding. Let him have this time. Chill out. And PLEASE do not harp on him when he returns. It's absolutely no reflection on how he feels about you or the relationship. He's BONDING? Wow. Too funny! He's living with LB. THAT'S who he is supposed to be bonded with. Too late for the circle jerks. Is he a man or a boy? Link to post Share on other sites
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