Author HopeDiesLast Posted September 26, 2008 Author Share Posted September 26, 2008 Exactly. Which is why you need to let go and forget him! I'm trying so hard, Ocean-Blue. I'm determined to get over this 3-4 week NC thing. the longest ive ever gone was 4 weeks this summer and then i caved to see if we could chat. Got me nowhere. So now im really gonna work hard to be able to let this go. Link to post Share on other sites
Intergalactic Posted September 26, 2008 Share Posted September 26, 2008 Ya know what Intergalactic....i keep saying i agree with your statements. Yours and BCCA....for some reason, even if they may contradict themselves....and i'm sticking to my guns with you on this one. I just dont want to let go of the hope! i dont. and i won't let it take over my life....I'll let things happen as they will, but ultimately i want to get to the place you talk about too- to just be okay with whatever life throws at me next. Call it optimistic by nature....call it false hope. I'm with you on this one!!! its been 3 weeks no contact....i always get to this point and panic. no idea why. i think the thing with the hope is that it can't be obsessive. just a mellow small thing that sits in the back of your mind. you move on with the rest of your life, have fun with life and with new people, do things for YOU and see what happens. hope isn't the big bad wolf waiting to kill you, it's something that gets a LOT of people through hard times. even if, in the end, the only purpose it serves this time is to get me through this horrible heartache over the man i love (because without it i think i'd be a horrible blubbering mess unable to function!), then i'm happy with that. i know it might all change, and right now i'd like to believe that i can get to know him again in a year's time when i move back to that city (i moved away, cutting off contact etc and when we talk again, it will be to get to know each other as "new" people), by the time i DO actually move, i might not even want to know him anymore! but the hope will still have served it's purpose. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HopeDiesLast Posted September 26, 2008 Author Share Posted September 26, 2008 i think the thing with the hope is that it can't be obsessive. just a mellow small thing that sits in the back of your mind. you move on with the rest of your life, have fun with life and with new people, do things for YOU and see what happens. hope isn't the big bad wolf waiting to kill you, it's something that gets a LOT of people through hard times. even if, in the end, the only purpose it serves this time is to get me through this horrible heartache over the man i love (because without it i think i'd be a horrible blubbering mess unable to function!), then i'm happy with that. i know it might all change, and right now i'd like to believe that i can get to know him again in a year's time when i move back to that city (i moved away, cutting off contact etc and when we talk again, it will be to get to know each other as "new" people), by the time i DO actually move, i might not even want to know him anymore! but the hope will still have served it's purpose. Yeah i would have to agree. you cant let it take over your life. you cant let it stop you. its the emptiness and missing him that hurts me the most. if and when i can get past that part....i think ill be alright. Link to post Share on other sites
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