Author Trialbyfire Posted September 23, 2008 Author Share Posted September 23, 2008 Nemo's jacking (or jilling) with everyone, while at the same time, putting forth his own thoughts on the situation. There's no reason why everyone shouldn't jack/jill with him too. I've been doing so. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 Some of the LS men who I most respect have given their input into this thread. It appears to be an overwhelming vote for it not to be emasculating, for whatever () their reasons. Guess I'm not respected and emasculated because of that! :mad: :lmao: I'll still provide my input! No it does not make me feel emasculated when a woman pays more than her share or 100%. Kinda fun to go to a place and make all the plans then stand back and let her pay! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted September 23, 2008 Author Share Posted September 23, 2008 Hey jerbear, note the word "some". Thanks for your input. Link to post Share on other sites
Nemo Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 Thanks for your input. I guess you had to stroke his ego, to try to limit his obvious shrinkage. Emasculation is everywhere. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted September 23, 2008 Author Share Posted September 23, 2008 I guess you had to stroke his ego, to try to limit his obvious shrinkage. Emasculation is everywhere. To borrow a phrase, issues and tissues Nemo, but solely for you. Link to post Share on other sites
mrsT Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 Arm wrestling was a good answer. I think men feel like it is emasculating to say they feel emasculated. Which is why this post is never going to get the truth out of them. What makes a woman feel defeminized? You see? I had to make up that word because there is no such word for a woman. At any rate, for me it's when my man asks me to help him with the heavy lifting....or when he consistently cooks better than me. Link to post Share on other sites
Frankasy Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 Well I would a bit but there are a lot of other fields, not just the money. Link to post Share on other sites
Al_Bundy Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 Something came up in another thread which has inspired this one. Let's say you've gotten past the dating stage and are in a relationship with a woman. You're not co-habitating yet. If the woman pays her equal share for everything, including outtings, do you feel emasculated? Nope, I'd feel like she is into me enough to not take complete advantage of me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted September 25, 2008 Author Share Posted September 25, 2008 So, the vast majority of men consider it not emasculating, more of a positive, when a woman is willing to pay her equal share, unless she's doing it in an overly-aggressive fashion, is an extreme feminist or is solely doing it so she can easily bolt from the relationship, free of guilt. We have one gay man who feels emasculated (is it possible this could be caused by other issues?) and one woman who disagrees. Anyone else have views which relate to the opening topic? Link to post Share on other sites
Nemo Posted September 26, 2008 Share Posted September 26, 2008 We have one gay man who feels emasculated (is it possible this could be caused by other issues?) Other issues??!! You are mean. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted September 26, 2008 Share Posted September 26, 2008 Anyone else have views which relate to the opening topic? Nope, I think it maybe time to close the thread. Takes an un-emasculated man to suggest that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted September 26, 2008 Author Share Posted September 26, 2008 Nope, I think it maybe time to close the thread. Takes an un-emasculated man to suggest that. Nah, let it ride. Why close it? Let men have a chance to voice their opinion(s) about whether they feel emasculated by women paying equal/reasonable share or not. Link to post Share on other sites
preeya_WT Posted September 26, 2008 Share Posted September 26, 2008 Hey why does it has to be so complicated, after all if u call her ur better half so atleast make her feel so........ Link to post Share on other sites
Nemo Posted September 26, 2008 Share Posted September 26, 2008 You know, I was just thinking to myself - why does it have to be so complicated? Then I suddenly remembered that women are part of this equation. Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted September 27, 2008 Share Posted September 27, 2008 Something came up in another thread which has inspired this one. Let's say you've gotten past the dating stage and are in a relationship with a woman. You're not co-habitating yet. If the woman pays her equal share for everything, including outtings, do you feel emasculated? No, definitely not. Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted September 27, 2008 Share Posted September 27, 2008 A man has to pay to be a man to me. That's what the ladies in the red light district say too! Link to post Share on other sites
djhall Posted September 27, 2008 Share Posted September 27, 2008 Not at all. It isn't part of what defines me as a man. Now having said that, if she couldn't even receive a gift without feeling like she had to reciprocate in absolutely equal measure, I think I might wonder whether she was holding herself back from committing to the relationship, as if keeping a "balanced account" insulated her from obligation or commitment, and kept the door open for an easy exit. But that would be a feeling about the relationship dynamic, and not about my identity as a man. I think a general willingness to both give (to pay her share sometimes or half the time or whatever) and receive (to accept a gift, or me paying some of the time) in a relaxed dynamic would be the thing I would find most comfortable. Again, any wierd subtexts around those issues would be more likely to make me wonder about the relationship dynamic than about my own manhood. "You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means." Inyigo Montoya Trimmer stole my post, so I'll just have to quote him. Besides, anyone who quotes The Pricness Bride rules. Link to post Share on other sites
Nemo Posted September 27, 2008 Share Posted September 27, 2008 The Pricness Bride rules. I agree. That's by far my favourite gay movie. Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted September 27, 2008 Share Posted September 27, 2008 Is there a female equivalent to feeling emasculated? Link to post Share on other sites
Nemo Posted September 27, 2008 Share Posted September 27, 2008 Is there a female equivalent to feeling emasculated? defeminate is best, after also considering effeminate, spay, hysterectate, demulierize, gyneclate, degynify, and exogynate.http://www.santacruzpl.org/readyref/files/d-f/emasc.shtml Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trialbyfire Posted September 27, 2008 Author Share Posted September 27, 2008 Is there a female equivalent to feeling emasculated? Defeminized or going butch, perhaps? Anyways, for another thread. Link to post Share on other sites
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