Sysyphus28 Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 I had been dating a younger woman since I was 26. She was 18, which is young I know, but it worked out somehow. I had a career and she was in school. We moved to NC together from Ny when she was 20 and got an apartment together. We argued, we split bills, we went food shopping together, all the normal stuff you do when you are living together. She went home last summer, broke up with me in July on the phone and moved into the college dorm of the school she was going to in late August. I moved into a new place too. She strung me along all summer with some hope we would get back together, so I picked her up from the airport and helped her moved into her dorm. I was really emotional when she got home(pretty corny too). She stayed with me a few days before she moved into the dorm and she was overwhelmed with the pain and distress that she caused me and how I was reacting to seeing her. Now we are in the same town in a different state, but not together. She barely will talk me, and after sporadically calling her and texting her she doesn't want me to call her, and she doesn't feel comfortable with me at her dorm. I really thought this girl loved me(despite her age and lack of experience). After moving her into that dorm(with lava lamps and led zepellin posters) I felt 100 years old and creepy. It was like she was just "playing house" with me for a year. I have been depressed. Even though I am going out and hanging out with friends and girls, I still think of her having fun without me and being happier without me. I try to fight off the urge to call her/text/email/etc everyday. I have relapsed 3 times, and I felt like total crap after each time. Kind of like a doormat. I don't know what to do and I could use some good advice?! thank you Link to post Share on other sites
JooLee Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 hello there, im sorry you're going through a hardtime. that is one thing about age. they say age is a number but really it does makes a difference. Because age doesnt come with maturity. she is probably craving to have some experience in college life, hanging with people her age etc etc. they say if truly love someone let them free.. as cliche as it sounds, it is true. a friend told me something that helped me move on : realising ultimately that ppl you care about will do what they want in life. i bet you already knew that but apply it to your gf's actions. all i can say is that it gets better in time. perharps in the future when she is older and ready things will happen again? i dont know. but that doesnt mean you should sit around waiting. just hang in there and stick with NC because it really does help. not much of an advice but wanted to let you know you are not alone. all the best! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sysyphus28 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Share Posted September 23, 2008 Your right.......... age does make some kind of a difference. She does want to have "fun" and be a college "kid" again. She wants the freedom that only comes with your early twenties. I don't think she will be coming back. I looked at a bunch of letters she wrote me("baby I love you, blah, blah, blah). I really forgot about her age after a while...... I havn't been to good at the no contact thing. I did it for two weeks....but anytime we have talked it has been dramatic. She is physical with someone else that she has known for a long time and he is from Ny. they grew up together and he has been telling her that I'm no good for her. No contact is going to be hard. I wish I had one of those eternal sunshine of the spotless mind forget me pills. Link to post Share on other sites
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