? for men on dirty talk

[officegirl]

Specifically those of you who aren't all that into it.

 

I'm quite a fan of the dirty talking. I find that it really helps to turn me on and bring me closer to climaxing. Physical stimulation is fine and all, but certain phrases with accompanying groans/delivery are a huge sexual boost for me. My boyfriend knows this and tries his best but he's just not the type. I don't have any problem discussing this with him but I don't want to make him too uncomfortable so I thought I'd throw it out there to the masses for some feedback.

 

Why is it difficult for you to talk in sexually explicit terms to your girlfriend/wife? Does it bother you when she does it? I know that I can be quite verbal during sex and I don't want to make it uncomfortable for him. I know you all have dirty fantasies. Why not talk about them.

 

I'm going through a bit of a rough time lately with work and my man is struggling to be there for me. He's been wonderful and has really tried to lift my spirits. Earlier we were talking and he asked what he could do to take my mind off of things. I said quite bluntly, "can you get rock hard and talk dirty to me"? His response was "I can do the first and I'll try my best with the 2nd".

 

I jokingly said "it's alright babe. just messin' with you. I know how you are about that". To which he said "I've just never done it but I'm willing and able to try".

 

Now, I don't want to make him feel like he's not satisfying me or that he's lacking. And I don't want it to be forced, it's no good that way.

 

Should I just give up on this and keep reading literotica to get those jollies? Should I let him give it a shot? It just seems unnatural for him. But I KNOW he has kinky fantasies and I know he watches more than enough porn with dirty talk which leads me to believe it's not a turn off. Is it okay for me to continue talking the way I do during sex?

 

ugh.. Sorry for those of you who will find this thread gratuitous. I assure you, it isn't.

[SnapCracklePop]

I have found that some of my past exGF I can 'do the talk' with... and some I just couldn't. I honestly don't know why some were easier than others to talk nasty with.

[ed-205]

I think what you say to each other in the bedroom is nobody else's business, so say whatever it takes!

You may have to coach him a bit, though. From an early age, most men are taught to NOT talk like that in front of a woman, and it may take some time and effort to break the "conditioning" before he gets it right.

[Geishawhelk]

yes, I'm with ed, maybe he feels that talking that way to you is disrespectful, no matter what you say. He doesn't feel talking dirty to you can possibly be a turn-on, because he wouldn't dream of talking to you in that manner usually.

 

Do you talk dirty to him? Do you urge him on, and use profanities when he's making love to you?

If not, why not?

 

that's a good place to start.....

[SnapCracklePop]

yes, I'm with ed, maybe he feels that talking that way to you is disrespectful, no matter what you say. He doesn't feel talking dirty to you can possibly be a turn-on, because he wouldn't dream of talking to you in that manner usually.

 

Do you talk dirty to him? Do you urge him on, and use profanities when he's making love to you?

If not, why not?

 

that's a good place to start.....

 

 

Hmmm that could be fun :):bunny:

 

"tell me you want to ...... me, and ...... me.... "

 

I would find that pretty hot actually

[Krajt]

If a woman wants to talk dirty with me, that's fine, I'll do that the same, if she doesn't then I won't.

[Geishawhelk]

Hmmm that could be fun :):bunny:

 

"tell me you want to ...... me, and ...... me.... "

 

I would find that pretty hot actually

 

Never mind you finding it pretty hot - It's not all about pleasing you, and making you feel hot! How would HE feel...? there's your clue!!

 

THis seems on the face of it, to be pretty one-sided... providing you're being turned on, that's all that matters. And you're asking him to do stuff outside of his comfort zone, which if he does it, is pretty considerate. But what does he like?

Have you established that, and do you readily comply....?

 

EDIT:

Sorry.

Wrong person.

 

I take it all back.....

[SnapCracklePop]

Never mind you finding it pretty hot - It's not all about pleasing you, and making you feel hot! How would HE feel...? there's your clue!!

 

THis seems on the face of it, to be pretty one-sided... providing you're being turned on, that's all that matters. And you're asking him to do stuff outside of his comfort zone, which if he does it, is pretty considerate. But what does he like?

Have you established that, and do you readily comply....?

 

EDIT:

Sorry.

Wrong person.

 

I take it all back.....

 

Well I still stand by what I said

 

And I am pretty certain that her BF would also be turned on by it as well...

[Geishawhelk]

Sorry 'bout that.

 

Should read more, talk less - !!