Situation

[air123]

Hello everyone... I need some advice on something. Here is the background: I have been dating this girl for the past 4 months and everything was wonderful until this last week. I am 25 and she is 20.

 

Here is the situation: I had dropped her off at her house Tuesday morning after she spent the night at mine. We said that she would call me after class to get together for dinner and to play in a theme park for a while. She never called. She called later that night and said that after class she went to the theme park with this guy from class and they had dinner. She called this guy the hot and gorgeous guy from class. She also said that she forgot that we had plans and that she was going to call me. I come to find out that guy has a girlfriend of 9 months. She claims that nothing happened and they just had a great, fun time as friends.

 

I am starting to doubt the relationship, however I love her a lot and an starting to feel she is the one. I feel really hurt by this... Am I reading too much to this? Any advise?

[superd]

Alot of girls are promiscious in their early twenties. I blame it on fraternaties.

[sandrawg]

She sounds very immature, and you guys need to have a talk about boundaries.

 

First of all, it's unreliable of her to not call when she says she will call. She could've called you and said, I'm going to dinner with a friend, I'll get back to you later.

 

Secondly, it's immature of her to go on about how "hot and gorgeous" this guy is. You should tell her that, understandably, it makes you feel insecure.

 

Thirdly, you need to make sure you both are on the same page about whether or not you're okay with the other having dinner with a 'friend' of the opposite sex. She may not be aware that you're not too cool with it.

 

Be mature-sit down and talk calmly about these things, then see if she abides by your requests.

[georgejungle]

dinner and fun at a theme park with another guy,

when she is already dating you, is NOT, i repeat, NOT cool.

Sounds like a date to me, i don't care if they're just friends

or not. That looks like a flirtatious date to me.

 

I'd say she's trying to keep her options open, if she's admitted

that this dude it Hot.

 

P.S. She aint the one if she's already kinda sorta showing

signs of Disrespect...I mean, She says she FORGOT about your

dinner date?? She's lying dude.

[Gzus]

totally agree. Id bet money they fooled around or did it. She hasnt got him secured yet and thats why she's bull****ting you.

 

I would not text or call her and when she starts asking why, tell her you dont want a gf that does that kind of ****. Leave on your terms or you'll be a doormat in her eyes.

 

Im not kidding dude. Seriously. When you are in a relationship, you want to believe, but to those outside, they can see it more clearly. She's ****ing around on you with this guy (or wanting to) and is probably smitten with him.

[Bryanp]

If the roles had been reversed, do you think that she would have accepted such disrespect from you?