UbisoftAssassin Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 Ok so i am your average 16 year old teenager i have been through a lot of stuff all my life so im not very confident although i have been single for a couple of years and do and have spoken to girls i like in the past and stuff but anyhow that is a different story. I am just sick that it is me always chasing the girls and trying to chat them up and stuff i tried talking to one girl im not sure if she was shy or just didn't want to talk < most likely cause she seemed fine talking to my friends who were sitting next to me today:confused: I want the girls chasing me and trying to chat me up and stuff like that so at the end of the day i can only think the way of doing this is to look good for them. I have tried lot's of stuff like long hair, short hair and different fashions but whatever i try just don't seem to grab their attention i know i am attractive but im also not big headed and not better than any other guy. It would be cool to find out what sorta things girls look for in a guys appearance and maybe i could randomly wow some girls at college in the near future;) I have a nice personality i know appearance ain't everything but i also fear the girls might not talk to me cause they are worried or cause i don't really know them? Any help would be really great:D Link to post Share on other sites
Likes Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 You have to be approachable. Be self-confident and friendly, this means you still have to 'chat up' people. Although, you're not exactly 'chasing' them. It's signaling that you're out on the 'market, and are interested. A few, hello's or hi's can give those sort of signs. Simply giving them hints here or there that you're interested. Jokes, smiling a bit, little chitchats, teasing, etc. Signs that show you're interested. If they're the shy type, it'll take longer unless you use the direct approach, where you'd be 'chasing them.' Someone isn't going to approach you unless they either think or know you're interested in them. Unless, they're the very confident type, where they dance in front of you (happened to me). I'm not a girl, but from personal experiences I doubt a girl would like a slob. A clean, steady guy, who respects himself (confidence) is from what I've known creates interest. It's good you have a great personality, just be sure that people see it. It doesn't hurt to be charismatic. Show yourself off, but don't be too loud about it. Most of all, be yourself, you're not going to want to attract girls that like you for not who you are. But, hey! Chasing is fun. Link to post Share on other sites
Author UbisoftAssassin Posted September 25, 2008 Author Share Posted September 25, 2008 You have to be approachable. Be self-confident and friendly, this means you still have to 'chat up' people. Although, you're not exactly 'chasing' them. It's signaling that you're out on the 'market, and are interested. A few, hello's or hi's can give those sort of signs. Simply giving them hints here or there that you're interested. Jokes, smiling a bit, little chitchats, teasing, etc. Signs that show you're interested. Someone isn't going to approach you unless they either think or know you're interested in them. Unless, they're the very confident type, where they dance in front of you (happened to me). I'm not a girl, but from personal experiences I doubt a girl would like a slob. A clean, steady guy, who respects himself (confidence) is from what I've known creates interest. It's good you have a great personality, just be sure that people see it. It doesn't hurt to be charismatic. Show yourself off, but don't be too loud about it. Most of all, be yourself, you're not going to want to attract girls that like you for not who you are.Thanks for that reply it really does help and i don't doudht what you said and actually it makes sense because i only said hi to this specific girl once although im not the confident type i did it once so i can do it again:cool: A big thanks for replying but it would also be nice to hear some other peoples oppinions:) Link to post Share on other sites
Likes Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 Something as little as that gets you somewhere. You can slowly build it up, once you're in (she knows you), you can start going faster. If you're really interested in a girl, you shouldn't wait for her to go up to you. A lot of girls would find it very flattering for asking them out, which means you taking the first step. Link to post Share on other sites
Author UbisoftAssassin Posted September 25, 2008 Author Share Posted September 25, 2008 Something as little as that gets you somewhere. You can slowly build it up, once you're in (she knows you), you can start going faster. If you're really interested in a girl, you shouldn't wait for her to go up to you. A lot of girls would find it very flattering for asking them out, which means you taking the first step.Fair enough there mate i suppose they just expect it to be the guys job i guess things lift off from just friends so i should try to get to know them more:) Link to post Share on other sites
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