I'm an adult and i think I'm being bullied

[wannabeme]

Hi everyone

 

My elderly parents live with me (64,71) and a new neighbor moved in next door. She is late twenties, he is 35ish puerto rican in an Irish neighborhood.

 

She is just plain nasty, (jekyll and Hyde). She verbally taunts me from her porch, tells me to shut-up, yells at my dogs to shut-up ( we try to get them before they are barking).

 

Her and her boyfriend smoke pot on their porch, when they can visibly see that my mom and me are sitting on our porch, we can see them, SMELL them. I find this distasteful, disrespectful to my mom, and not very classy. The neighborhood is mostly elderly. She has tried to punch me (boyfriend stopped her), then called the cops on me for bein on her property for asking her to stop smoking pot in front of my mom.

what steps can i take? what can i do? this is effecting my parents, (intimadation wise)??? help

[westernxer]

I see the next episode of COPS in the making.

[Jilly Bean]

Wow. That is HORRIBLE for you!

 

Next time they are outside smoking dope, call the cops on them.

 

When the cops are over, tell them how she is behaving, how she tried to assault you, etc.

 

She sounds like total trash.

[Ronni_W]

She sounds like a miserable neighbour to be stuck with. I would just ignore and avoid her. Period. Even if that means moving to the backyard instead of the front porch. Your and your mom's peace of mind is worth it, IMO. And by engaging with her in any way at all, that probably just gives her more chances to yell and/or throw punches.

 

OTOH, she is not obligated to "respect" your parents or any of her other neighbours. If she is doing something illegal or physically threatening, then yes, why not call the cops? They'll also be able to advise if she is violating your rights to 'peaceful enjoyment' by screaming at neighbourhood pets (and people.)

[jerbear]

I think she got her bully side from her BF.

 

Honestly after she smokes, you can ask her to stop smoking pot, she calls the cops, they show up and guess who they smell.

[wannabeme]

Thank you for everyone who responded. I am afraid for my mom who likes to visit neighbors , i'm afraid that her or the bf will do something, like poison my dog or something.

Mostly i dont want my ,mother stressed about these little piss-pots who are blaring rap music for ten minutes before getting out of their cars, oh yea, she is a mother of a 4 month old boy

[westernxer]

Time to pay a visit to Tony Soprano. He can "fix" the problem real easy.

[whichwayisup]

Keep out of their way, ignore them. Don't react at all.

 

IF you feel threatened then call the police.

 

It also might be a good idea to talk to your other neighbours, their families about this too this way there are lots of eyes on these folks.

[mark982]

discretely mount a camera,catch their stupid stunts on film, then call the cops.

[Riley Freeman]

personally if she taunted me i would taunt her right back and threaten to kick her ass

[2sure]

Neighbors. I now live in the neighborhood of my dreams. Nice house, ultra safe, great schools....

 

Right next door to the only Hillbillys in my state.

 

Your neighborhood, and many others that are primarily elderly may be one of the nations declining areas? I ask only because very often , when this happens, the housing becomes affordable to undesirables or worse...rented to druggies, etc.

 

The good thing is, people like your current neighbors cannot usually hold a mortgage long, or will be arrested, and are generally more transient...so maybe they will be gone soon.

 

Meanwhile, watch your dogs