DG is not writing to me

[PinkToes]

 

Easy to say when someone doesn't have to deal with this problem..

 

Yeah, I got laid off from a professional job last year, but I did interview this week for a dog-walking position. Maybe if I get hired, I can put in a good word for him.

[tinktronik]

It's easy to tell somone else's kid to get off his azz and work... but when there is NO work around.. then what.. you throw the kid on the street.. and tell him to f* off and take care of his own business....

 

Easy to say when someone doesn't have to deal with this problem..

 

I agree Lizzie. Around here even the part-time jobs flipping burgers have gone to MBA professionals desperate to find some kind of work.

[northstar1]

It's easy to tell somone else's kid to get off his azz and work... but when there is NO work around.. then what.. you throw the kid on the street.. and tell him to f* off and take care of his own business....

 

Easy to say when someone doesn't have to deal with this problem..

 

Well, sitting around playing Xbox sure isn't going to land him a job

[NopeNah]

Well, sitting around playing Xbox sure isn't going to land him a job

Right? What about using his time to further his education? Volunteer work also looks better on a resume than gamer score of 9000.

[PinkToes]

I agree Lizzie. Around here even the part-time jobs flipping burgers have gone to MBA professionals desperate to find some kind of work.

 

Damn. I don't have an MBA, I hope that doesn't matter to the pet people.

 

Ariadne, I'm really sorry I brought this up. You weren't looking for parenting advice, and I seem to have opened that door.

[Ariadne]

Doesn't keep me stuck in the past, just brings to mind a time when things were better all around, and he happened to be a part of that.

 

I hope things get better for you.

 

Thank you.

 

For you too. Right now I'm taking things one day at a time.

[Ariadne]

Because he likes the attention, because it is like having a plaything he can turn on and off at his will.

 

Thanks for your words.

 

I found it interesting too, that he started posting in LS the day after he shot some main scenes for his movie that he is making in an historic building.

 

But then, he has in the past posted more than usual during editing.

 

Maybe he just needed to talk.

[Ariadne]

Tell your son to get off his ass and get a damn job! How's he dating with no money? Also..you really,really need to let this sh*t go! It's insane/depressing the amount of time you've spent on this "man/relationship"..let it go already!

 

I will tell a secret that I haven't said before.

 

Now that I've been spending days at home, I started smoking weed again.

 

I know, I tried to quit.

 

But now my son started trying it and he loved it!

 

So now both my son and I have a medical marihuana card, and that's the new hobby of ours.

 

I don't know what we are going to do.

 

I told my parents we might end up living with them in their house.

[Ariadne]

Yes T, the only person that is truly an enabler in this story is DG. Not only did he know how deep A's feelings for him go, but after everything he used her as a sounding board for his love problems after his fiance left him. Cruel to the max.

 

Oh yeah, he told me all the problems with the dollgirl and the other girl staying there. The whole thing.

 

(SaC has read many of his emails)

[GorillaTheater]

I will tell a secret that I haven't said before.

 

Now that I've been spending days at home, I started smoking weed again.

 

I know, I tried to quit.

 

But now my son started trying it and he loved it!

 

So now both my son and I have a medical marihuana card, and that's the new hobby of ours.

 

I don't know what we are going to do.

 

I told my parents we might end up living with them in their house.

 

Holy Christ. Have either you or your son tried (REALLY tried) to get a job??

[Lizzie60]

I will tell a secret that I haven't said before.

 

Now that I've been spending days at home, I started smoking weed again.

 

I know, I tried to quit.

 

But now my son started trying it and he loved it!

 

So now both my son and I have a medical marihuana card, and that's the new hobby of ours.

 

I don't know what we are going to do.

 

I told my parents we might end up living with them in their house.

 

OMG... OMG... Ariadne.. you got to be kidding...

If this is true.. I honestly feel sorry for both of you but mostly for your parents... it's worst than I thought..

 

I'm soooo out of this thread now..

[Ariadne]

I have found, in conversation with her, that in A's world, men are not to be held accountable for anything. It's up to women to work and pay for everything, lest they be accused of "begging men for money" when a woman expects the father of their child to participate financially. Thus, it's not surprising that she is raising her son to be handed everything with no expectations or responsibilities.

 

(Oh no, in my world women don't work a single day outside the house!!! The men work. That's what they are for).

[Ariadne]

Ariadne, has your son made a reasonable effort to find a job?

 

My son and I are happy to spend the day at home between the plants, relaxing, in our happy world where there is no school, work, rush, etc.

[Ariadne]

OMG... OMG... Ariadne.. you got to be kidding...

If this is true.. I honestly feel sorry for both of you but mostly for your parents... it's worst than I thought..

 

I'm soooo out of this thread now..

 

No, I'm serious.

 

I have spent so much money too.

 

My son wanted to buy a volcano vaporizer that cost some 400 dollars for the weed, all kind of stuff.

 

At least we are kind of happy being stoners.

[Art_Critic]

OMG... OMG... Ariadne.. you got to be kidding...

If this is true.. I honestly feel sorry for both of you but mostly for your parents... it's worst than I thought..

 

I'm soooo out of this thread now..

 

.. now you leave.. WTF ?.. you have been her second biggest supporter...

[Art_Critic]

No, I'm serious.

 

I have spent so much money too.

 

My son wanted to buy a volcano vaporizer that cost some 400 dollars for the weed, all kind of stuff.

 

At least we are kind of happy being stoners.

 

Ariadne.. with all due respect..

 

This is a huge problem in life and now your son's.

[GorillaTheater]

My son and I are happy to spend the day at home between the plants, relaxing, in our happy world where there is no school, work, rush, etc.

 

And apparently your happy world will shortly be transplanted to your parents' home. I'm curious, of course, how they'll react. Particularly to you and your son smoking pot together. But you know, that bothers me far less than the fact that neither of you are particularly motivated to do much of anything else.

 

Both of you need to find a job. Any job.

[Art_Critic]

And apparently your happy world will shortly be transplanted to your parents' home. I'm curious, of course, how they'll react. Particularly to you and your son smoking pot together. But you know, that bothers me far less than the fact that neither of you are particularly motivated to do much of anything else.

 

Both of you need to find a job. Any job.

 

Yeah. it is in the Cards...

 

Ariadne, how was getting your son hooked on weed a smart move ?

[Lizzie60]

.. now you leave.. WTF ?.. you have been her second biggest supporter...

 

Up until now..

[Ariadne]

This is a huge problem in life and now your son's.

 

I don't know. My son is completely fascinated with the weed, because he started reading tons of literature for legalization.

 

So now he believes that it's good, that everyone should smoke it, that is the only real medicine, that you can save the world with weed etc.

 

And apparently your happy world will shortly be transplanted to your parents' home.

bothers me far less than the fact that neither of you are particularly motivated to do much of anything else.

 

Of course my mother told me that we are not welcome there with drugs.

 

(I told her we have plants at home now, and she is very uneasy about that and said she wouldn't visit us).

 

And we don't want to do anything. Really.

 

Ariadne, how was getting your son hooked on weed a smart move ?

 

I wasn't happy about it, but I noticed he was getting way too curious and wanted to try.

 

I couldn't forbid him, since I had it with me, and it started from there.

[tinktronik]

I don't know. My son is completely fascinated with the weed, because he started reading tons of literature for legalization.

 

So now he believes that it's good, that everyone should smoke it, that is the only real medicine, that you can save the world with weed etc.

 

 

 

Of course my mother told me that we are not welcome there with drugs.

 

(I told her we have plants at home now, and she is very uneasy about that and said she wouldn't visit us).

 

And we don't want to do anything. Really.

 

 

 

I wasn't happy about it, but I noticed he was getting way too curious and wanted to try.

 

I couldn't forbid him, since I had it with me, and it started from there.

I have no words.

 

A, do you feel like an adult? Do you? This is a serious question. Please don't take it the wrong way. Is it possible that you just got stuck in your teens somewhere?

[Ariadne]

A, do you feel like an adult? Do you? This is a serious question. Please don't take it the wrong way. Is it possible that you just got stuck in your teens somewhere?

 

This is a funny question.

 

No, I never do.

 

Sometimes I wonder, I'm older than this girl, aren't I? Because I feel like I'm surrounded by adults that are younger than me.

[tinktronik]

This is a funny question.

 

No, I never do.

 

Sometimes I wonder, I'm older than this girl, aren't I? Because I feel like I'm surrounded by adults that are younger than me.

 

The possibility that you got stuck somewhere in your teens emotionally makes a lot of sense and explains some things. It explains the obsession with DG and why you feel you can't tell your son how to behave like an adult or why you have trouble staying on track yourself. A, I'm going to think some more on this. And really try to structure better what I'm trying to say.

[NopeNah]

This is either "trolling" or just plain insanity! I too have my medical card so, nothing from me on that. but, I ALSO have a job and don't want to nor do I live with my parents. You two thought about setting up shop and peddling that smoke? You could be like the show "weeds"..haha!and Now ALL her supporters are running for the hills also..this threads full of CRAZY!!!

[xpaperxcutx]

I honestly cannot believe this thread is still alive.

 

A, aside from obsessing about DG and smoking weed with your son, what else have you done to positively advance your situation? I'm saddened to hear that you're still stuck in limbo and even distressing to know that your son has fallen into the same habits as you. I'm not going to question your motherly skills, since most mother try to do the best they can to provide and raise their children, but seeing as you're dragging your own son down, I think it's important for you to realize that if you do not get yourself in order, you might doom not only you but your son as well on a terrible path.