Should've seen it coming

[BklynGuy]

I was with someone for 4 1/2 years. I shouldv'e seen the future coming! Her parents didn't like me from day one b/c I'm black. 85% of the time, she would see me at night. There were certain places she wouldn't go with me. I always had to fight her for something more. EVERYONE warned me about her! My mother said I should drop her, friends told me stories, the porno kind from her past. When we met I was 19. She told me she'd kissed 21 guys already. There were little signs here and there that something wasn't right. I treated her well, and we had our ups and downs. She didn't stand by me the way I wanted her to ever!

 

Her family and friends always came first, and I mean WAY first. They were always 1 - 10 and I was 11 or 12. I should've been 1 or 2 sometimes. One of her friends called me ni**er once, and she said nothing! I asked her not to speak to someone, and she became even closer to that person. She basically treated me like sh*t for a long time and I was so blind to the facts! Then, I had a female friend and she thought I was cheating. I wasn't but it looked like I was. I told her I wasn't and she said she believed me. LIES! She then got another guy and strung me along for 15 months until I said what was going on. Then she says "Maybe we shouldn't be together." and used the same excuse to break up w/me this year as she did last year. It hurts so badly cuz she's all I knew. I even turned on friends for her when they dissed her! What did she do? Conspire with these same "friends" of mine behind my back. I can't believe what a fool she played me for! She put her other relationship in my face!

 

I admit I made mistakes, but GEEZ! I NEVER cheated and I wish I could've made her believe me! She's an insecure person cuz she's obese. I thought I knew her, but I had no idea who she truly was. Love is so blind. I am not going to treat the next one as well as I treated her! She schemed on me and meant to hurt me!! I can't believe there are people like this in the world and that I actually loved one of them. I feel like such an idiot! It's a wonder it lasted this long! She took trips out of town with the other guy. ARRRGGHH! It makes me so mad to think about it. It's been 5 weeks since she dumped me but it still hurts. Guys, you have to watch these women!

[Tony T]

Somebody posted almost an identical post like this a few weeks ago.

 

After reading this, YOU have to take 100 percent responsibility for what happened to you. This lady abused the hell out of you and treated you like total crap yet you just hung around. Don't feel alone...this happens a lot. But it has nothing to do with love being blind. It has to do with rock bottom self esteem. When you start feeling better about yourself, when you start feeling you deserve love and a good quality of it with someone who adores you, then that's what will happen in your life. But as long as you feel like you're a piece of crap, that's the kind of ladies you will attract.

 

First of all, go out and celebrate that you are rid of this mess you were in. Then get some books or seek counselling for your self esteem and ONLY hang with friends and ladies who help make you feel good about yourself.

[quankanne]

yeah, you've definitely got to keep your eye out for the sharks like your ex, be they male or female. But, as the lyrics of one country song go, don't let some hell-bent heart leave you bitter ...

 

don't let your heart close up when it comes to loving someone, because when you do, you not only cheat the person seeking your love, you cheat yourself of something good. don't look at this as a complete wash because you've had to learn the hard way, but find the good in it, like how your built in sh*t-detector will help you thin out the herd and steer you away from women like your ex (or so we hope).

 

remember, the jackasses of life don't *really* win unless you let them, so go out and enjoy meeting girls with good intentions, there are a lot of them out there waiting to be found and appreciated.

 

quank

[Oxydol]

Tony said it best, but I do want to add one more thing....

 

Be glad you are rid of the bytch. She's pure poison.

 

When you really care about someone, common sense goes out the window. You are not the only one that has experienced that. The world is full of demonic people and your ex-gf was one of them. But, don't paint all women with the same brush.

 

BTW....It never fails to disgust me to be reminded that there are still those out there who use the "n" word.

[quankanne]

It never fails to disgust me to be reminded that there are still those out there who use the "n" word

 

yeah, that one gets me, too. But then I figure that there's something about their genetic wiring about needing to make fools of themselves by showing just how ignorant they are when they stoop to that level!