Tips on how to make her come back

[scold2886]

Well i been thru alot with my ex over the last 4 years. We had a bad break up and for awhile when we talked it was not good. We been broken up for 4 months now. There was a 2 weeks we dident talk at all and then she called me and started to act like she use to towards me. So she hinted around that she wanted to work things out with me but i think i jumped the gun a little bit. So we talk only when she calls. Anytime i call she wont pick up. So at this point how can i get her to come back and leave her loser boyfriend she has now. Please give me some good tips. thanks

[nopainnogain]

Please give me some good tips. thanks

 

Best thing to do as not a damn thing towards her. Focus on your life. Stack money, fill your dome with knowledge, exercise more, go out with other girls. But dont do all this to get her back, do this to show that you are a man and dont need no bi%hes to make you happy.

[ioncebelieved]

Best thing to do as not a damn thing towards her. Focus on your life. Stack money, fill your dome with knowledge, exercise more, go out with other girls. But dont do all this to get her back, do this to show that you are a man and dont need no bi%hes to make you happy.

 

What he said!!!!

 

There comes a point where there is really nothing you can do except what Nopain said! Sounds like you are at that point.

 

Live for you! By the time you have worked on you and if she does come back, she will see a different man! A new and improved one. If she does not come back you will be so tight and right, it will not matter.

 

I am exactly where you are now. I had to move on and realize that I AM A GREAT GUY AND IT WILL BE HER LOSS. In your and my situation if they do eventually come around again, we will prepared and have ultimate control.

 

WORK ON YOU!!! USE YOUR TIME WISELY and accept she may never come back, but if she does, what a surprise. It is a win win situation since if she does not come back you will be ready for Ms. Right when she pops in instead of your ex.

[Karma101]

You can't "make" her come back. And honestly, why would you want to? Wouldn't you rather she come back willingly because she truly misses you and wants to continue in a relationship with you? She has to come to that decision on her own. Someone posted a clip here recently from the movie "Swingers" that said you can't do anything to make your X come back to you. You can only do things to make them NOT come back to you.

[0hpenelope]

Step 1: let her go.

Step 2: live your life sincerely believing she's never coming back.

 

Two things may happen:

 

Option 1: she comes back and by then, you're so okay that you actually decide for yourself that you don't want her back.

Option 2: she comes back and you try again.

Option 3: she doesn't come back, but you're okay anyway - because you've recovered from your heartbreak.

 

Let go and let grow.

[CaliGuy]

Rule of thumb: The person who cares the least about the relationship has the most power over it.

 

Follow OP's 2 step process.

[BackonTrack]

Rule of thumb: The person who cares the least about the relationship has the most power over it.

 

Follow OP's 2 step process.

 

Thats very good advice.

Do nothing, 100% nothing.

When she calls do not pick up.

When she texts, do not respond.

 

Keep doing this, eventually she will wonder what your up too.

Just go COLD TURKEY.

 

Two things will happen

1) She will eventually start to miss you and get worried about you and wonder what happen to you, then come looking for you.

2) She'll do nothing and if this happens, she no longer cares and won't come back until the new relationship messes up.

 

At this point, your on the side-lines in her mind, she still sees you there cheering her on, so she hasn't lost you. She benched you. Best to quit the team and join another who will let you play.

 

4 years is a long time, allot of memories, no way in hell some new guy is going to come wipe that out. Go NC, she'll miss her OLD life unless she doesn't love you anymore, then your ****ed.