Perplexed4sure Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 I want some advice please. I am engaged to be married next feb 14, ,my fiance wont give me his home address. I have tried asking for it and he keeps beating around the bush making excuses.the last time I was in town he gave me a fake address and i had drove 2000 miles to see him! I am beginning to think there is something funny going on and also he never answers his cell phone. the only way we get in touch with each other is yahoo im. and everytime i ask about his living arrangements its always a dif story, from renting a room to now sleeping on someones couch? yeah right. someone please tell me if I am going to make a big mistake by marrying this guy? I live in WA state and he lives in MO. He has even asked me what kind of ring I want for an engagement ring and what size I wore etc. also i thought we had talked about him moving into my place after were married and i thought that was all settled and today he says someone told him about a house that has a shop (he wants to start his own business repairing motorcycles) in the back of it and when I said i thought you were moving out here with me? he said you still want to stay out there and i said yes and he said well we will work it out. and then disappeared fior the rest of tonight. what should i do? Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 Look up the word 'Bygamist' and then drop him like a hot brick. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 I agree this guy's leading a double-life. It's one thing if you've never met and they're being cautious, another thing when you've met and are discussing marriage. I would do some serious research on this guy before proceeding any further. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 I am beginning to think there is something funny going on... There is. what should i do? Dump him. Link to post Share on other sites
westrock Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 my fiance wont give me his home address. Big Red flag. Tell him that marriage is all about communication and honesty and that you refuse to continue any more until he starts being straight up with you about everything with no excuses. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 Oh, one thing I forgot to mention. If he tries to solicit money from you to buy this house/shop for the "two of you", just say NO! Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 someone please tell me if I am going to make a big mistake by marrying this guy? You are making a BIG mistake by marrying this guy. In my opinion...and I think in yours, too, yes? Sorry - this situation sucks for you. But maybe a good thing is that you don't also have to agonize over your decision to dump him...you'll just need to deal with the disappointment and the pain. (((hugs))) Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted September 28, 2008 Share Posted September 28, 2008 I want some advice please. I am engaged to be married next feb 14, ,my fiance wont give me his home address. I have tried asking for it and he keeps beating around the bush making excuses.the last time I was in town he gave me a fake address and i had drove 2000 miles to see him! I am beginning to think there is something funny going on and also he never answers his cell phone. the only way we get in touch with each other is yahoo im. and everytime i ask about his living arrangements its always a dif story, from renting a room to now sleeping on someones couch?? He probably does not have steady living arrangements. What does he currently do for a living? yeah right. someone please tell me if I am going to make a big mistake by marrying this guy? I live in WA state and he lives in MO. He has even asked me what kind of ring I want for an engagement ring and what size I wore etc. also i thought we had talked about him moving into my place after were married and i thought that was all settled and today he says someone told him about a house that has a shop (he wants to start his own business repairing motorcycles) in the back of it and when I said i thought you were moving out here with me? he said you still want to stay out there and i said yes and he said well we will work it out. and then disappeared fior the rest of tonight. what should i do? Apparently he is interested in marrying you if he's asking about a ring If you're going to live together, you need to discuss how he can support the both of you (or if you're going to find work in his area), you should also take pre-marital classes - I think it would be a good thing to see how the two of you can potentially flourish in your relationship, where you might have problems and how to deal with them. Sounds like you guys are young - no need to rush into marriage - there are resources out there available for you guys to make this work - take advantage of them and be good to one another! Link to post Share on other sites
cn283 Posted September 29, 2008 Share Posted September 29, 2008 get out now. if you've got second thoughts they're probably spot on. Link to post Share on other sites
GPFan Posted September 29, 2008 Share Posted September 29, 2008 I want some advice please. I am engaged to be married next feb 14, ,my fiance wont give me his home address. I have tried asking for it and he keeps beating around the bush making excuses.the last time I was in town he gave me a fake address and i had drove 2000 miles to see him! I am beginning to think there is something funny going on and also he never answers his cell phone. the only way we get in touch with each other is yahoo im. and everytime i ask about his living arrangements its always a dif story, from renting a room to now sleeping on someones couch? yeah right. someone please tell me if I am going to make a big mistake by marrying this guy? I live in WA state and he lives in MO. He has even asked me what kind of ring I want for an engagement ring and what size I wore etc. also i thought we had talked about him moving into my place after were married and i thought that was all settled and today he says someone told him about a house that has a shop (he wants to start his own business repairing motorcycles) in the back of it and when I said i thought you were moving out here with me? he said you still want to stay out there and i said yes and he said well we will work it out. and then disappeared fior the rest of tonight. what should i do?How well do you know him? It doesn't sound that you know him too well. It would be a very big mistake to marry someone who won't allow you to get to know him. He may be married or living the life of a transient, either way you don't want to tie your fate to his. I agree that no money should exchange hands -- absolutely not. It would be asking to be swindled. Remember: Watch his actions and discount his words. You will have your answer. Link to post Share on other sites
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