Blade201 Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 im an 18 year old male virgin that has a problem. over the past like 8 years ive gotten many girls as friends not "girlfriends". we would always have fun over the years, but when i asked my first one about taking our friendship/relationship to the next level i get the "i just wanna be friends convo". girl after girl its the samething, because of this ive lost so much self respect and confidence of myself that i dont even know what to do anymore. ive never even kissed a girl before. i cant start convo's anymore with a girl. even if they are stuck in the ruts of a relationship and come to me for help, i cant help. what is my problem loveshack?
Green Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 First off Don't worry about it secondly getting your first kiss will be easy just do it... I mean the worst that can happen is a slap (most girls won't punch) and then you can rub your face with a smile. Heres what you do, the next time you get the urge to have some lame "I like you will you be my gf" conversation just act like you have a secret you want to wisper and then kiss her right on the lips... then say that was nice I have to that again and try to make out... at a minimum you will have your first kiss they won't see it comming and most girls your age don't have the balls to reject a guy so you'll probably get the make out too
ed-205 Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Nothing mentally emasculates you like the "Special Friend" schtick. Maybe you aren't asking them fast enough. When you meet a girl you like, try to make it known to her from the start that you want more than friendship from her, the worst she can say is "no", and *anything* she says that doesn't translate to a definite "yes" means "NO!". Be her friend if you want, but if she becomes too dependent on you to be her gf w/dick, tell her to buy a dog, and move on with your life before she becomes an emotional parasite. BTW, I didn't get my first *real* kiss until I was 20, and 30 years later I can still remember how it nearly floored me! Be patient, it's definitely worth the wait!
Geishawhelk Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Hang on.... you're 18 now, and you've been trying to date for the past 8 years.... since you were 10 - ?! Let's be frank here - 6 of those years you were under-age anyway, and legally speaking, the last two were kind of in limbo.... And you're still a virgin - Well thank goodness for that! No reason yet why you shouldn't be! So let's be a little realistic. You have actually only recently come of age, and become a legal adult..... I just think you need to forget the past 8 years, and build yourself some character, self-esteem, confidence and attitude, In a good way. I know it sounds glib, but try not to worry. Be natural, friendly and don't look at every girl as potential bed-fodder. I realise it's tempting, but girls - even some of the young ones - can usually spot that a mile off. And it's a big turn-off, if you come on so strong that they can see testosterone dripping off your tongue, like some eager puppy.....
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