quikbroom Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 Ok i havent been havin too much luck findin a mate. The thing is i always fall for chicks that i know i have no shot with. Its so frustrating. Link to post Share on other sites
superd Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 Maybe you should lower your standards a bit and you will find true happiness. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 why don't you lower your standards? Link to post Share on other sites
Isolde Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 Guys, it's more complex than just lowering his standards... I'm sure he's already tried that route. Do you honestly think he should lead on some girl and pretend to himself that he likes her even if in his heart he doesn't? OP, I'd encourage you not to think about dating in terms of leagues, but in terms of chemistry. You can theoretically have chemistry with anyone, but you WILL widen your range if you're willing to date women who might not be as cute, smart, or rich as you want. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 OP, work on yourself to send out the signals which attract compatible women to YOU. Your issue is you're working completely outside yourself, seeking outwardly. Look inward and you will find your answer Link to post Share on other sites
Konfuzion Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 Just get some damn confidence. If you approach them with the attitude of "I have no shot" guess what your gonna get.... Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 Just get some damn confidence. If you approach them with the attitude of "I have no shot" guess what your gonna get.... mmm, I'm guessing "no shot?" lol. And you're right. I have met interesting guys before that have immediately turned me off by disclosing or hinting that they think they have no shot. The worst is on a dating site... the messages that say "I know I have no shot but.... You probably won't respond but.... " I don't even read further after reading those words. It IS about owning your confidence. If you approach the dating process this way... girls will sense it, and they won't be drawn to it. Not that they won't be drawn to YOU... but they definetely won't be drawn to that lack of confidence. People with unique and outgoing personalities ARE attractive. My best friend since I was 5- the most popular girl in school- smart, gorgeous, funny.... she married a man with a deformity. He's 5'2 (she's 5'7)... he has one leg 3 inches shorter than the other, and he has one arm that is a stump. A birth defect... Let me tell you, if you met this guy, you'd want to be his friend instantly. He's charming, charismatic, and has never accepted defeat in his disability.... It's not in fact a disibility in his eyes- or in the eyes of others that meet him. He's one of the most confident guys I have ever met. The trick is- finding that confidence. Link to post Share on other sites
Konfuzion Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 The trick is- finding that confidence. Or just fake it till you make it. Keep repeating in your head positive things about yourself, and don't think negative things about yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
joshaz Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and gosh darn it, people like me. Link to post Share on other sites
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