Al_Bundy Posted October 6, 2008 Share Posted October 6, 2008 More often than not I've heard many above-average people talking about how lonely they are and it has me thinking: Why are above-average people often so lonely? I'm not talking about just good-looking and completely vapid Paris Hilton Wanna-Bes. I'm talking about good looking people who are very polite, kind to others, have goals for their lives, are educated and interesting people. Why is it they are always seem to be so lonely? Why is it they always seem to have the most problems getting a serious relationship or anyone interested? Why do people often blow them off when they try to talk to them? What is it about them that makes general society seem to shun them? Could be about the low self esteem of the people that would be potential companions. i.e. a guy might think that he doesn't want someone really good looking because other guys will find her attractive anyway and it would be a matter of time before she better-deals him. like the old saying, if you hook up with someone ugly, you don't have too much worry that they will leave you, and on the off chance they do, you won't care. Or it could be the other side of the coin. Maybe the people that think they are really attractive are too picky. i.e. a guy like Matthew McConaughey is a good looking buy, but if he doesn't look like Brad Pitt, then it may be below her standards. (no, I'm not picking on women here...same goes for men) Link to post Share on other sites
Al_Bundy Posted October 6, 2008 Share Posted October 6, 2008 Because they are scared that they're only valued for their looks, and people don't see beyond skin-deep. As an ugly person myself, if somebody tells me that I rock their world, I know they're seeing the real me (unless they have some strange fetish for huge noses, and buck teeth). Even if you are beautiful, there is somebody who is more. It's an insecurity thing. To top it all off, beauty fades with time. Sometimes it takes a lot of time, but the law of gravity eventually prevails. Or it could be a conceited thing. There are alot of people turned off by people who are obviously into themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
pretty professional Posted October 7, 2008 Share Posted October 7, 2008 I'm not sure if I buy it. The prettiest girls in high school are almost always the most popular, with friends flocking around them. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted October 7, 2008 Share Posted October 7, 2008 I know it may sound conceited to say that a good-looking person has problems with loneliness or having real friends but I think it does hold true to some extent. Also imagine a billionaire..it's a similar concept. Is someone attracted to him because of his money and success or is it genuine because the kind of person he is and how his personality shines? I think the general argument is good looking people are a magnet to people because of their looks. Their looks might come first, then the rest of their other qualities...or it might not be the cause at all and none of their other qualities are looked at and only their looks. Still I have to say though, most good looking people I know are either loners in some kind of way or distant themselves for some reason. Link to post Share on other sites
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