notgoodatthis Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 Hi, I met a girl (age 30) recently and we get along great but there are a few things about her that concern me. She was molested by her father when she was a child and her father went on trial for molesting her sister. Also, her mom is only 14 years older than her. Another thing, I have heard that she cheated on her last boyfriend who I hear was a really nice guy. I'm wondering what to think because I have really fallen for this girl. What do you make of this situation? Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 I met that woman. She married the guy that wooed her away from husband of two months. Got dumped herself some five years later. She will take whatever she finds as happiness at a given moment. I feel sorry for her. No ways would I marry her. Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 With all the problems facing marriage these days, both internal and external I'm pretty sure I wouldn't take on the responsibility for this profoundly wounded woman. Yes, it's sad. I just don't have the energy. The need to "save" someone is big in all of us. The truth is that in the end, they must save themselves. My advice? Point her toward counseling, and bow out gracefully. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 1, 2008 Share Posted October 1, 2008 This girl has ALOT of emotional baggage and years worth of therapy to help her cope and deal with all that's gone on in her life. It all depends on how much you love her and your reasons as to WHY you really want to pursue a relationship with her. Is it that you DO truly love her, think she'd be a good partner for you, be loving, giving, honest, trustworthy? Or do you feel the need to rescue her, be the 'one' she can rely on... If you think she's worth it, take a chance, but just know until she is actually 'ready' to have a healthy and mature relationship with you, she has to find herself first. From what you've said, it seems like she's not there yet.. And she could not only break your heart, but mess you up too with all the stuff that's going on in her life right now too. Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 Hi, I met a girl (age 30) recently and we get along great but there are a few things about her that concern me. She was molested by her father when she was a child and her father went on trial for molesting her sister. Also, her mom is only 14 years older than her. Another thing, I have heard that she cheated on her last boyfriend who I hear was a really nice guy. I'm wondering what to think because I have really fallen for this girl. What do you make of this situation? Sounds like a waste of your time. Women like this just don't change or heal. Link to post Share on other sites
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