Author mytruelove Posted October 10, 2008 Author Share Posted October 10, 2008 torranceshipman - some great thoughts and advice here -thanks!!! first i'll have to remind that he is not married - he just has a live in girlfriend, so a little differenct dynamics. "he does NOT deserve the help anymore!! I think the only conflict here is between your emotions and your usual common sense-this guy needs to be dropped on his butt!!" - thanks, your right, and that relieves me from feeling guilty because, hey, i tried to help, reconsidered and decided that i should stay out of it - period -right? yeah, at this point, i don't see that i have a whole lot to lose by harshly dropping him for a while...and possibly A LOT to gain. it just might be the wake up call he needs and if not, then like you said...i have my answer about his true feelings. i know i have to be harder on him...or at least...harder to get i'm definitely keeping more distance, so... thanks torrance...you rock! Link to post Share on other sites
Author mytruelove Posted October 10, 2008 Author Share Posted October 10, 2008 i think the "space" thing is working here because he seemed much meeker and eager to please today. i was proud of myself for not showing up last week when he wanted me to and explaining today that it was because i didn't want any more "pretending" - i'd rather stay away. he said he knew that and that he had to take care of the stuff so- said he would be "around" this weekend. he can call me if he wants to see me. i'm going to go about my business and try to forget that he is "around". Link to post Share on other sites
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